Why am I fuckable but not dateable?

[Simplismilez]

I have guys that are only wanting to sleep with me all the time but when it comes to dating or even just getting to know me nobody seems to want to do it. I think I'm a good person, I have a good personality and have been told I'm pretty. Unless people telling me im pretty is also a ploy to get me into bed. I don't know. Why am I fuckable but not dateable?

Updates

+1 y

Yes I did go through a period where I didn't value myself and slept with some guys I shouldn't have but I've been working hard to change that and value myself more.

[MrOracle]

This may seem to be a crude analogy, but it gets the point across: if you are stranded on the side of the road, and you call your friend for a ride home, and he shows up in a junky old car, you'd still happily hop in and take the free ride home without any complaining. However, if you were going out to a nice event where you are dressed way up and you'll be seen getting out of this car, you probably would be FAR more reluctant to ride in the same car. Why? Because the stakes are much higher in the second situation than the first.

Many women don't seem to understand the concept that men can separate sex from love. That doesn't mean that we don't want love - most of us do - it just means that we're perfectly capable of desiring (and enjoying) sex from a girl that we have zero romantic feelings for, and to have no regrets about it afterwards. Men are biologically programmed to desire sex, and to desire it with many different women - this is an excellent strategy for the survival of the species, because it encourages more children and it widens the gene pool, reducing genetic defects.

When a man wakes up in the morning, his first thought isn't "I need a relationship" or "I need love" today, it's "I need to get laid." For men, sex has a higher priority than love UNLESS he's met a girl that he's fallen in love with. Most days he hasn't, so sex is the top priority.

And what is important in a casual sex partner (when love and long-term relationship concerns aren't really relevant)?

- Is she attractive to me?
- Is she willing?
- Is she crazy/psycho?
- Is she riddled with diseases?

That it.

If a guy can answer "yes" to the first two questions and "no" to the second two, then the girl qualifies as a girl he'll have sex with. Note that there is NOTHING in there about how he FEELS about her, and there's nothing about her personality, about long-term compatibility, her behavior, etc. Why? Because those things don't matter when you're just having casual sex - casual sex is all about immediate gratification, and nothing more.

When a guy is looking for a girl for a RELATIONSHIP, that's MUCH more complicated and many additional factors come into play. His feelings about her are obviously going to be important, and so are things like her reputation, her behavior, and all of the many issues that make up "long-term compatibility", such as her views on religion, children, marriage, lifestyle, finances, family obligations, etc. etc. There's also the "value equation" - relationships have a high cost and risk for men, and so men have learned to ensure that the girl is also bringing things to the relationship that HE finds valuable (more than just sex), or he just won't be interested in a relationship with her. Men today are much less willing to accept a relationship deal that gives her all the benefits and him all the expenses, liabilities, and risks. They've seen how that went for their fathers and their friends' fathers, and they no longer blindly accept one-sided deals.

So, if you want to be seen as a "relationship girl" rather than just a "casual sex girl", then you need to have the attributes that men look for in a relationship girl. Generally, that means:

- making him a priority
- being emotionally mature and grounded in reality
- being a positive and happy person who is enjoyable to be around
- having boundaries and the will to maintain them (if he thinks you lack boundaries, he'll assume you will cheat, and he'll drop you like a sack of dog poop).
- being willing to carry your share of the load as he is willing to carry his (it's up to each couple to work out this balance)
- most men, when looking for a relationship, also tend to look for women who are all-natural, and who are more moral and more socially conservative.

[Sparda20xx]

This should be a my take. It was incredibly well written. Its sad that women gave you a thumbs down. You're dropping nuggets of wisdom and they refuse to hear it

[magiusX26]

agree sparda

[Pete671]

So true, pity that 4 ladies have given this a thumbs down, it's the truth,

[Louistruman19]

Boom! On the money.

[likelyOK]

Excellent response

[MrOracle]

@Sparda20xx I'll make it one if folks think it's useful. And thanks.

[Gisellegemstone]

So informative!!

