It depends on how people get along. Nothing to do with age. I know people have 20 year age gaps and get along great and you’re talking about a 2 year age gap? Oh sweetie... lol
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age is not big deal. so many guys are dating with older women instead younger women than them in these days.. and nothing to be shocked. 🤷
Hmm nah i don't think it's that of an issue if it's that of a small gap. I am dating a 21 yo girl too.
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No; I like old women and young women. Old women have this beauty in them that a young women sometimes lacks, and young women may have qualities that an old women may not have. (Not just body I mean personality too)
For example - no sex, no kisses, no inappropriate touching for a while, etc. She was the one who started it and people and friends told me I would have done wrong in turning her down, so I have to at least try it.
It's not that I see it as a punishment, it's just that I'm not sure it's appropriate and have my honest doubts. I like her so I can't outright say "no", but things will take time if she's willing to let me recover from my problems. Otherwise, she's free to walk away.
You should be single. I don't see what benefit the kind of relationship you have has. It's really a terrible starting point if you seriously like her. You could just wait a few months and then if you're interested, start there.
I think that the no sex and no kiss rules would actually make the relationship more transparent and show if she's trustworthy or just wants to hurt me.
Go into a relationship when you are mentally ready. If she isn't available then, there's plenty of options. I suspect you will probably not even like that girl once your brain is past the grief and lonely feeling. I mean you may like her in some ways but I doubt she's going to be the one you really want.
Maybe but I see the no kiss and no sexual as awkward and it may be difficult to get past that set of rules mentally and into something normal. Weirdness from that will probably linger.
By the way, women will tend to want to hurt you when they feel like you hurt them. You could have had no intent on hurting them but if they feel hurt though, often want to hurt you back. If you want people that aren't that way, and you're looking for a rare birds.
@cavmanier To be honest I just wanted to be on my own, but since two weeks ago she started crying when I told her to leave me alone and mind her business, I decided I couldn't be that harsh on her. She's making me smoke less and eat healthier after all, and even if she's dragging me to them the activities she proposes are enjoyable after all. As long as we keep the appropriate distances, I think it can go well.
@cavmanier She didn't want to date me during my relationship. We have been friends for years and she never really liked my girlfriend, but we always got along well. She started to get closer again now, and I appreciate she's trying to help me out.
She's liked you for awhile. it makes even more sense to wait a while until you're ready to see if she actually want to date her. She's probably worried that you won't like her than though or you'll be with somebody else.
I don't really care about what she wants to do - if she wants to help me, good. If she doesn't or wants to harm me, I'll cut her out my life and be on my own. That's why I'm taking very small steps and keeping caution.
@cavmanier Maybe I'm being a bit of a bastard, but that's her own problem. I'm dealing with a break up, stress at work and health problems, it's enough as it is. I can't worry for that too.
@cavmanier She helped me fixing my computer, keeping my documents and paperwork in order, clean up my new apartment and dealing with some health issues.
My point is, be with someone you really want to be with and not with someone because they like you and give you entertainment. It's hard to have the right state of mind to determine that after a break up (where you mind is wacky).
No, i dated when I was 24 a women that was 33, she learned me a lot if you know what I mean , we broke up because she wanted kids and I that age I didn't...
My opinion is that u need a woman not girl who doesn't know what she wants or a bad girl that plays with oth peoples emotions.. which are 85% of girld 15-28.. I think its better if she's older.. a bit
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in my opinion it doesn't matter what age they are I've dated people younger and older and much older and none worked out so far i hope this one does
It's been 28 years, since I have dated a woman older than me. Older women tend to have more baggage and emotional damage.
It depends on how people get along. Nothing to do with age. I know people have 20 year age gaps and get along great and you’re talking about a 2 year age gap? Oh sweetie... lol
age is not big deal. so many guys are dating with older women instead younger women than them in these days.. and nothing to be shocked. 🤷
I don’t date old guys. I’ve rejected them outright.
Hmm nah i don't think it's that of an issue if it's that of a small gap. I am dating a 21 yo girl too.
No; I like old women and young women. Old women have this beauty in them that a young women sometimes lacks, and young women may have qualities that an old women may not have. (Not just body I mean personality too)
I would say no, because not every guy wants that and compatibility is ultimately the most important issue.
Wasn’t it like 2 weeks ago you were all like. I’m never gonna date women again. Wtf you crazy
I'm taking things slow and with the agreement she will wait some months for some things
For example - no sex, no kisses, no inappropriate touching for a while, etc.
