In USA criminal records are becoming a joke. Jails have become privatized. So incarceration brings more profits for the county the jails are in. They consider jails as source of economic development of towns and employment numbers. So is Walmart. When a country reaches this state it becomes a volcano. Number of criminal records will one day reach a point where every second or third person u meet will have one. I guess don't judge the individual. Each case is unique. But system is rigged to make money of everyday people.
Depends on the charges, how long ago they were, whether it is something that indicates a character flaw, and whether I think the person has addressed the problem and become a better person a a result. I have dated a woman who had a DUI and I have dated a woman who had several arrests for prostitution. I was aware f their record when we were dating and I thought that both had changed their lives sufficiently for me to go forward with dating them.
It kind of is. My sons dad has multiple felonies and I tell people I don't know him.
My boyfriend now has been in trouble and a wild past before we met but doesn't really have a record. He was in jail for a few days for underage drinking. Nothing too bad. But he's not like that now.
@PeacefulRainDrop Mhmm. Thankfully I work at a job where I have connections (we have to run background checks on all employees before they are hired), so it's a bit easier for me, lol.
However, nowadays you can run background checks on ANYONE online! Most of them do have fees or make you pay, but there are some free ones out there as well. In addition, if you know what state they're from, you can usually go to that area's police department and they have criminal records and arrest records for people (again, this depends on your state and such). If someone's been arrested or has a warrant, it is listed to the public.
But before you do that, the first thing I always do is google them! I know, that sounds simple but sometimes simple works best: check out anything you can find about them online. Facebook, twitter, even image search them! Anything about them online I look into. Even check out their friends- a person's friends and whom they associate themselves with says a lot about them as well
@nathanp97 Hmm... I guess that would be different. I guess I would have to consider the circumstances. Obviously if he was doing drugs, stole something, or was involved in a murder? NO. But if he was fighting for someone or himself, that is different and I might look past that.
"Thankfully I work at a job where I have connections (we have to run background checks on all employees before they are hired), so it's a bit easier for me, lol."
Wait a minute, so you use your work resources to do background checks on potential dating partners? Is this sanctioned by your employer? Because I'm pretty sure that's a conflict of interest and possible misuse of company computers, which IS a computer crime. Regarding the ethics of the act in question, it's approximately on the same level as straight-up stalking; probably more invasive, actually, since you no doubt have access to a lot of their history. We might be able to add abuse of user data and privacy rights violations to that list. You can face some serious jail time for this kind of stuff.
No, it doesn't matter what your intentions are when you go to retrieve those records. It's ostensibly a data breach, if the information is being mishandled (which, in this case, is definitely happening if what you say is true).
Depends on the officer and charges. True story, I was on my way to the store. In a small area that I’ve dealt with before, cars always cut in front of you. To the point it leads to accidents.
I stopped in a 4 way intersection to make a left turn in the grocery store. Now, there’s always rude people not waiting for their turn and just go ahead causing you to wait. So, in this situation everyone was pulling out, coming towards me, and stopping.
But the question is: who’s turn is it? And who has the go ahead?
Now, this street is a dangerous road. So me and a other driver were being overly cautious. She waved giving me the go ahead. I thanked her, pulling into the store. I park in the parking lot and a officer behind me turns their lights on.
Questioning me, why I stopped in a 4 way intersection. I explained I was pulling into the store. Then, they wanted to look inside my vehicle WITHOUT MY CONSENT.
Found trash in a plastic bag I’ve been meaning to throw away in the back of the TRUNK. She found an EMPTY beer bottle and wrote me a ticket for DUI.
And they wonder why people are throwing water and things as they make arrests. They need to rid society of cops. Or charge cops when they go to far.. They ruin people on purpose..