[Gisellegemstone]

It makes sense now why my boyfriend finds me valuable. My boundaries are so clear and I reinforce them, I present myself as a valuable person and I am really fun to be around. Well done!

[Vviiccttoorr]

Sadly if people know you as a woman who is open for sex then that’s probably why some genuine guys won’t want to date. However, self improvement is good so try and talk to guys who are alright with your past and can appreciate your improvement. You don’t have to bring up your past to guys you have an interest in but, if it does come up ( and you’re cool with taking about it) the see how it goes. If you’re interested to find a genuine good guy then search for one but please please please don’t be the girl that finds a great guy who wants to get married and have children but, is also down for sleeping with you that same night he says all that because it’s clearly BS what he’s saying. Find a guy who will wait if you want to wait because, if he’s willing to wait then that shows that he likes you for you and not just for sex. Then you can proceed to a future and start a family if you you’d like.

[Mishan97]

This is the unfortunate reality of the dating world but when u give up ur body too easily or too early on, many guys are going to lose interest. To weed out the guys from the ones who want just sex from the ones who are serious, wait until u are exclusive with the guy to sleep with him. I’m not slut shaming you bc there is nothing wrong with sleeping with a guy on the first date if that’s what u want to do. However, the reality is that sleeping with the guy on the first few dates isn’t the best strategy if you are looking to get into a serious relationship. I don’t think the problem is that you are not pretty enough or fun enough or whatever. I think you are just giving off the message that you are not looking for a serious relationship when you are quick to get into bed with a guy. Don’t feel bad though because I went through a phase like that too where I was “Easy” and would have sex with guys on the first date and stuff like that. I realized once I became more picky I started attracting better guys and they took the time to get to know me because I didn’t have sex with them right away.

[Yads_Is_Back]

Let’s be real: many guys will sleep with any female. They have zero standards. So I wouldn’t use that as a consideration since you could literally be the ugliest female on the planet and get a guy to sleep with you. (You are pretty. I mean hypothetically if you weren’t.)


As far as dating, I mean, it’s kind of dependent on every little thing about you that we are not gonna have any clue about on GAG because it’s difficult to actually get to know someone online. I will say that what you said in the update isn’t going to work in your favor though.

[ragequeen]

It might be how you express yourself. If you come across as an easy woman (act and dress sexy in public places, always fuck on the first date, etc), people will get the impression that you are not girlfriend material. If you think you are, try to act like it. Sometimes we believe ourselves to be someone we aren`t because it`s all about actions. However, also remember that not all people you meet actually want a committed relationship. Maybe you`ve just been unlucky?

[OlderAndWiser]

What happens when a guy approaches you? Does he say "Hi, do you wanna fuck?" or he starts flirting but then loses interest or what? How close do you get to dating someone?

[aWes0MeNeSs]

It may be the guys you are meeting, or if you struggle with self esteem or confidence issues, guys who like to take advantage of girls might pick up on that and see you as a target, unfortunately.

[hellionthesagereborn]

Well being fuckable and being dateable are very different and have different requirements. If you give it up easily that makes most men not want to date you because well, clearly sex isn't a big deal to you and if you gave it easily to them you probably gave it easily to others and if sex isn't a big deal to you now it probably won't be later i. e. men don't like women with high body counts or perceived high body counts. So that could be an issue.

Other issue is if you don't build up a rapport with them, an ability to have your conversations flow, then that makes you not really datable to them because well, dating means spending a lot of time with the person and if you can't engage in interesting conversation, thats going to be a deal breaker (despite popular belief sex is not the only criteria men use to determine being with a woman).

Also how you act is another issue i. e. if you can't see the person as a long term partner (i. e. wife and potentially mother figure) then your probably not going to date her (so you can be fun but fun is short term, their must be evidence of strong values and traits that will be desirable in long term relationships). So it could be that they are not seeing this in you or you are not adequately displaying those traits.

Lastly, though I think its probably least likely, is if your shy that generally can make you seem distant but that usually results in men not wanting to approach you at all. So while this is not likely the issue, it could be that you are holding back enough to make them think your only interested in casual or something like that (again, not sure if this is the case but its a possibility).