She was the one who started it and people and friends told me I would have done wrong in turning her down, so I have to at least try it.
You make it sound like punishment. You actually don’t have to try it or anything else.
It's not that I see it as a punishment, it's just that I'm not sure it's appropriate and have my honest doubts.
I like her so I can't outright say "no", but things will take time if she's willing to let me recover from my problems. Otherwise, she's free to walk away.
You should be single. I don't see what benefit the kind of relationship you have has. It's really a terrible starting point if you seriously like her. You could just wait a few months and then if you're interested, start there.
@cavmanier What do you mean?
I think that the no sex and no kiss rules would actually make the relationship more transparent and show if she's trustworthy or just wants to hurt me.
Go into a relationship when you are mentally ready. If she isn't available then, there's plenty of options. I suspect you will probably not even like that girl once your brain is past the grief and lonely feeling. I mean you may like her in some ways but I doubt she's going to be the one you really want.
Maybe but I see the no kiss and no sexual as awkward and it may be difficult to get past that set of rules mentally and into something normal. Weirdness from that will probably linger.
By the way, women will tend to want to hurt you when they feel like you hurt them. You could have had no intent on hurting them but if they feel hurt though, often want to hurt you back. If you want people that aren't that way, and you're looking for a rare birds.
@cavmanier To be honest I just wanted to be on my own, but since two weeks ago she started crying when I told her to leave me alone and mind her business, I decided I couldn't be that harsh on her.
She's making me smoke less and eat healthier after all, and even if she's dragging me to them the activities she proposes are enjoyable after all. As long as we keep the appropriate distances, I think it can go well.
So this is some girl that's been on the sidelines as a "friend" that has wanted to date you during your relationship right?
It's better to date who's right for you and not to date somebody because don't be sad if you don't.
@cavmanier She didn't want to date me during my relationship. We have been friends for years and she never really liked my girlfriend, but we always got along well. She started to get closer again now, and I appreciate she's trying to help me out.
If you believe that, you've being naive.
@cavmanier Believe what?
She's liked you for awhile. it makes even more sense to wait a while until you're ready to see if she actually want to date her. She's probably worried that you won't like her than though or you'll be with somebody else.
I don't really care about what she wants to do - if she wants to help me, good. If she doesn't or wants to harm me, I'll cut her out my life and be on my own. That's why I'm taking very small steps and keeping caution.
@cavmanier Maybe I'm being a bit of a bastard, but that's her own problem. I'm dealing with a break up, stress at work and health problems, it's enough as it is. I can't worry for that too.
What she helping you with? Not feeling lonely after the break up? I think that stuff gets better in a bit of time.
@cavmanier She helped me fixing my computer, keeping my documents and paperwork in order, clean up my new apartment and dealing with some health issues.
I'd think she can do all of that as a friend too. You don't need to be boinking her lol.
@cavmanier What does boinking mean?
Anyhow she's the one who always gets too close.
Boinking mean sex. Yeah you just need time to figure out who you want close to you.
@cavmanier I don't want any sex and I made it clear to her.
My point is, be with someone you really want to be with and not with someone because they like you and give you entertainment. It's hard to have the right state of mind to determine that after a break up (where you mind is wacky).
I like older guys, so I'd say they should. But everyone's preference is different.
No, i dated when I was 24 a women that was 33, she learned me a lot if you know what I mean , we broke up because she wanted kids and I that age I didn't...
My opinion is that u need a woman not girl who doesn't know what she wants or a bad girl that plays with oth peoples emotions.. which are 85% of girld 15-28.. I think its better if she's older.. a bit
YES im all for that , im attracted to younger women ……..
Girls want older men, because they think they're more mature
I'm 30, and I still live with my parents, so, it's not true
if they are 18 and truly love then age is just a nimber
I don’t care if they date younger girls or not because it has nothing to do with me 🤷🏽♀️
No my last ex is 24 and I don't mind dating a woman younger or older than me
Date whoever you want regardless of age
Yes , younger girls also like old guys compared to younger men
Of course, as long as the girl is shorter than the guy then it'll be fine.
Okay, try telling that to someone who stands 5 feet tall!
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oh no, my mind was CONFUZZLED BY YOUR QUESTION!!!
WHAT HAVE YOU DONE TO MY MIND?