My boyfriend grabbed me by the arm, should I be worried... I love him?

[Princessshy1111]

So me, my boyfriend, and my friends (all females) were all hanging out on campus. He hates when I dont show him 100 percent of my attention, he gets jealous, but I did not ignore him. So one of my friends called me over to see a painting, and as I was walking towards her... he pulled my arm hard towards him. I felt uncomfortable and I told him to let me go. *One time he got jealous because I had a presentation and I had to dress up. I wore heels and he hates heels. As he was walking me to class... a random guy was staring at me and my boyfriend turned around gave me this evil look and told me not to wear those heels again. Should we go to counceling... im concerned? :(

[Aysen]

This is slightly concerning but not impossible to fix, if your boyfriend puts in the effort to change this behavior of his.

Just because you two are in a relationship together, doesn't mean he gets to call the shots on what you can and can't do. If his jealousy and sense of possessiveness is making you feel uncomfortable, you need to be direct with him about it so he doesn't continue to control your actions for the sake of making him feel better. If he's feeling insecure about losing you or always feels a need to be in charge, you two should talk about it and see where this problem surfaced.

Address your concerns and see where he goes with this. If he's understanding and is willing to find methods to break this insecure/dominant behavior of his, it can work out! If he believes you're crazy for thinking such things and continues to control you with no empathy, it may be time to reconsider the relationship. Sometimes, all that's needed is a reality check to get people back on board. There's no need to take him into counseling or therapy unless this goes on the extreme end where violence and abuse is involved. Hope this helps with your situation!

[markscott]

This guy is flying a very red flag. This kind of behavior only gets worse, and the longer your are with him, the more difficult it will be to leave, even maybe the more dangerous it will be to leave. Get out now. But is you feel it's not safe, then get some help first. Again, this kind of behavior gets worse with time, and it makes for a very miserable relationship.

[yucychan]

I don't think you should be going for counselling. you just need a new boyfriend.
In any case, what makes you think he will want to go for counselling?
He already has the mindset that you are the slutty one, the one that is always trying to seduce other guys. Everything you do is always wrong in his eyes, even as innocent as talking to one of your girlfriends. He is always the one who is right, so why must he go for counselling when he feels you are the one with the problem.
It's just sad that you are in love with such an insecure, pathetic, useless piece of shit. If you can't stand firm and demands he treats you with respect, then nothing's gonna change. He'll just get worse.

[Screenwriter]

This guy has a problem. WHy are you putting up with this behavior? You can't wear heels, he has to have 100% of your attention even when you're with friends. He tries to tell you what to wear. Red flags all around. I'd suggest cutting your losses. You can love the wrong person. You get counseling to find out why you're allowing his behavior.

[sejla]

Probably both of you need counseling separately. He has some anger issues and you need to work on boundaries.

[VioletStardust]

He sounds seriously controlling and if you let it continue, it could spiral downhill. You have to talk to him about it. I know you love him, and I know you want to be with him- but do you really see yourself having these issues when you want to settle down? Talk to him!! And if you want to wear heels the wear the hell outta them!

[Anonymous]

Oh no your arm oh noooooooo AAAAAH AAAAAH YOUR ARM AAAAHH god you women can be so pathetic. This is why people don’t take you women seriously I’m being dead serious I know this sounds means but come on now, he tugged on your arm a bit and now you need counseling

[nerms123]

You need to dump him before he beats you up. This guy has more red flags than a theme park. You also need to be very careful breaking up because he’ll probably threaten and stalk you as well.

[bigman1995]

To be honest I'd say escape while can before getting trapped that is possessive and he should be stood there smiling that your with him and other guys find you attractive what he should of said is your keeping them heels on tonight and smiled and gave you a kiss

[EmmaMary]

No, you should simply ditch/dump the fucking controlling lowlife.

[DWornock]

You are dating him because that is what attracts you. Counseling would be good for you because perhaps it could help you understand why you are self-destructive and have such low self-esteem.

[Mirela_pr]

Your have to talk to him. If he doesn’t understand maybe he is a toxic person and you probably have to move on.

[Rob19777]

no you need to dump his ass immediately before he physically hurts you. he's giving you all the red flags that he's the type who would physically abuse you. get out of the relationship before it's to late

[Cannuck22]

Sounds like a possessive asshole. I’d cut ties before he gets too physo

[Renonymous]

From your view, it seems that he is jealous and controlling. Have you ever done something to make him this way?

[_fxdu_]

No one should tell u what to do. Ur body, ur choice. Be open with him. Talk to him, about how u truly feel. From my perspective, he is overprotective. But u guys should talk it out to be better mates for each other

[VIVANT]

It isn’t over protective, it is not anywhere in the realm of protective as he is threatening her

Over protective is like making your SO a ten course meal bc they will be away for a frw hours and you don’t want them to starve.

[_fxdu_]

hmm.. when i think about it again... you ARE right

[VIVANT]

You sound very sensible, so I hated responding as if you might think I thought you were not.😊😊

[creativegirl93]

Sounds like his true colors are coming out, please address those warning signs

[Frankiealaplaaja]

He needs to admit he has a problem. That is step one. And yes: you should be worried.

[Gamillions]

BETTER LEAVE THIS GUY ALONE. if he does this before your married, god forbid what he's capable of.

[OddBeMe]

Run far, run fast. He’s a douche. And be careful. He doesn’t sound like he’d take it well.

[Anonymous]

your choice... now live with it

[MissDawn7961]

if he has physically hurt you then dump him