So do any of those sound like possibilities?

[Reaperbot666]

• majority of females are fuckable to some degree. yet only a handful are dateable long term in this modern age. regardless of gender, age, race, ethnic group, nationality, height, weight, etc.
• roughly 80% of people on dating apps/sites regardless of if their male, female or other. are typically looking for hookups and/or short term dating. much more often then long term relationships or marriage.
• the modern internet, social media, dating sites/apps and hookup culture. all played a role in opening a door for many people. to have a large amount of fuckable people to pick from.
• but the amount of people viewed as relationship material has gone down. since majority of people won't long term date someone with past hookup drama.

[Simplismilez]

When you say past hookup drama what do you mean?

[MCheetah]

1. Your standards could be way too high (this is usually the case for most women).
2. You could give off tomboyish vibes, which a lot of men may like, but not as girlfriend material.
3. You could be incompatible with the men you're with, or vice versa.
4. You could be devaluing your dating worth by sleeping around too much (if you are indeed doing that).
5. You're potentially not putting yourself out there or actually TRYING to date someone and just waiting for Prince Charming to come along and propose to you on a white horse.

[WilliamO]

If you have a high body count a lot of guys aren't gonna want a serious relationship. A high body count puts the thought into a guys head that "hey she's slept around a lot so it's more likely she'll cheat on me or not take the relationship as seriously as I will" or it just makes them uncomfortable that a lot of guys have been with you and it's hard to deal with. I'll be honest it would be difficult for me not to be bothered if the girl I loved had sex with a lot of guys. It's hard to explain why but it would just bother me. And the fact is women with higher body counts are more likely to cheat then women with low body counts. We aren't really trying to slut shame or anything it's just how it is.

[MrKinktastic]

So there’s a bunch of possible reasons but here are a few:


The guys you’re targeting/putting signals out for are in high demand or aren’t looking to settle down. (I think this is the most likely)


Almost all available men will say yes to sex requiring no investment of effort with an attractive woman, if you’re wanting a relationship you’ll want guys who are willing to put a bit of work in before they get sex out of it. That will reduce the amount of guys you get just looking for a quick lay and sweet talking you.


It could be some red flag coming up during the first few dates. Do you have a lot of cats/exotic pets or a bunch of morbid posters or something like that? Maybe it’s something random/silly like that scaring guys off.

[simonqq]

Interact with guys in other settings than dating apps, bars, clubs and parties. I think you can definitely find and if you are out there interacting then it will happen sooner or later. If you don't want to sleep with guys then don't but if you do then why regret it after. It's perfectly okay to have sex and I don't think you are valuing yourself less for wanting or having sex.

Anyhow it's probably just a question of time. For some others finding someone that will even touch them or want to speak with them is rough so since you are able to have sex you will be able to find a serious relationship as well. Unless you are terrible but even terrible people find partners.

[GingerGuy]

You have to take it less personally because it won't be you as a person (not likely), it's THEM! They don't want a relationship period, no matter the woman. Give it time and keep searching. Also (if you don't do this already), let the guy know right away this is what you are looking for and ask him what he's looking for. Say you don't want to waste anyone's time and you want to be sure you're on the same page. Women fear this "scares guys away", but it won't "scare" a guy that is looking for the same.

And, it's just hard these days period. I'm having a hard time finding a woman that wants anything serious as well.

[DWornock]

The reason is the same as for almost all young women that ask the same or very similar question. Guys date down for sex but they almost never marry down. For a relationship, they choose someone in their league but they are more than willing to fuck girls somewhat below their league. If you wanted a relationship with a guy within your league you could have it within a very short time.

However, you always reject guys within your league that would love to have a relationship with you. Instead, you chase after the hottest guys that will fuck you and. since you are below their league, they don't view you as relationship material.

