After watching about 20 videos on human trafficking and the reality of how they swoon people into this way of life by "dating them" for months, just to turn into devils and enslave them... I agree with you. Talking alone won't even work because people do that over the phone and anyone can be anything over phone and internet.
To be honest, I'd do everything you can to find out the character of that boy. I'd go and talk to his minister.. don't have a minister or daddy... then where did he get his sense of right and wrong? And I'd up my game of self defense and self esteem to the max so if someone does intentend to mistreat you, they discover the wrong side of you. You gotta view the world as... fight for your rights and know how you will handle situations, or at least have great discernment of character. But that doesn't seem to work for girls whose egos/identities are fragile.
Generally for me it's been a few calls, but I've always been less threatening to women.
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I wait 2-3 days, do some research, ask my friends about her and get a few references, there are some crazies out there and I'm not 18 anymore so ain't got time for that shit. 🤷🏽♂️
If the guy is cute then I will give him my number. I'll probably want to talk for 2 weeks before going on a ”date”. But it matters if we have lots in common and if he isn't just using me for sex. I've given this guy my number before and it was a big mistake. Plus I didn't really like him like that I just wanted to get closer to my crush because they were friends. I've told that guy from the beginning and said I liked someone else and this dude keeps trying to ask me to come over his house. We only talked for two weeks then I blocked him. Me and my crush go to the same Church and his friend pop up to try to get my number again.🙄 I've ignored that guy and he finally left me alone and I've heard that he is in the army now🙏🏾. He was a stalker. Lol, I’m so sorry for this long ass opinion. This is why I have a hard time trusting guys. You're not being weird because I'm probably planning on doing that too. Cuz you can't trust anybody nowadays.
It depends. I had one guy ask me to go on a date instead of asking for my number. Of course I didn’t go. I would like to talk to them for at least 2 weeks before I go anywhere.
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I prefer to have a first date within one week of meeting someone online, but that first date is where we each drive to a public location, meet and talk for a while, then she drives herself back to her home and I drive back to my home. Very low risk for her.
Never, I don't give my number to random strangers in public places. I won't even acknowledge their presence.
Not sure, depends on your texting and calling game. Isn't the whole point of communication is to set up a meeting? Maybe I'm old school and don't automatically assume first date equals = sex. I still remember the days where you'd accidentally nudge a girl's breast with your elbow whilst walking and dudes would be blushing. Correct me if I'm wrong, but isn't it If you meet someone and think they're cute and we click wouldn't you want to see them ASAP. Generally, isn't the fastest way to grow intimacy is to do activities together and sharing life experiences and physical touch. I could be wrong but could be a contributing factor why we yearn for intensity. I've been guilty where if the windows stretch too long I lose bit of drive to chase... and I'm sure some dudes can also attest to waiting too long and sliding into friend zone DMs. So~ no mean to offend, it really depends on person, are you secure enough to risk your heart again or slow and steady
Well, clearly that whole 1 to 3 month thing isn't written in stone. Also, do dudes really wait 30 to 90 days to see you in person? I don't know if you're paranoid, but I do think you enjoy telling guys no. They ask for your number, and for the next 30-90 days, you're just busy? Do you actually tell them, "I will not see you probably for the next few months because_____fill in the blank?"
It just seems unnecessary to do that almost every time a dude gets your number, and it seems a bit vindictive. But why would you be vindictive?You and I are very different. 1-3 months? 😲 The problem 'getting to know each other' online is there is so much room for manipulation, lack of body language or even the ability to read one another's mannerisms. Mentally I don't allow myself to take a serious interest in a woman who I haven't met in person.
I met a woman a couple of weeks ago at a bar, spoke briefly and I took her number. We were texting for about 3days before we met her in person. I'm seeing her again today after work. If I'm interested enough to take your number, I would want us to meet asap and discover whether or not we click and have great chemistry.Lmao it's not about time - it's about the vibes they put out. Also people have always had dubious intentions especially guys. A red flag today is still a red flag next month lol. Getting to know them in person cuts like 1 month of texting into like 3-4 hours. I could see the 'becoming relaxed' around each other facet to this though. Would prolly make convos in-person after a month of texting easier cause you can keep referring to text stuff to keep the in-person convo alive. I prefer going straight to in-person so I can skip all the fronting and fake bullshit tho 🤙 as long as you dont let them pick you up a bad date probably won't haunt you 😩😂 gluck fam
Girl you ain't thinking wrong. Take it slow if you wanna have a nice long relationship. But tell him that you like to keep chatting before meeting again, give him an approximate time, like if you think a month, tell him two months. The you can call him out in a month and he gets excited feels things are working faster.
Well i think it depends on person to person. The main thing is when you are comfortable with someone unknown than eventually you will share your no. Without hesitation. It can be in one day or a 6-8 months. Its just about comfort zone. How comfortable and secure you feel while talking to them.
Perspective is everything and it's commendable you vet them before committing to even just a date. Intentions can always be plagued by facetiousness, so it's an intelligent response to correspond in such a way in order to build courage and salvage the integrity of what could be something substantial.
I don't give out my contact data just to random people. I may give it out on purpose like when I'm with vegan activists or to others I met on clubbing (I rarely do clubbing). Then it makes totally sense, because you may want to meet later again.
On dates, I pre-exchanged my number with a girl to be able to send her updates, like train delays or so. Again it makes sense here, right?I prefer in person dates the very next day after getting your number from you either in person or online.
That prolonged texting is a huge turn-off for me and I would intentionally ask some stupid or very absurd question that'll make you ghost me when I realized it is getting too long for us to meet.
I don't like being the bad guy.
Gotten lots of girls to ghost me, some even after sex.That's wisdom! I remember talking with a Girl for some time on the phone. Although we didn't have a big connection, and we only talked for about a week every night, I was pretty set on keeping it just talking for a few Months before physically meeting Her. That's an excellent idea. I'll say this, She was a Sweetheart. She's still out there.
It depends. If I exchanged numbers with someone that I met in real life, then I would probably want to at least text them a little first before agreeing to go on a date with them. Unless it was someone I already knew and just didn't have their number yet.
If it was someone online, then I still wouldn't want to set up a date immediately. I would want to talk to them more first. But I would probably try to meet them in a month or two; I wouldn't want to wait too long.If I meet her in person, we could agree on a date right away (have done this a number of times) or within a few days. There really isn't much reason to drag it out- it's just a date where we meet in public.
I like ro be flirty over text and if she responds well.. why wait, I ask her out and if she says no at least I'm not wasting anybody's time.
That being said, I would text with her for about a week before asking her out.Wish to see people like you in different social media... I like friends who in touch more often... couple of app have more things to know about them... That's the reason from his friend's list
Some here it's very hard... But I am very comfortable with few friends only.I'd try to as soon as possible. Sure you can text first but My logic, let's get a coffee and see how we connect then text after that see where we are. Why beat around the bush
When I was single. If a guy I was attracted to or intrigued by asked for my number, I would give it and go on a date with him as soon as he called to ask.
It would depend on how good I knew her. I would not give my number to a random girl.
But if I had known her for some time and started feeling at ease with her, than probably yes :Das long as it takes for me to be sure that they're decent and are not gonna cause me problems like murdering me or stalking me etc...
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