It depends. For the majority of people this is true, but there's more to it. I think it mainly depends on the guy. The reason I think that this is the case is that the majority of men are not that attractive to women. For the small number who are, women chase them.
For example, we've all known women, particularly younger women, who complain that the guy they want won't commit to them. Usually they're having sex casually with this guy and they're just pissed off that he won't enter a serious relationship with her. These women are chasing the man, the man has the power there.
The majority of men can't be that guy because they're not that confident in talking to women and they aren't attractive enough.
The reason women can be so selective when it comes to men is because they have so many options with so many men chasing them. The reason those men chase so much is because they have so few options. That's why women have power over them.
But when the guy is attractive enough that he also has multiple options, at a certain point that can tip the scale in his favour, or at the very least balance the scale. If he has multiple options he's less likely to feel the need to chase, and funnily enough this makes him more attractive to most women (even if this sometimes frustrates them too) since he isn't going to become needy.
And that's the real issue for women. For men, there are websites, books and courses out there that are designed to help them get laid - PUA stuff. Of course much of this is bullshit, but they exist and they sell because that's the kind of thing men want to know. There are no such courses for women - of course not, women can get laid easily. There are plenty of books, websites, courses etc. to teach women how to land and KEEP a quality man. Although women have control when it comes to sex, and although they always have a lot of men after them, attractive men are rarer, harder to attract and keep. That's also why women chase in these cases.
So it really depends on the guy, and also perhaps the kind of guy she's attracted to I guess.
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More true than untrue. I don't like that though. Don't really understand why it ever had to be that way.
There are many traditional roles that men and women play based on their gender. Some of them, we cannot change, like that it's women who get pregnant. But some of them make absolutely zero sense, like that men have to do the chasing. Perhaps there was a historical reason for this, but as I sit here, going through the 35th year of my life, I have yet to find any logical reason that men should be expected to do the chasing, or that women should make them chase.
Men find it difficult on settling on just one woman, it’s apart of the chase.
While women have to be cautious about who they choose because of the same reason, men are biologically hard-wired to cheat.
Goes both ways. I find myself chasing after people I like and I've had guys chase after me
I disagree, I chase men I like, and I ignore men I don't like.
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Think about that concept!
If this is true then women are only picking from the Men that chase them instead of initiating themselves with someone THEY are interested in.
So for sake of argument and women around the world... my answer is I HOPE NOT!Well, both my girlfriends did most of the pursuing while I was the most reticent.
I'm not sure if it's because I have this charm to myself or I'm just insecure, or if they are go-getters or just thought I'm a good horse to bet on, so to say.It depends.
Divorced women in their late 30s and 40s chase me all the time. I choose none of them.
When I am looking for a new girlfriend (or just hookup), I sometimes get some competition going of some good candidates and choose from among them.
It may matter that I am rich.I actually tested this with my partner (we are very similar in styles and interests) on a few dating and social apps. We found that within minutes she would get at least 10 matches where within a couple of days i got 2. And while she was able to have full blown discussions with her men, i was ghosted whenever i tried.
Girls mostly get chased, so ultimately they get to do the choosing. Thats what I've seen so far.Completely disagree.
That is no different than:
Men have to pay
Men can't hit women
Women should be in the kitchen
You can't ask a woman how much she weighs
It's a gender role. Women are perfectly capable of doing the chasing and men the choosing.Only if you want a lousy relationship.
As a dude, while I chased, I never had any good relationships.
Then I tried to do something different. Instead of chasing, I stopped. I tried to instead focus on improving myself into someone worthy of being chased, but decided I would never chase. Within a year, I was being chased by multiple girls at once, one of whom I ended up marrying.Funny how women are so pro feminists and empowerment in every sense of society but when it comes to dating they want to be chased and worshipped HYPOCRITES
Yes this is 100% true... However if she didn't choose you or you aren't in the club of the chosen who are allowed to chase her, there is no sense to make any effort.
Nope. It's interchangeable. People will always have the freedom to choose, and you can choose to chase or not to.
Nope, women hint like a lead balloon or just outright chase and then we are bullied or snookered into it.
Unfortunately yes
You have no idea how lucky you areI keep as far away from women as possible and therefor disagree. Totally 100% 33 year MGTOW monk and I'm staying that way.
No cause.. What about the ones they chase.. Some may like that some may not.
your individual choice. i'd personally not prefer to be at the whim of the people who decide to approach me. i like picking myself.
Pretty much. Just look at almost any species. Males pursue the females and compete with each other to mate.
Men choose and the women decide if they want to be taken for the choosing😁
Not always. After all a man chooses who to chase and many times women chase guys they like too.
Not completely. The opposite happens decently often.
I have never really been a chaser... I generally get asked out...
If you mean in making love, I think Men choose and women is Selected... But in the Modern World women can choose men as well...
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