[Simplismilez]

I actually avoid "hot guys" because they're out of my league. Like hot people seek other hot people

[DWornock]

I'm certain that is not true because it would be very easy for a girl as pretty as you to meet guys that would want to marry you. All you would have to do is make eye contact, smile, and say "Hi" to give them enough courage to approach you.

[thehorriblesheikh]

First of all, who you slept with or not has nothing to do with how much you value as a person. As for why you are fuckable and not dateable, that is quite difficult to answer, since I don't know a lot about you. Though I will try and answer your question as best I can.

If I was having sex with someone regularly and they asked me out, there are some basic things that I would think about, and they are as follows:

1. Are they honest in general (at least with me)?
2. Are they generally an empathetic person?
3. What is their general opinion about my gender?

These are the basic questions, and then there are some personal requirements. I assume most men care about these three basic things when it comes to dating. If you think you are honest, empathetic, and don't hate men, then I don't know why men aren't willing to date you.

[scorpy04]

I would hold you in high asteem Sounds like the guys you met are not right for you They are immature idiots didn't see what they had in front of them They probably did tell you your pretty as part of their conquest I can honestly say I wouldn't have kicked you into touch If I sleep with someone then its because that means something to me If someone shares that intimate moment then they should respect that person a future May I say one last thing please YOU ARE PRETTY Maybe the type your looking for is obviously not right for a princess like you

[laurieluvsit]

Somehow you have been mingling with losers.

You are extremely dateable and beautiful!

You need to start mingling with great guys that will treat you like the queen that you are.

If you are really serious about it, I will tell you exactly where to find them... I am not kidding!

[Daniela1982]

Because it got spread by former fuck mates that you are an easy lay. So why would a guy spring for a date, with the possibility of getting sex, when he knows he can get it for free by just telling you that you are pretty and hot?

[Jjpayne]

You have such a cute profile pic... It makes me sad. You look like you would be fun to date... I really don't understand how guys minds goes right into causal sex... I think on your profile you should say, I'm not looking for friends with benefits or causal sex. Hopefully that might help a little... But also switching the dating site might help too

[MikeTheBartender]

Tell us more without revealing personal details of course.

Do you own a house?

Do you have baggage like kids?

How often do you go to the gym?

What in your mind puts you above the other women?

What in you can you improve on?

❤️

[Simplismilez]

No I dont own a house and dont know anybody my age that does. So what does that have to do with anything?

No kids and dont want them.

What does the gym have to do with anything?

I'm capable of acting like an adult and working on myself to improve. I have a good heart and like to see the best in people.

I need to work on my own self esteem which I have been.

[MikeTheBartender]

Ok, the guy you want to be with, dream guy, what does he bring to the table?

[Simplismilez]

Loving, caring. Can hold a job and has a car. Willing to grow and become better in areas he needs to. Good at communication. Shares some interests and values similar to mine.

[MikeTheBartender]

Ok we have a good start. Besides internet I'd think about where that guy hangs out. You like a guy that likes to hike? Join a hiking group. Painter? Go to an art class. Of course my dating advice for 2020 kind of sucks with covid.

Wait till the 4th date to boom boom. But don't act like you don't want it if you do. Hey Simplismilez let's go back to my place? I would love to but I totally have to leave now because I have to meet my mom for breakfast at 7am etc etc. Within four dates if the guy is not alluding to future plans... We should go to a bar once this covid shit is done! Maybe he's not that interested. Good old indicators of interest... How long does he take to text or dare I say call you? If he calls he's SUPER into you. Are you his first priority or does it seem like you are second choice? My second and. third choices were always the early week day dates, Monday happy hour, Tues coffee etc. The top picks were reserved for weekends.

Ok I'm ranting hopefully some of it helped!

[Wintergrace]

Ultimately, it sounds like you need to value yourself more if you’re looking for a serious relationship. Set your standards higher, take it slower on dates, and then you will weed out the wrong guys. I would recommend looking into how you value yourself and doing confidence building exercises. You’re absolutely stunning, and any guy would be lucky to have you.

