At what point in a relationship do you believe a transgender person should reveal that they are trans? (Page 2)
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I think if you're getting to know someone, that it should be known towards the start. The great thing about this is that the person has to feel out the other person before they actually come out and say it. It's a scary moment for MTF & FTM to come out as say they are trans. Just for the fact people get the urge to yell and actually hit them.
BEFORE !!! the first date.
Sorry to say it this clear, but: to many people (me included) dating a transgender is one ugly and disgusting thought.
I let 'them' be whatever they think they are; just leave ME out of that.
As much as THEY claim tolerance for THEIR position: I claim the same for MYSELF.
update:
What would I do? Never turn up again with no further comments. Brush my teeth.
I remember an old movie "Crocodile Dundee" an Aussie movie where he arrives in NY, a trans hit on him, well this Aus wasn't sure what this was so he grabbed the vagina on this Tranny and found a penis. It was very funny, he pulled out his 12-inch dagger and wanted to cut it off. I really enjoyed it.
It depends on the type of relationship and where they meet.
If it's in a bar or something, and maybe even only a one-night thing, then never - that sort of setting doesn't lend itself to the conversation and it's just a part of hooking up.
If it's a more committed relationship, then I'd say after the first date or so.
They need to know before the first date. Some people don’t accept things like that so if they knew there wouldn’t be a first date. Some things should be known and that’s one of them. The person needs to know and be able to accept it before there’s even a first date because if they don’t they might run away.
no such thing as this person ! you are either a male and born with a penis or a female and born with a vagina ! no man can cut off his penis to become a female ! for he will bleed to death and no woman can get a penis and attach it to her vagina and become a man either ! things like the one in the center photo , suffer from an inferiority complex , mental illness and need to read their bible and talk to God too
First date, or perhaps even before if possible. Some people are into it or don't mind, but others aren't. If they aren't into it finding out at a relatively late date won't be a pleasant experience for either party. The other party would feel mislead, whilst the trans person would probably not enjoy the reaction he or she receives.
It depends.
If your first date is basically a coffee because you guys know virtually nothing about each other, I'd say it can wait. You may decide after that cuppa that the other person is an asshole, and why bother giving them the intimate details of your life.
On the other hand, if you guys have been flirting a while, and your first date is a long night out date, (dinner, dance, drinks, back to someones place) then yeah, you should reveal pretty early on.
I think they should let you know prior, I would always let them know because I know there's so much stigma around it, you should be proud and if they like you and are a good person, they shouldn't care. Easy way to get rid of the people you shouldn't date I'd day!
By prior I mean before the first date, as you first start speaking
Before the first date even happens.
Pretty much without exception- if that's going to be an issue, it's not going to matter how well they know each other; it'll very likely be a deal-breaker to drop that bombshell. By making it known beforehand, it avoids wasting everyone's time.
First time talking. After that it kind of seems like manipulation which is just wrong. People have the right to know and it doesn't really matter if you're a great person and you want to show them that person first. Just no. They should know at the start period and if they are fine with it, then be the great person you are.
Is there an amount of time to wait? It’s pretty Central. Most people already know how they feel About it pro or con. I don’t see why that should be withheld.
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I'd say at the end of the first or the second date.
You don't need to be immediately upfront, that's not necessary. Spend a bit of time with the person first, then put it out there
If she was passable, and I was interested in her, then I wouldn't mind if she told me she was trans.
Before the first date. When they start talking and showing their interest in you at all, bring up in that conversation that you are trans. They may not be okay with developing a romantic relationship with a transgender so don’t waste either of your time by being a liar.
Before first kiss, or possibly soon after.
I'd be quite chocked, ask a lot of questions, and then decide to proceed depending on how I felt.
For a real relationship I'd probably back out since I want to have kids. For a sexual relationship I'd probably go ahead, especially if it was pre-op but during hormones.
All of this is of course assuming I find her attractive in other ways too.
Ideally before the first date, or at the very least on the first date.
If I found out the person I'm dating is transgender I'd tell them that it was wrong for them to withhold that info but I do understand why. Also I'd effective immediately break up with them but we could still be friends if they were okay with it.
Withing the first 30 seconds. It doesn’t have to be the first thing you say, but it should probably be the second. You could probably say “Hi” for example before getting into that. Otherwise you’re setting yourself up for a dirt nap.
Preferably on the first date, maybe even before meeting if possible. If I find out about it later, they've been unfair to me, and I'll leave them. This is my personal choice. I'd respect a trans person more if they admit beforehand.
Before sex, whenever that is. I believe in informed consent so before a sexual encounter happens one should reveal anything that would effect the decision to continue the relationship including gender issues and STDs
I don't see how "Never" could be a choice, but I think that the moment before any consensual intimacy happens there should be disclosure. Kissing, touching, groping, whatever. No straight dude wants to discover the hard way that they just kissed a "girl" that has male OEM hardware!
Absolutely, on the first date. PERIOD. There's no matter for discussion on this situation. They must disclose about this type of information before or on the first date (preferably before).
And If I found out that person I'm dating in a transgender... I would absolutely freaking out not only because she's a transgender but that she lied or failed to bring out this information about her. Honesty is the best policy. Everyone deserves that.