I found out she had sex with another guy and confronted her. She cried and said she was sorry and said she was devastated that she hurt me. We worked on it for four months, during which time I said that I wanted all the facts. Everything. Don't hold back. I needed the truth to move on from the lies. I told her that it wasn't so much the actual sex that ate away at me. It was the lies and cover ups that shattered my trust. She said she would do that and anything else I needed. Well, she had said she only hooked up with him three times and that it was mostly just companionship while I was long distance. (Smh at how stupid I was.) Then I found out that it was a four month affair. Sleepovers multiple times a week. Dates and picnics. PDAs. Going to the gym. Going to his baseball games. Cooking together. Playing house. And unprotected sex with him while she was having unprotected sex with me. All her friends knew. And the ultimate infidelity is that she really was grooming him to be her boyfriend without ever telling him she was dating me. She lied to both of us.
That's when I realized that she was never was truly sorry for doing something wrong. Because she didn't see it as wrong. Just exploring her options. She was only sorry she got caught.
But, like an idiot, I tried for another four months. I was blinded by love and lust and the connection we had. Finally I just realized that, even though I loved so much about her, she was not the one for me. Trust is absolutely the foundational requirement for a healthy relationship. Without it, there is nothing.
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You can't stay EVER. You will never ever forgive that person for such a betrayal so why suffer for the rest of your life?
If people do stay then their standards are way OUT OF WHACK.
I don't know if this counts but I'm in the army and my husband is air force. We are regularly deployed and don't see each other for long periods of time. During these times we keep our relationship open so that we can have sex (only sex) with someone else while the other is away. I've always waited while my husband tends to hook up with someone maybe once every 1-2 months. We've never had any problems because we are open and honest and I do believe that if/when I decide to sleep with someone while he's deployed it will not effect our relationship
I donāt think I would do that, once the trust is broken, is really hard to fix it.
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Gotta define Cheating first (ugh... fucking people, sex is not the only way to cheat, cheating starts way before someone fucks another)
NO i dont stay with someone who cheats/cheated on me... but i HAVE stayed with a couple people who Fucked someone else while being with me. It only happens once (cuz i learn)... Different situations... and for both, i had different restitutions... but they did fuck someone else so i just took an "anything goes" pass.
For the the most part... if someone who claims to be your partner, did something with someone else that wasn't you... without your knowledge... Check Yourself First. because its highly likely YOU did something that drove them to another person.
Women dont seem to get that... always believe they dont do nothing wrong... and men... are sometimes too dumb to see it.
I dont sympathize with any side... when i got "cheated" on... i realized (and admitted) that i was the one who fucked up. She liked a lot of attention, she wasn't getting it, she got it elsewhere... same shit i would have done. so why blame her?
So look at your own self first because if my theory is right, i believe YOU cheated First.Yeah i did..
I was at work, he was supposed to pick me up, he didn't show so i called and i guess my son answered the phone without knowing. I heard a girls voice and a baby which i didn't have cuz my kids were toddlers. I got a ride, rush home n noone was there. House was spotless which was werid cuz he usually didn't clean tht good. He basically lied but i found the girls stuff in my car, i forgave him cuz we had a little family but it took a while but he cheated again.
I definitely moved past it and him.No my ex cheated on me and she became nothing to me , but i know people that have stayed together after 1 cheated and it's very rare that that it lasts cuz the cheater eventually cheats again or the non cheater ends up cheating so it's a. waste of. time the. trust is broken so why try to fix something that was already destroyed it Will never be the same. If someone loves you they won't. cheat on you , so by them cheating. already shows they dont love you. Find someone that Will love ypu and. be. faithful to. you. Life is too short. to waste your time on someone that is selfish
Yes, I have. Worst mistake ever but I've now learnt from it.