[Nmalinova]

Ok so it can be a few factors from dressing very openly lets say to being flirtatious to just being pretty! Sometimes people are too intimidated to be with someone pretty because of the fear you might leave for someone better so they rather keep it at a superficial level! Could also possibly be because they do not really know you and assume it's all about fun and partying (if you have an extroverted personality)... could be a few reasons really 😕

[Novacane]

It probably has to do with the type of men you meet or attract. I could also be the way you come off sometimes especially if you are someone who does hold back. Or you could have people who find you dateable but maybe you oversee them for those that don't want to date. I would say maybe be a bit more reserved and try to let people know from that start what you are looking for. hopefully that helps

[ohshee]

Do you really feel that way I don't see that I don't know you but through ur question and the way you look I think ur very dateable and to be 100 % honest your right your very fuckable but in order to really make you the hottest FUCKABLE I MEAN TAKE YOU TO THE PEEK THE BEST THE NAUGHTIEST Mrs fucking to the best and the wettest part if FUCKABLE you would want to date you because your not going to really get the best of it with out the other

[idkwattoputhere]

I don't know y people think having sex is part of dating.. it's not actually .. people are forgetting the propose of sex. Anyways ur attractive n well guys see that as a turn on.. ido what to say rn I have an exam now.. but don't worry not all guys wanna ploy

[fantasticass]

If you give off the vibe that you only want sex, then that is what you get. Give yourself boundaries and don't cross them. I date a guy for at least 3 months before we have sex. You need to read Steve Harvey's Book... Act like a lady, think like a man... it gives you all the advice you need. ✌

[jshm2]

It's a simple formula.

If a lock is easily opened by any key... it's a shitty lock.

You are probably seen as "easy" and need to stop putting out so quickly. Nothing wrong with it if you both have fun in the hookup. But you are obviously seeing it doesn't give over much to lasting relationships.

[Unit1]

You should watch the video posted in the question here Why 99% of guys don't approach women and how helpful this mans speech was

It shows, that players approach women like women go shopping for shoes while normal guys aren't making a move because of uncertainties.

[Simplismilez]

Yeah but how do I meet those guys that want to date?

[Unit1]

Good question.

Since I'm also one, who is looking for a girlfriend I would go to public places mostly. Beaches, parks, malls, carnivals, recreational locations (such as trampolines or a firing range) but certainly not on the street, public transport or bus stops. I heard women can be found in dance clubs.

If everything else fails, there's the worst solution called online dating. Yes, there are 49 boys out there, who are either unattractive or want only sex and 1 potential match but for me there have been 99 girls, who ignore me and 1 girl, who responds but then ghosts me when she asks me for my instagram and then ends up ghosting me because I don't have social media.

[David_Kek]

Oh I can easily answer that question right now... What else are you actually bringing to the table? Because if all you're bringing is your vagina, your prettiness and personality, then why are you surprised sex is all your good for?

As someone once said; "if a woman doesn't bring anything to the table but sex, just have sex with her on the table".

[AllThatSweetJazz]

I mean, if you’ve been with a lot of people, then they’re not going to want to date someone with too many previous sex partners. But they’re fine for a hookup, if they can get their end away and then move on to someone without so many previous partners then that’s what they’re going to do.

[Angelo75]

I think you are too self-aware.
But go with us through your behaviour around a guy when he meets you.
Do you play a little hard-to-get?
Or do you let him feel like "you're easy"?

If a man feels "you're easy" then maybe he'll wonder if you'll be loyal to him or "easy" for any other guy that comes along.
IMHO

[LukeLugh]

It is perhaps reasonable to assume men have an a priori (prior to knowing) sense that certain women may be more promiscuous than others. Through habits you begin to take on a certain disposition or "look" which make you appear more "fuckable" than deteable. Your present disposition is perhaps a remnant of what you said to have been a valueless sex life.

