I wish my boyfriend was taller. Am I shallow for not liking his height (please read details)?

[Anonymous]

When I first met my boyfriend in person (before we became official), he was much shorter than what he stated on his dating profile. According to that, he was 5'8, but then when I saw him irl, he appeared to be pretty much my height (I'm 5'5). I wasn't too happy to find that out, but aside from that, he's a great person with an awesome personality; super sweet, handsome and funny. Unfortunately, I'm having a very hard time getting used/accepting to his height and I'm still kinda mad that he lied about it. Am I in the wrong?

[abc3643]

1. Ask him if he lied. I am serious.

2. I WAS 5' 7" and never lied about that, but I did shrink a bit with age so now I am 5' 5.5", so it does happen... Chances are your boyfriend is a lot younger than me, so he shouldn't be there yet.

You have to ask yourself a few questions...
1) Are you bothered by:
A) His lying
B) His height
C) Both
2) If he never lied and said his height is what it really is on the dating profile, would you have dated him?
If not, then it's your issue with height, regardless of his lying.
3) If he is a liar, that's a problem no matter what his height, so are your sure this is his only lie - so he can get a date - or is he a chronic liar?
4) if he is not a chronic liar and otherwise a good guy, does his being 3 inches shorter really make that much of a world of difference?
5) If your answer to Question 4 is "Yes", then you need to ask yourself about the attitudes of men who may date you... Suppose they are with you and they love boobs, but then you get a double mastectomy... If they dump you over that, then what that says to you that who you are as a person was not important to them, only your boobs were. Is that how you think about men? That a great guy at 5' 5" should be sacrificed so you could be with a not so great guy (*) just cause he's a few inches taller? (*) He might be one of those guys who can't deal with mastectomies...

[Stevepro68]

Yes
Online dating everyone knows 3 things.
Guys lie about height.
Women use only the absolutely most flattering view of themselves never look exactly like their picture.
Girls don't have to list their weight but that is what they most fabricate.
Im 6'1 3/4 I always list it as 6'2" never really thought about it because I am taller than most women it never comes up.
Till I met my girlfriend she is really 6'2" and in heels much taller. I felt weird about the listing.
Truth is everyone on dating aps has tiny exaggerations. Because everyone assumes your lying and figures if you put 5'5" your really 5'2"
If everything else is really the way you want it let it go.
I am sure your profile pics had some form of editing or doctoring to make sure you attracted the best possible men.

[potatoiswhoiam]

The fact alone that he wasn't honest about his height would be enough to bother you.
He probably felt like if he told you his real height you wouldn't give him a chance, and that's probably true, so he lied about it. I kinda understand him, but at the same time he wasn't considerate with your standards, even if they're not reasonable or shallow, that's not up to him, so he put himself in this bad situation.
It's up to you whether you wanna dump him. If it's really a dealbreaker for you, it's better to end it instead of dragging both of you into something you're just not into on the long run.
But if you try to look past that before making your decision, that'll also be good. If he really is an amazing person and you're into him, maybe it's time to make a compromise.

[nodnol32]

I can understand why he lied. Maybe it can be a blessing in disguise? Maybe he was honest about his height at some point and just faced rejections. I would say give him some time. If he's a great guy and meets most your requirements, it shouldn't be an issue. Trust me, being reject because of height hurts. I'm 5'10 and my girlfriend is 6'2. We've had strong feelings for each other for a while but she used to say she's too tall for me and it really hurt because there's nothing I can do about it. Fortunately for me, one days, she told me that she does not want to spend her whole life waiting for someone tall enough. She said she sees a gentleman in me who respects her and treats me right. She apologised for rejecting me initially because I'm shorter than her and asked if we can be together.

[BenimKralligim]

How long did it take you to have this dream?

[nodnol32]

Its not a dream.

[BenimKralligim]

It sounds unreal.

[nodnol32]

Ok, sounds unreal to you. But it is what happened. Couples in which the girl is taller exist.

[BenimKralligim]

From Russia?

[nodnol32]

England.

[magiusX26]

this is likely a product of a large portion of women putting their dating profiles something along these lines "MUST be taller than me" with a height of around 5'9" themselves. or "if your under X'x" swipe left"

[Wealthydentist]

I’m so glad I’m 6’2. He lied at the end of the day, your not wrong. It sucks he feels he wouldn’t get a chance if he was honest. But you probably wouldn’t give him the time of day. I agree with both of you.

[BenimKralligim]

Dump him ! there is no girl in the world for short guys. They are not even a man, they are kids.

[BenimKralligim]

Why did I get dislikes? 😂😂

[Avicenna]

We all have preferences. Focus on his good qualities.

[Anonymous]

If a guy posted on here, wishing his girlfriend was slimmer, and asked if he was shallow, women here would be crucifying him.

So, what do you think?

[Hollywoodundead677]

No you have your own personal preference

[Twalli]

Why did you agree to date him in the first place?

[bsrathi]

Search another longer than u

[COMMODOREII]

Im 6'2" tall. 😉😎

[Anonymous]

Yes.