Ifvthe person is honest and tells me up front about everything including showing me the complete Police Report and Court Record. Depending on the Crime I will be okay with it. I do Background Checks on everyone on my life. So I have all the info just waitvand see if he talks, unless he Raped someone orcAbused someone. Even Other Assaults, Murders, & Roberries I can understand a situation you did your time and changed the person you were I will give him a chance but will be cautious and he will know that. I've come to know many people in AA that commited terrible crimes due to Alcoholism and Addictions went to Prison got with AA and made a complete Spiritual Turnaround. I trust tgese people with my life. Judges and Fellow Police Officers trust these people... We don't trust anyone on their word but those who have Truly gone through AA in Prison we trust them!!!
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It entirely depends. If it's something like being caught with alcohol at under age 21 or some stupid mistake that happened when they were young several years ago and isn't anything horrible, I could look past it. If it's felony convictions, theft, drug use (not being caught smoking pot or something like that, I'm talking multiple drug charges or drug dealing), sexual assault, or anything dangerous, then it would be a dealbreaker.
Lol it might be. But if you truthfully did nothing wrong what could you honestly do about it? Lets say you did what can you honestly do about it? :D You may try and apologize however you may but at the end of the day you did something wrong potentially. You failed, it can happen, its life. There is no redeeming you're self only moving forward. You can continue to go down a dark path or you can turn to the light. Some people fantasize the whole aspect of being good their whole life only to fool people at the end of it to do something evil. That means you are probably a good person you just have irrational thoughts. You might be messed im not going to rule that out of the picture, but I truthfully think most of us are good people and our ancestors were to. Probably alcohol or drugs of some kind played a toll on us over the years leading to accidental bad parenting or whatever and things started to slip. But who says we can't change that.
I did some weed dealing a few years ago and i see everyone asking for what crime. So if u met me, above average looking gotten pretty damn good at being around women as i grew up with lots of them but in high school i sold only weed and made an absolute killing. Never got caught but very close a few times, no criminal record or scars and shit. Basically normal except for the fact that i have done illegal things in the past. what does everyonr think about it
It would depend what for, and how long ago it was. I have a guy I’m interested in at the moment, and he’s interested in me, and he told me straight up that he got caught in the wrong crowd and is trying to turn his life around. As long as they’re honest about stuff and not trying to hide that kinda stuff from you, then I don’t see a massive problem. If the stuff they did was real bad, then no, I would run a mile.
mmmm interesting. I say if you're getting into dating then it might be a turn off to that person cause they are still a stranger to you, so if you tell them or they find out then they might be a little upset and not trust you anymore.
Well that depends on if they were honest about it or not and what the criminal record was for. If it was something small and they didn't mind opening up about it when that conversation came up then sure
Many factors. What kind of record. Was it long ago, during youth. Have you moved forward in your life? If you're still living a life of crime, even if it's only selling weed, that would be disturbing. ("We're the MIllers")
REALLY depends on what the charges were and when it happened. You went through a rebellious faze and spray painted a little when you were 14? Whatever, no one got hurt. You assaulted someone a month ago? Bye
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Do people really do criminal background checks before dating someone? If you've known the person for a while and trust them, who cares if they've made mistakes in their past? Everyone has done something wrong. Most just weren't caught. Now, when the relationship starts to get serious, then the person should confide in the other about their criminal past.
Public urination? Murder? Bank Robbery? Drugs? Steal bread feed starving child? --------------------- For the most part I really don't care BC I go on how a person treats me personally not what they did in the past. I'm assuming they already paid for the crime so who am I to add "punishment" of rejection after the fact?
Firstly, it depends on the situation including their date, their moods, thier communication etc. If the conversation gets good then everyone have to show their both sides beacause in their next life everything should be clear from the very first day but it's depends on the criminal record that how much time it takes to tell to their next person.
It’ll most likely change my mind about the person in some way, but I can’t say it’s an automatic dealbreaker as I’d have to know more about the specifics of the criminal record.
Felonies are. Misdemeanors not so much. But it also depends on how long ago it was. But I’m a teacher and dating a felon would make me look really bad. It could also cost me my job so I’d never do it.
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