[Emily573]

Please dont take this the wrong way, but if you allow yourself the be fuckable than guys are getting what they want without needing to put the extra effort... but honestly, I think you aren't speaking the the right people as if aren't being made to feel like you are datable then these guys aren't worth your time :)

[sszatkow]

In my experience it’s more about the guy than you. Many guys just want sex, and those are the ones you are expecting more from. I don’t know anyone who switches gears like that. That girl I would only fuck. That girl I would date. Doesn’t really happen.

[SenseiSeptred]

To maybe put it simply, the word knowledge and everything that it encompasses. I am in that same boat because the problem with smart people is that it is harder for them to land a date, but when they do it becomes well known to the point that it seems like a near earthquake happens around everyone else in a spiritual and emotional way. Needless to say, I would date you if I was not already taken in my 6 pointed star relationship.

[KrisKris81]

If you are overly flirtatious some guys might lose interest in a relationship because the feeling of needing to prove yourself is constant.

You might have an odd personality "thing" (so to speak) or you might be so incredible in bed that it becomes the best part of the relationship, or because you're going after guys that are only interested in sex from the start.

[Alex_988_2]

Maybe you overanalyze stuff. I'm not saying guys don't do that. They do mostly, even the most hottest girls are sometimes only fuckable for guys.
But I'm not and I'd genuinely want to get to know you better. But here it's you who is not willing to understand that perhaps a right guy could be right there for 'you'.

[Simplismilez]

You want to get to know me but dont respect my decisions or even listen to me.

[SpaceGalaxy]

Because YOU allow yourself to be "fuckable" as you put it and not "dateable" You have to accept having been at fault about this as well. Have some respect for yourself and make sure they guy you are interested in is also interested in YOU and not just your ass & tits, and don't just give "it" up right away until you feel more assured about his "feelings" towards you. (his feelings as in his heart and NOT his penis)

[pizzalovershouse]

Cuz your meeting the guys who just want sex instead of a relationship those guys if they can just get hook ups then thats what they only want the guys who want a relationship are the ones yoj make wait a month or 2 for sex then they will stay if there descent an dont want hook ups as the old saying goes guys want the girl theycan take home to mom

[pizzalovershouse]

An im here to chat with people i fallow an help cheer them up or talk about how there doing of feeling so feel frer to say hi or message me private if you need someone to talk to

[nawtee_me]

I see you as datable. I mean I see no reason why, like you said, no one would want to date you. You are gorgeous and no I did not say that to get you in bed, I mean it. ;) I love your smile, very pretty eyes. It must be them because I can not see it being you...

I would love to chat and get to know you.

[Djrj67jedfjf]

Flattering rubbish. Do not fall for it lady unles you want to open your legs to 100 more men. Cause any guy can say anything.

[nawtee_me]

@Djrj67jedfjf You are right, just as any girl can say anything too. Relationship are built on trust and how can you expect to be trusted if you are not willing to trust as well?

[007kingifrit]

we can't answer this without knowing you. are you in good shape? do you have good values for a longterm relationship like wanting kids and wanting to get married? do you rant and rave on social media about extremist politics as is common for women these days?

we don't know what you're doing wrong

[Aiko_E_Lara]

Really? I don't think you're either. Any lowlifes can fuck anyone but why do you even agree? Don't act like you don't like to fuck. You just do and if they don't wanna date you because you don't fuck, why would you care? I thought you wanna be datable not fuckable.

[Mia-Wallace]

I don't know.

Do you fuck a lot? Because that is going to increase your "fuckability" and decrease your "dateablity" (if that's a word).

[bklynbadboy1]

Unfortunately I can't answer why your not dateable but your fuckable cause your really pretty girl but to know if your dateable I'd have to get to know you but you seek really nice and intelligent your personality seems pretty cool. I think they might be intimidated by you

[supercutebutt]

Do you consider this to be a bad thing? The only reason i like gettin' with a gentleman is for the pleasure his peen can bring me. Dating is so annoying!

[yyyuuuiii]

At least you're honest about it.

