If someone says “youre out of my league”, do you see it as them being insecure OR? (Page 2)

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I know most of you will say you dont believe in leagues but we’re going to discuss it anyways. If i’m being 100% honest, if i feel someones out of my league, its likely because i dont see myself working to get to their level. For example, if i got all dolled up and Brad Pitt took me on a date, I’d end it with “I had a great time but you're so out of my league.” I say that because 99% of the time, I’m going to be dressed in sweats and walking around with that “i just woke up” bed hair 😂 I’m not willing to make the efforts to get on his level in the long run, so I may as well say he’s out of my league, send him on his way, and save him from my lack of efforts since I’m not willing to change. Now lets say, he likes me for the tomboy i am. Its happened before. But i dont fully trust they’ll stay happy. I liked this guy Robbie in college. He was 9/10 gorgeous. Dude looked like a model but he liked plain jane ole ME. However, I overheard comments he made to other guys about how cute he found the girls covered in makeup and wearing dresses. It was clear that my lack of efforts to appear more feminine would mean that I’d never truly be enough for him. So why waste my time if i refuse to be that girly girl that he would find MORE attractive in the long run. So i quit pursuing him 🤷‍♀️ I had an ex who told me “youre too much” and literally followed up with the fact that he didn't want to get a job and do his part in the relationship. He said he wanted to let his parents take care of him as long as possible so that he could sit around and play games all day. See he wanted me to stay but that warning was a way to save me from himself. I say take it with a grain of salt and see the statement as a compliment rather than just someone being insecure.  
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WesBrewer · Answer

I haven't told someone nor has someone told me that I am out of their league, and I just see it as a copout or they are insecure, I personally don't care about the league's thing though.

Avicenna · Answer

I don’t really believe in leagues, but if she says that it tells me she doesn’t think it would work out between us.

spartan55 · Answer

Turning someone down because you think they are out of your league is just flawed logic. To take it a step further and presume to know they will eventually break up with you is borderline stupid.

Kurαȷ · Answer

I don't take it as a compliment, I take it as a backhanded way for them to say they are not interested, so I bid them adieu and not contact them again.

Birdlegs · Answer

If I tell a girl she’s out of my league it’s a way to compliment her while also fishing for a compliment myself cuz 99% of the time her answer is “what no you’re way cuter than me”

DJB72 · Answer

I'm a 48 year old guy with one leg. If she says I'm out of her league then unless she's blind and suffers from leprosy I know she's full of crap...

Shark_61695 · Answer

I went for B but I relate most with the meme in C. I feel I'm playing a completely different game, looking for someone to grow old with not for right now. Unfortunately without a now, there is no future.

Anonymous · Answer

I've always been objectively 1-2 leagues above my partners (physically more attractive not to say they where unattractive, higher social status), and it's never bothered me.

But i suspect most women would react differently to boyfriend being too low a league for them.

strawberrylipstick · Answer

Usually I'll say someone's out of my league even if they show interest first, no way trust issues XD On a different note: "fuck having celebrities for spouses" What XD Why 😂

HikerDude · Answer

No, I take it more as a compliment. Most girls don't believe in that stuff, so it's more their way of saying that you're much hotter than the typical guys they talk to.

Alyssa11 · Answer

It’s insecure and I have no business dating someone who hasn’t discovered themselves and learned to love themselves for who they are yet.

loveslongnails · Answer

When a guy says "you're out of my league", it could mean what you said above, which is for the most part, insecurity. However, it might also mean that " I can't afford your tastes or your the lifestyle you're used to, financially."

Wiredone · Answer

I have never had a woman tell me I'm out of her league. I am just like you discribed with Brad pitt. I could never date someone as beautiful as Heather locklear because that type is way out of my league.

JDavid25 · Answer

Yeah I would take it they are insecure and really believe it if they actually say it cause people nowadays usually wouldn't say that..

Ripper_E · Answer

I'd see it as them having a big ego. There are no leagues. We are all free to choose.

Trooper205 · Answer

To me, if someone said "You're out of my League", I think that means They seem inferior. "I'm out of Your League", I'd say that means they think they're superior.

Ellie-V · Answer

Yes... if your thought process ends with “I’m not enough...” then that means you’re just insecure.

JosyJosy · Answer

I find it arrogant and I'd be relieved to know that that is how he thinks to avoid wasting any more time

jasco · Answer

No one is out of me league. If i want that person i will try my best to get her and if she says no i ask her why and see if i can find someone else and if need be change some things

Shiver · Answer

Insecurity. I don't bother when someone says that anymore. Waste of my time to convince them I'm not to then have them crumble 2 weeks later anyway.

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