In a way. Most women speak "in code". You just have to decipher the code of your gal. The better you understand her code, the more you look like a mind-reader.
If you don't know, I'm NOT going to tell you!! Oh! So, I guess you'd rather suffer than tell me what the fuck it is you want so I can do it and make you happier?
i know! lol trust I've tried with several of them. I do expect them to be able to connect the dots. Im pretty clear. maybe i just dated insecure dense selfish idiots
No, but too many men expect women to be mind-readers - so (for example) when he asks her out to dinner, she's supposed to know he means having sex afterwards (and gets mad when she doesn't have sex with him).
Of course they do, I mean men are so magical and mystical how could they not know what I'm thinking 😮
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It's not an expectation at all, it's just a control tactic, and a very good one. "I'm upset and it's your job to figure out why" is the ultimate "bow to me" demand because you're placing responsibility on someone else for your emotional state.
I agree, that it isn't fair for either partner to have to guess. I believe in a relationship that communication should be very clear, open and honest. This way there can't be any assumptions and the resulting hurt feelings.
I've never met a single girl who didn't expect me to be telepathic. Either I'm just dumb and haven't figured out some super secret power yet but I really can't read people and I love straightforwardness and honesty
Well, I mean, this would be an issue if we are all one hive mind but we arenโt. If anyone has a feeling about something, anyone else who is not in possession of your mind or is able to read it will always be an indefinite number of pages behind unless you get them up to speed.
(mermaidia_lol don't take this as a criticism of you, ok? I'm tagging onto your comment because it's a seemingly simple comment, but it is not. And it has a significant number of male downvotes, so they disagree here.)
Ay yay yay. Men and women are different. If this is not acknowledged, and said neutrally, you just put the other on the defensive... or worse, offensive. Men live in a world of *much* more directness. Then they come into our world, full of nuance and innuendo, subtle looks and glares. It's not all that much better all the time. And then girls are mad at guys for not picking up subtleties. If girls want a different interaction with guys, try a different tactic/approach. Be direct, tell them exactly what you want and what your expectations are. Then they decide whether they can meet those. And you decide whether you can be with someone who is potentially not meeting them. However, one could also re-evaluate whether those expectations are reasonable or not. They also may not be. There needs to be much, much more neutrality, and tolerance of our differences, if people are ever going to be happy/content together, long term. Otherwise, relationships just end, one after another, with people coming to conclusions such as, "He/she was such a jerk." or "We just weren't a match." Guess what - no one is a perfect match. You have to work your ass off to adapt to each other. If both people are motivated to do this, equally, you can make a life together. And if they don't, they will be alone. And that's a choice too. I'm not saying "Everyone get married", "Everyone hookup". But I am saying, "Everyone, stop blaming the other sex. It's not all their fault."
I think cuz most girlsweretaugjt a guy should know what he did right or wrong by moms so moms make them feel we need to be trained if we don't know what is going on with them an great post 👍👍👍
Man, you are twice as old as me. The answer is simple: train them not to by IGNORING it. They either learn how to communicate because it's 100% more effective, or they go batshit in which case you dodged a bullet.
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In a way. Most women speak "in code". You just have to decipher the code of your gal. The better you understand her code, the more you look like a mind-reader.
I am not a code breaker and not about to start LOL.
Yes they do which I think is crazy. Cause I am not a mind reader , or know what your thinking so you should tell me what it s wrong
You have to have a psychic degree and take some additional courses in telepathy
Some do. But they're typically the unhappy ones... get it?
^THIS
If you don't know, I'm NOT going to tell you!!
Oh! So, I guess you'd rather suffer than tell me what the fuck it is you want so I can do it and make you happier?
Most often than not saying what we mean doesn't work either.
Well that's not helpful lol!
i know! lol trust I've tried with several of them. I do expect them to be able to connect the dots. Im pretty clear. maybe i just dated insecure dense selfish idiots
No, but too many men expect women to be mind-readers - so (for example) when he asks her out to dinner, she's supposed to know he means having sex afterwards (and gets mad when she doesn't have sex with him).