[jchappy124]

because you lack confidence and men love a challenge. dont give it up. stop being insecure, you are datable you are just picking absolute trash which I have done before, hold your chin up and let them fight for you and take you on a real date, make sure to text and call before the date and see if you mentally connect

[MannMitAntworten]

Personally I never use ploys to get “lucky”. Too damn disingenuous for my taste. As for the why, beats the hell out of me. It’s not like your photo radiates, “fuck me!” So it is difficult to even begin to speculate.

[Makeushiver]

I didn't know there was a distinction. We could try both and then I could give you an objective- and most importantly, well researched opinion. I hope that whomever you've been fuckable with has also gotten you off as often, minimally, as they have.

[JSmuve]

Because for a lot of guys, the bar for sleeping with a girl is a lot lower than the bar for being in a relationship, especially if she puts out before being in a relationship. Seems like you can clear the hook-up bar but not the girlfriend bar.

[fonduegirl]

There can be about a Million reasons for that. I can write up a Take on this but I don't want you to feel attacked. Plus some of the reasons I can think of are really anti feminist †

[bowenw]

Try not sleeping with anyone until you get to know them well and have gone on a few dates with them and they seem serious about wanting a long-term relationship with you.

[SunnySri]

That's great mam, keep working on your betterment and you will find the kind of person you are looking.
You need to take care of yourself mam and everything will work out for you.

[JayParris]

A great personality isn't the barometer of whether you're dateable or not. I know plenty of women who are hot and have great personalities, but aren't relationship material (for me).

[ninjafemme]

The problem here is you are very pretty , which all the sex freaks hunt after like a prey and decieve you for sex. As to why you can't get a date is a mystery to me because guys like pretty woman.

[Syrian_survivor]

Nothing personal, but honestly I'd never see a girl with a high body count as dateable, only fuckable, it's my instincts that push me away.

I'm a virgin, but I think the situation would be the same even if I had a body count of 3 for example.

[fierysoul]

I think you around bad people and you make it too easy for them.
if a guy can get his ultimate prize in bed without being a decent guy what can force him to date you in the right way?
some people can hide their intentions really well.

[ThiccNigro]

Sex appeal brings the guys in, personality makes them stay. It's simple really, they find you physically attractive but they don't find your personality appealing enough for whatever reason

[roastbeef]

To tell you the truth I dont know you as a person. But looking at your pic to me you would look datable as your beautiful smile and your eyes. To be a person's eyes tell a lot about the person. Heck make them work for home plate.

[PiscesGirlprobs]

Probably because you are looking and need to work on yourself first. When you’re ready, you will attract. Trust me.

[lukiduki]

Well lets look inside. Be honest, how do you see yourself when talking to strangers?

[havingfun101]

You're easy and only want men who're out of your league. Haven't you asked this before?

[Simplismilez]

Glad you're paying so much attention to me

[havingfun101]

I remember being 13 months old; don't flatter yourself. Just exercise more or lower your standards.

[Simplismilez]

Yeah okay dude. You know being a dick doesn't make you look as hardcore as you think it does

[Simplismilez]

Oh right but you're probably having to overcompensate for something. Lack of personality, small dick. Who knows?

[havingfun101]

Top 5% dick. You do the math.

[Simplismilez]

Oh. You have been burned by a woman before so that's where this tough guy act comes from lol. Does being a dick keep you warm at night? Does it make you feel better about your self absorbed attitude and obvious inability to grow up and utilize coping skills?

[havingfun101]

Yes, it does. by the way: Google says top 3% x 1% so I'll probably sleep even better.
Coping is for girls?

[Simplismilez]

No. Coping is for adults. Dealing with trauma and toxic behavior is for adults. Evidently which you are not. Covering up your toxicity with an attitude doesn't make you any better then anybody else. And you had to use Google to reassure yourself about your dick haha yeah. You need the validation more then me dear. But you have a nice rest of your day because I'm over this conversation.

[jcampbell115]

Can you message me? We can talk about my thoughts on this

[LEADFOOTboi]

cuz the dating market is broken rn... I don't know why people wanna have sects but NOT EVEN DATE THE PERSON... it's beyond my understanding... cuz i'm EXCLUSIVE ASF