I always wonder what the point is of these hypothetical either-or questions. I mean, in reality we don't have to make that decision. And contrary to what many people claim, these two things aren't in any way facing each other in some kind of competition.
Looks are looks, and personality is personality. One has nothing to do with the other. Caring a lot about one does in no way mean you care any less about the other.
I would never be in a relationship with a man with a shitty personality, but I also would never be in a relationship with a man I don't find physically attractive.12 Reply- +1 y
Lmao ok
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+1 yLook at poor Jan Michael Vincent. He was a greek god as a young man, but his demons were drugs and alcohol. He wasn't a talented actor either. It was all about his looks. And he never kicked the drugs and stayed sober. At 73, he looked like a wizened, blind in one eye, lost one leg skeleton. Unrecognizable. Very tragic. His heart gave out. It was amazing it lasted that long.
Looks don't do the work personality does.11 Reply
3.4K opinions shared on Dating topic. Both are absolutely needed, but if one is the only option, it's looks because I need them to look like a girl I could touch to start or they are only friends to me. Of course without a right personality, the relationship won't work.
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Good looks no question. Personality is irrelevant if you look like these people

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spoken by a child who needs to go back into her play pin and have her dirty diaper changed too
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I guess the point might be that someone like Jeremy Meeks, whose net worth is only 5 million dollars, might be hard to live with, despite his having money and looking nice on the outside. Your best bet would be someone you're attracted to who is also kind and loving. A good job and some money is important too. But a "terrible personality"? You'll get tired of that fast. Don't you know some jerks? If they were rich, would you put up with their shit? Money can buy SOME people some of the time. Might be OK for a while. But sensible people might not want to pimp themselves out like that. Unlikely you'd be happy.
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+1 yLooks can be altered, personality is much harder to alter.
10 ReplyI'll settle for average looks and great personality let's be honest looks somewhat matter for the first impressions
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Looks matter a lot for the first impression
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But so does personality
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Yaaaah
Anonymous(36-45)+1 yIt depends on the time horizon and what you're looking for at the moment. If it's for a LONG TERM partner then obviously personality matters. But if you're dating for fun, I'd definitely go with looks. Not saying we'd stay together forever, but it would be fun to date a smoking hottie for awhile and to have some crazy sex for a bit. Those memories (and the pics and vids!) would last a lifetime!
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+1 yGood personality! Personality is what you’ll always be remembered since it’s permanent. With age looks fade, therefore looks will not mean much in time. Also good looks don’t compensate for a great personality.
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+1 yMy first instinct is to say looks, but I've been out with some girls recently that ROK looking but have terrible personalities, are dumb as heck. I guess I would take a little of both. Or I'd be alone.
10 Reply432 opinions shared on Dating topic. Both are important. But if I had to choose only one, I'd choose personality. Technically, with the right personality, good looks can be obtained. Good looks can't create a good personality though.
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Anonymous(45 Plus)+1 yI have had both types of women as partners. I have found that once you get to know each other very well, the looks element can fade a bit. However, if a person has a good personality you will enjoy that even when you grow old. The good looks only last a short time for the most part.
00 Reply554 opinions shared on Dating topic. Personality but obviously both is the preference... I also disagree that "looks fade" there are definitely good looking older people.
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Yep... Some people who weren't so good looking look better older, some who are great looking and beautiful people stay looking good, some lose their looks. You just never know. People have such disparate lives. Some bounce back, others struggle and it shows.
501 opinions shared on Dating topic. At my age, good looks is not much of an option for either gender. And personality becomes really important.
10 Reply1.9K opinions shared on Dating topic. Both is the only option, personality matters more than looks but if i am not attracted to her i can't give her sexual exclusivity.
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Anonymous(45 Plus)+1 yCan't choose both, then I stay single. There must be both. Looks meaning I have to be attracted to her, but her personality is also important and goes along with that attraction.
20 Reply692 opinions shared on Dating topic. Looks fade, having a fun partner who I get along with only gets better.
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+1 yBoth is preferred. If I'm looking long term, personality needs to win out. If I'm just looking for a fling, looks mostly.
10 Reply507 opinions shared on Dating topic. Well what can say? I like a good personality, especially the mature types.
10 ReplyIf I can’t get both, I would want neither. But if it means The partner will have okay looks, then personality
10 Replythe personality is a must but looks, she dont gotta be perfect but somewhat an attractive person.
10 ReplyGood personality can make an average looking person good looking.
30 Reply2K opinions shared on Dating topic. looks fade but personality just keeps on goin in that direction loool
10 Reply347 opinions shared on Dating topic. Interesting the overwhelming amount of people here said personality but my personal experience says otherwise.. Most Women and men still choose looks even if its subconsciously. I just want someone nice.
00 ReplyYou can always tell her to shut her cake hole but the ugly is much harder to reconcile.
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+1 yBeing attracted solely by looks would ne very superficial
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you are so rght
Personality all the way. The good thing is that my crush has both. I would even say that her personality is exceptionally good in my eyes.
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Awww nicce
1.9K opinions shared on Dating topic. I would sooner date or live with someone with average looks & a great personality.
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Anonymous(30-35)+1 yI rather date a 5 in the looks department with a personality that is a 10
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+1 yLooks. Personality only goes so far before living together, for years!
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+1 yAhhhhhhhhh... ok, personality but she can't be ugly.
00 Reply You can change a look, not a personality.
10 ReplyLooks leave and a great personality will make you beautiful.
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Anonymous(45 Plus)+1 yEvery woman is going to lie and say personality
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Lolll
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Every woman wants a man she's attracted to, but if he only has good looks, that attraction won't hold out very long. People need both.
I'd choose money! (Gold digger right here)
10 ReplyPersonality.
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Add me and let's see
+1 yWtf is good personality?
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🤔🤔
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“Good personality” is subjective you should know this
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Lol didn't know ya were my English teacher~
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Obviously you needa stay in school.
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Ok boomer
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Yea both are subjective
+1 yPersonality.
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+1 yWithout both there's no point.
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Anonymous(36-45)+1 yGood and compatible personality anyday.
20 Reply307 opinions shared on Dating topic. Personality
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+1 yBecause I can be a shallow superficial male.
00 ReplyMost liberals here care about wealth.
00 ReplyGood personality.
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+1 yI like a little of both.
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