I don't because I speak my mind. Just speak your minds ladies!
Of course they do, I mean men are so magical and mystical how could they not know what I'm thinking 😮
It's not an expectation at all, it's just a control tactic, and a very good one. "I'm upset and it's your job to figure out why" is the ultimate "bow to me" demand because you're placing responsibility on someone else for your emotional state.
I agree, that it isn't fair for either partner to have to guess. I believe in a relationship that communication should be very clear, open and honest. This way there can't be any assumptions and the resulting hurt feelings.
I've never met a single girl who didn't expect me to be telepathic. Either I'm just dumb and haven't figured out some super secret power yet but I really can't read people and I love straightforwardness and honesty
I don't wanna spell everything out all the time.
Wouldn't life just be easier if everyone was on the same page?
Yes, but guys are always a page behind.
Jk.
Ouch lol
Exactly!
Well, I mean, this would be an issue if we are all one hive mind but we arenโt. If anyone has a feeling about something, anyone else who is not in possession of your mind or is able to read it will always be an indefinite number of pages behind unless you get them up to speed.
"Yes, but guys are always a page behind.". @mermaidia_lol Yes, we are. That it true. That is just a fact. ๐
Well said, @Snakeyes7.
(mermaidia_lol don't take this as a criticism of you, ok? I'm tagging onto your comment because it's a seemingly simple comment, but it is not. And it has a significant number of male downvotes, so they disagree here.)
Ay yay yay. Men and women are different. If this is not acknowledged, and said neutrally, you just put the other on the defensive... or worse, offensive. Men live in a world of *much* more directness. Then they come into our world, full of nuance and innuendo, subtle looks and glares. It's not all that much better all the time. And then girls are mad at guys for not picking up subtleties.
If girls want a different interaction with guys, try a different tactic/approach. Be direct, tell them exactly what you want and what your expectations are. Then they decide whether they can meet those. And you decide whether you can be with someone who is potentially not meeting them. However, one could also re-evaluate whether those expectations are reasonable or not. They also may not be.
There needs to be much, much more neutrality, and tolerance of our differences, if people are ever going to be happy/content together, long term. Otherwise, relationships just end, one after another, with people coming to conclusions such as, "He/she was such a jerk." or "We just weren't a match." Guess what - no one is a perfect match. You have to work your ass off to adapt to each other. If both people are motivated to do this, equally, you can make a life together. And if they don't, they will be alone. And that's a choice too. I'm not saying "Everyone get married", "Everyone hookup". But I am saying, "Everyone, stop blaming the other sex. It's not all their fault."
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Yes they do!!!😂😂😂😂But guys are not wired like that to read minds!!!😂😂😂😂😂😂
Women have their issues and just expect us to know why that are all the time...
No but I expect common sense
Common sense to be able to read your mind? lol
No lol to not do something messed up. Like not slap my tit or something
I think everyone would agree on that.
You would be surprised, Coach
They slap it then claim
โthey didnโt know- they canโt read minds ๐คทโโ๏ธ๐โ
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Ainโt that the truth
If they do then women aren't very good at presenting to the target audience.
Men don't notice small things often. We usually need something clear and obvious to actually understand what you want.
I think cuz most girlsweretaugjt a guy should know what he did right or wrong by moms so moms make them feel we need to be trained if we don't know what is going on with them an great post 👍👍👍
If you're referring to females letting men know that they find them attractive, don't worry, a female will make it plainly obvious.
If you're left guessing about her intent, you're not attractive.
You should go to a doctor. Why tf are you calling yourself incel?
Maybe because I'm 23 and a KHHV, it's not hard to guess why
What is the meaning of KHHV?
Ah I looked up
I think you are still young. I dont know it is so normal to me. In my culture we only kiss, have sex etc. after marriage
Man, you are twice as old as me. The answer is simple: train them not to by IGNORING it. They either learn how to communicate because it's 100% more effective, or they go batshit in which case you dodged a bullet.