My first boyfriend cheated on me several times. At the time I never saw it as cheating because I was young and clueless. Now I will say it was cheating. He emotionally and physically cheated on me. I stay with him for 2 years after that. I'm glad I left because those 2 years were really hard for me. I had a feeling he was seeing other women but I brushed it off. When it all came out in the end, I was broken. I'm glad I realised I had to leave and that I left when I did. It's so toxic to stay with someone who cheats. I thought he'd get over it and we'd work hard on our relationship. We did or so I thought. Just more lies and sugarcoating from him.I had that happen three times to me. Two relationships and a marriage all cheated on me.
Had a wife wanted nothing but money from me and another bloke behind my back.
A girlfriend I had got pregnant to a bloke behind my back. Then I had another girlfriend and she couldnāt get rid off her ex boyfriend who kept at it to get her away from me. She did and now she told him to get lost from his mind games to her she finally recontacted me and we restated our relationship and things going well now. But her ex is still trying to convince her but she said no to his mind games. Iām so proud of her.No I havenāt. Sounds harsh, but I only give one chance. Leave, and itās over.
I donāt play the emotional credit car game of ājust this once.ā The leave and come back, leave and come back thing. Iāve seen what that can do to people. She leaves, itās over.
Is it hard? Hell yea it is. But, in the long run, itās always worked out for the best, for both of us.Nope... Once they did they lost all credibility with me... That was as soon as i found out, which had they been honest about it though instead of lying, i would have been willing to work through and as long as they never repeated what they did and if they were genuine about a future
Well I was with the girl 16 years she cheated on me from day one.
Hind sight kills. She was a huge slut.
didn't know it untell she openly cheated on me. I tried to make things work but she never loved me. She took my virginity and she raped me.
I was stupid thinking she cared.I've stayed through good and bad, but cheating is my limit. I've never been cheated on, since I'd say that I know how to choose my partner, but if that ever happened, I'd leave right away.
If I'm betrayed once, I never trust that person again.If your married and have kids its kind of hard to leave and get away if your male. It took me 3 years to realise , in that time I lost my job my house because I couldnt concentrate and make good desiscions and then i had to leave which meant leaving my kids too. Its very difficult and unfare place to be. So yes i stayed 3 years before i woke up and left
Yuppers, and honestly it's because we're young.
I dumped her 3 months after though because I felt like I could've been doing some better things without her, and I was getting swayed by other girls left and right on twitter after they learned that she cheated on me.
One of her friends actually messaged me in a heartbeat to "talk" to me, like she knew it was going to happen.
Kinda weird ain't it? They wanna be friends after they rip your heart out.I stayed the first time, forgave to the best of my abilities, when it happened again, I had no desire to stay. It took a few months and I just felt nothing for him, it didn't matter that we were married for 13 years; I was done. So is it possible to forgive a cheater, sure, but don't be surprised if it happens again.
Yeah, cause I didnāt know what was good for me. Cheating is a hard subject to add suggestions on. Thatās best left to the couples. But after my experience, I would never stay with that person again
A girl im in to, is currently engaged. She flited MAJORLY, and didn't even tell me she was engaged OR even had a boyfriend. I had to find out from her friend that she was even engaged. it was confirmed when she accepted my instagram request. Go figure. A girl, thinking she can flirt. HA!
Was cheated on one time when I was 20. The thought of giving her another chance never crossed my mind.
Happened to me twice, two relationships in a row. Unfortunately I allowed it to take me down instead of doing the smart thing and moving on. Years of my life gone feeling like a victim. What a waste.
You need to move on now. And after engine cools pop the hood and try to understand how and why you ended up with this person. Poor life choices tend to be repeated, unless you call it out and actively make a change.Kinda my other half was messaging another girl on holiday and she was in same place as us same dates I nagged and we had a fight about it can remeber it so well he is trying like last year or so to show me he has changed but I will never accept just friends when my other half talks to other girls as I donāt believe in that x
Nope cause seen in front of me what happen when you take them back theyāll do it again even when caught cause they think you take them back again. My aunt did to her husband all the time he keep taking her back.
No, I would never. The lack of respect needed to perform such a miserable act should always be condemned and punished.
Yes I did, but itās because I didnāt know she cheated until 1 year after we broke up.
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