I messed up and took him for granted?

[Anonymous]

There is this guy that has been trying to pursue me for some time. He is 10 years older than me. I am a med student and he is a more established guy. I will admit, when a guy that much older than me tries to pursue me, the first thing I'm looking for besides how he treats me is financial stability! And I don't think there's anything wrong with that. If im going to be making a lot of money, I expect he should too. I also will admit, I wasn't all that into him when we first started going on dates. I probably seemed like I was using him for the longest time. I kept it going because he was so sweet to me and I wanted to see where things went. He has tried so hard and I actually started liking him towards the end of everything. I messed up because i act really ungrateful when he does/buys things for me and I happen to not like it. To the point where he doesn't want to speak to me at this point anymore since it seems like I only care about material things.

I have been so devastated because I know i'm wrong for how I've been treating him this whole time. I would really like to be in a serious relationship with him and it took him ignoring me right now to realize it. I pulled up to his apartment to return the necklace he gave me and apologize a million times to him. He ended it with "we will talk soon" and I left. The last text I sent him was just me trying to get him to see my perspective of the whole gift giving since that IS one of my biggest love languages. Basically I messed up really bad by being ungrateful of the gift he gave me on valentines day and I don't really know what to do anymore because I really really like him. I feel so immature and he probably thinks I am too. What should i do!!!

[Anonymous]

Lear n from it. Give him some time.

And most likely he would not take you back (no one can blame him for that). So accept it. Return all the expensive gifts he has given you. And take this as slap on face to wake you up. From next person, start treating them like you would want to be treated.

[nathanp97]

Give him some time, calmly explain why you acted the way you did;preferably over the phone or in person, and then if that doesn't work remember what not to do in your next relationship.