He asked me to be exclusive after three weeks of dating. Should I be worried? (Page 2)
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Keep going in stages. Yes you can go exclusive but do not give him everything all at once. With sex the last stage you will see if he really likes you for you.
Oh, yuck! A guy wants to be exclusive, be with you only and work towards an actual mature relationship! That sick perverted fuck, not only should you be worried - I'd report him to the police.
There’s no need to be rude about it.
Well, there was no need to be stupid about it either, but that seemed to have eluded you.
Is being an internet troll fun? Pure curiosity here
Probably not as much as being a stupid little attention whore talking nonsense for likes. :)
I hope you have a great day
Three weeks, eh personally no I'd wait a bit longer. That's just me tho.
Being exclusive doesn't mean you have to move fast. They say after 8 dates is best. I been told "I Love you" by a guy from Poland when I was lonely in UK after 2nd date within 1 week. That when you need to worry. He asked we move together. He tried to rape me to bring him a child. He posted my picture on his FB without my permission. He cries bc I rejected him. He stalked me all time. Needless to say I moved to a place where he can't find me.
He lied to his friends that we are a couple. I told them He's Not my boyfriend.
If you are uncomfortable, that’s an indication you migHt not be ready. Maybe just talk to him?
You should be exclusive from day one. Who the fuck date or seek multiple people at the same time?
Lol we live in a world where "exclusive relationship" is a scary concept.
And people wonder why soceity is falling apart.
Just make sure his actions are the same as his words. If he is saying one thing and doing another, get rid of him and find someone else. Unless you like the drama lol
Exclusive? If that's the word he used yes, you should be worried, look at this way exclusive means restricted, he sees you as a possession, not the gift that you are.
No that’s not the word he used exactly, it was just the best way I could think of explaining the situation
Even though my philosophy in a relationship is from the wisdom of Lao Tzu of the Tao Te Ching. The great way to live. One should allow their woman to go where she wants to go and be inclined to do what she wants to do without interference from their man. A woman should feel the wind in her hair and the breeze on her face, this is true trust and true love. It is from the feminine we are all created. Respect your woman is the morals I live by. Then true love will last.
It means they're not fucking other people.
My ex asked me the same, exactly after 3 weeks. He ended up being manipulative and a pathological liar. Not everyone is the same, but it's a bit of a red flag. Time will tell tho
He’s none of those things. He’s a kind man that’s been really understanding of my independent nature and thinks I’m beautiful... I don’t know why I’m questioning it. I really like him.
I WOULD ASK A WOMAN TO BE EXCLUSIVELY MINE AFTER 2 DATES
Guys tend to make up their minds faster than women do. Are you still wanting to see other people?
No, and I told him as much. The last guy I was seeing lead me on for six months without telling me what we were doing. It just threw me.
Weird that it would be 3 weeks. I wouldn’t stay if you were dating someone else.
Further evidence girls are NEVER happy.
It has nothing to do with not being happy. I’m very happy with him. He’s one of the kindest men I’ve ever met and is super supportive of me as a person. He thinks I’m beautiful and makes me confident. I don’t want to loose him either which is why I said yes.
I’m allowed to be scared of a new thing because in my generation, not just women, have proven that they are rarely satisfied.
You can understand, you girls gripe constantly about when, how and why all aspects of relationships. I don't see guys doing that.
You can understand that there’s a difference between a female gripping and entering a relationship with caution.
Plus with my generation, not just females, there seems to be a need to find the next best thing—so again I’m nervous and think it is unfair to clump an entire gender together in such a generic statement.
It's hardly a generic statement, but it doesn't matter.
The reality is if you want a committed relationship both parties have to be vulnerable to each other (in reasonable stages of course) allowing yourself to be vulnerable exposes you to the possibility of being hurt.
Is the guy hitting that milestone fast? Hell yeah he is, but that doesn't make him any more or less sincere about his feelings for you.
I mean, that’s a valid point... I’m letting my past experiences blur my judgement
It sounds like he really digs you. Just keep your eyes open, and be sure he keeps walking his talk. Be mindful of love bombing too.
What is that? You see, it’s all these terms and possibilities that get me so freaked out. How are you supposed to trust someone?
I don't see this happening with this guy, but love bombing is a tactic that narcissists and abusers use to win over females early in a relationship. Constantly 'bombing' them with love that is disproportionate to a new relationship. Google it, there's plenty of info.
It’s definitely not that. He says cheesy things sometimes but nothing extreme.
Well then forgive me for planting that possibility in your worried overthinking head. Lol. Best of luck!
Clear your mind and give it a Chance, you may never know what will happen
You have to comete at some point just don't let them own you tell what you can and can't do
He wants to be with you and only you. That's a good thing. Take it slow and build your relationship
Nope, you should be worried if he did not.
I don't think that's weird?
Is it something wrong with you?