In what ways do you think men and women experience love and heartbreak differently? (Page 2)
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Men don’t care at first and brush it off but later get hit. Women feel it first but get better in time.
Men are like water and women are like sand
Water slowly heats up getting hotter and hotter but when you want it to cool off it'll take longer to cool off
Sand gets hot really quick but cools down quickly too
This seems to be a common conclusion.
I've heard a similar analogy with the ocean and land. Land dissipates heat quicker.
The ease, depth and length of time of love and heartbreak/betrayal. Some girls tell me they still remember their crushes for years after the fact, whereas I'm not sure I'd recognize half the girls from high school and college, even ones I thought were cute back in the day.
Yeah this was actually researched:
Women get incredibly emotionally after heartbreak, and over time slowly gain confidence in themselves while men get incredibly confidentstraight away and then get increasingly sad and lonely. Going back to an ex however for girls will put them back, becoming emotional again and for guys, the egotistical confidence which is not balanced.
(Obviously this is a generalisation so don't attack me haha)
Interesting!
Where the hell did you get that from?
Men don't get "egotistical confidence"; they throw themselves into self destructive behavior, alcohol consume and trying to mend the wound with sex, because our feelings are pretty much worthless in this world, we can't share them, we can't be vulnerable, we have no real connection to others, so we drown everything out in ways that are destructive for ourselves and others, often times physical aggression, and never really heal, instead our feelings die off bit by bit starting in early childhood.
It's not "egotistical", it's sad and tragic, and the only way we have to deal with things.
The person who sounds egotistical and lacking in compassion is you.
"men get incredibly confident straight away..."
Yes, I have to admit, I find this very odd.
"Going back to an ex however for girls will put them back, becoming emotional again and for guys, the egotistical confidence which is not balanced."
And I don't know exactly what you're trying to say here. Both sexes can feel better, going back, even temporarily, to something familiar. That's got to be applied pretty universally.
Simple
What matters is what you learn from it.
I am not sure about love, but multiple studies suggest that men have a much rougher time with heartbreak than women do, although that is a generalization and certainly apply to everyone.
I've never seen these studies but a few people are mentioning that here. Interesting.
Consensus seems to be it's largely to do with them internalizing these things and not expressing them to friends etc.
Yeah we tend to keep things hidden bc as a society men are supposedly strong physically and mentally which in a lot of cases men tend to off themselves bc they can't deal with the pain of knowing someone they truly loved left them
Should be "doesn't apply to everyone". I hate that we can't edit answers.
Yes, also, men don't have the kind of good support systems women have.
i can't tell you its the same for every man.. But in my personal experience i have spent weeks and months hurting while the ex has moved on to multiple different men as if she never cared in the first place. I would explain this as hypergamy and being a parasite. Not all women are like this, but the ones i chose, before my wife, were very bit like i describe..
What would you say to the idea, such as @MecheD brought up, "I believe men forcefully put themselves out there to try to forget."? Presumably women are doing this too.
im not sure..
Much easier for men to move on and their turn around time on moving to the next is much shorter.
Interesting. You have a different opinion than many.
It is said that women feel separation quickly and acutely. Men feel it longer term. Which can mean a woman gets over it quicker.
Let's look at the dicissin maker who decided to end the relationship for it is them who are clear
1 A woman feels more empathy guilt and can easily just stay quiet and tick along Gives chance after chance Not asking much for themselves
2 A man feels hurt and often shows anger Their pride is often in the way of how he is feeling Often able to walk with no relative feeling can't show a weaknes
Well, it is very much socially acceptable for women to break down, cry, complain, open up. Us guys aren't allowed that. We can get angry, we can self-destruct with sunstances (both legal and illegal), but if we dare to show vulnerability we're very harshly judged, mostly by ourselves. The vicious cycle of gender conditioning.
Also, out of curiosity, are you "I live on GaG because that's all I have in life" people required to post the same generic repetitive questions every month, or is this lack of original thinking actually authentic? 😊
Alright Discomfort, that's it for you. I've had enough. Blocking you now. And in case you're planning on calling me a snowflake Liberal female, or any other such bullshit rhetoric, passing-the-buck cliche garbage, here's some other examples of why:
‘Is chivalry stupid?’ “Yes, it's stupid. Treat them like the filth they are today.”
'What's something you feel everyone should experience? "Hitting a woman back. I'm not saying go look for a fight like a stupid 12 year old, but many of us have had women try to slap us, or spill a drink on us, or kicking us in the crotch, or any other pathetic reenactment of a soap opera or melodramatic chick-flick. Most guys' reaction is a non-reaction, as we've all been taught that hitting women is a crime. Well, that's wrong. If a woman assaults you (that's the legal definition of the above mentioned instances in most countries) you need to send a loud and clear message. She slapped you? Slap her back, knock her face off. She spilled her drink on you? Grab her hair and wipe your shirt. She kicked your groin? Kick her pussy until she pisses blood. That's the only way to teach such people in this society. We should not negotiate with terrorism, we should not attempt to reason with the bully. We should fight back, hard, and teach them a painful lesson they won't soon forget. Sad that their parents failed with their education, but not our fault."
Go fuck yourself, you toxic piece of shit.
Right now I remember quite some heartbreak songs by both men and women, in which men mainly sing about the pain whilst women mainly sing about what men did wrong to them.
I'd say what you don't want to hear. Some men act like women and some women act like men. By that, i mean act as in the way stereotyping people defined how men and women supposedly act during breakups. Some people process it long. Some never get over it. Some get over very quickly. Doesn't matter, if they're freaking guys or gals. Everyone has their own way of getting through a breakup. It's not freaking gender based.
Differences are inherent. It's not an argument to say that there are exceptions. Of course there are. There are also commonalities and patterns. You don't want to speak on the subject, you don't want to analyze, fine. But saying everything is just a stereotype is a cop-out.
They're not exceptions. They're common folks who stereotype people call odd because of their stereotyping.
Studies show women are able to get over a breakup easier than men. Assuming in both cases that that other partner initiates the breakup.
honestly more true than I wanna admit
I hate the fact, that this is true. If only we could find a new woman in 3 months.
I feel it's very much the same we both cry and feel emotional pain. I honestly can't think of how genders differ on this...
I think girls try to get back with their Ex's a lot and guys seem to be able to move on easier this is a tough question to give a complete answer?
Yes it is. I had literally nothing to say on it 😏
@AmandaYVR Thanks for the post :) :)
Its the same... depends on the person not gender everyone is different
I think women take it much more emotionally. Men get mad, but women tend to cry.
Anger and sadness are the same emotion. Anger comes from sadness. Crying or punching its all the same but crying is safer.
Unless it’s a punching bag. I prefer punching bags.
I feel heartbroken and betrayed. I used to blame it mostly on myself but I have learned it is because we were just not meant to be together