Yes. But it depends on the vibe in the initial conversation. If the vibe is fuck buddy or friends with benefits then absolutely. I've invited a girls over date one and had sex. Still friends. Started an friends with benefits type thing even though i didn't know her prior.
I've had online sex chats and had women invite me over on a first date for sex. Then friends with benefits thing.
To accomplish this a man must know what he's doing. He must know how to be a confident masculine man who can be direct about what he wants. And he must know and understand women and pick up on her vibe.
In MOST cases? No. Id prefer to meet for a drink in public first. Then from there we have sex at hers or mine or I kiss goodnight and wait for date 2 or 3.
Typically if she isn't willing to have sex by date 2 or 3 she isn't very into the guy. I weed out women who are just playing games, have personal issues, seeking attention, or just want free meals or drinks.
Notice how I said "typically". Not all women. So hold your angry fire.
here's the deal. As a man, you want to date women who are PASSIONATELY and sexually attracted to you. Men and women typically know within 3 seconds if they would fuck you. The rest is just preening and window dressing. They know based on pictures, conversation, or 3 seconds of meeting you. Relationship attraction is a different story. Remember a male or female can say no to sex anytime.
I would prefer a first date in my home a quiet atmosphere where I can be the one to cook or order takeout and then pretend that I cooked it (white lies). In a place that I’m familiar with but I don’t think that a woman of any formal particular intelligence would agree to that. I mean you got to be pretty stupid to go to a man’s home oh which you barely know.
It would be irresponsible on my part to ask a woman to do that even if it gave me more comfort. It would be irresponsible and her part to except unless she’s known me for a significant amount of time and if that’s the case will probably be married within a few months because we already know each other and she’s probably already been to my house.
If you are young like teens and parents are home cool but in my experience that's a really bad idea. It's great from the perspective that people are able to reveal a lot as they are in their comfort zone but that can make them really control the situation and that's dangerous in my eyes you need to be able to vet them first...
Public arena until you feel you can tryst said person.
It sounds like he wanted to what do they call it these days 🤔
"Netflix and chill"...
I mean it could be with this pandemic going on there is less available places to go to but in my city there's still restaurants and even bars that are open with limited capacity... Guess it depends on the vibes you get from him...
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u An invitation to a guy's house for a first date means that he wants to have sex on the first date.
NO WAY!! First date, first SEVERAL DATES, are ALWAYS IN PUBLIC!!! For her comfort, and mine, as well!!
What if she turns out to be some CRAZY CLINGY STALKER TYPE? LOL!!
Seriously, it is ALWAYS best for the first few dates to be on "neutral ground"!
Usually, for me, when she is comfortable with me, she invites me to her place, and wants to cook for me (I like cooking, and it's something we sometimes shared) but I have to wonder, also, if she is thinking about "after dinner" and maybe something more intimate, especially on Friday, or Saturday nights, and a lot of wine. . .
He wanted to chitty chitty hang hang? More than likely he may not have known if you were comfortable going out into group settings or where to go. With this virus, our bars shut down at 10pm where I live and me and my friend have been staying in because we're not sure how some places operate now. How old are you by the way. I have had more than a few ladies invite me over to their house for a quiet evening so we can have more of a one on one and connect on a deeper level. Are you concerned with him being a serial killer or the fact he's not spending money?
Why not? We are grown up's, We can sit and talk and enjoy the night. Unless you are dating a freak or a creep then yeah. I can understand from a girls point of view but from my perspective I'm just looking to have some good company not looking for sparks to fly just get to know her and show her a good time that's all. If she enjoyed herself then why the hell not?
We are not kids, we as adults respect our spaces and as such it's how we interpret one another's motives. I was born in a loving house where there was no evil and everyone was welcome and everyone who came left with a smile. This is my home and I treat it as such.
Yes I've done. Had mixed results. About 50/50. The reasons are:
1. Sex
2. Save money
That's it. Saved you a lot of time. He's either trying for sex and looking to make it easier because you're already there. Especially if there's wine.
Or he wants you to be comfortable coming to his place so next time you can have sex easier.
No--definitely not for a first date. If she lives nearby I might have her come by my place to meet before we go out, and at most I might give her a tour, but then I'd immediately take her out.
Inviting her over for a date is something I'd only do a few dates in. Before that we would have gone out for drinks, and would have done fun things while out. At some point I probably would take her back to my place for a drink after a date (where we'd likely make out--a LOT! lol!). But inviting her over for a date to watch a movie is pretty much code for, "come over to my place and let's pretend to watch something while instead we make out, get naked, have sex, maybe make dinner together and/or order in, have more sex and you can plan to stay over."
Generally not a good first date plan!
It depends how well I know the person, I had a first date at my house when I met a girl through a colleague, it was her daughter so I knew she would be trustworthy, and her mom knew I wouldn’t try anything “funny”. Besides this situation I would never.
I wouldn't because I'm not trying to have sex on the 1st date. My only objective on the 1st date would be to get to know this woman and see if we have compatibility.
Hell no, I don't want someone I'm not even sure about long-term having that kind of access to me.
I don't really do any asking myself, but I assume that sometimes it's the comfort of bein in your own home in a situation that can be stressful. I'd love to be in a familiar and comfortable area for a date, especially if you take into account any anxiety issues. Could be that it's not that, but personally that's why I would if I asked someone out.
The last guy I dated we met in person at a park and spent almost the whole day just walking around then he invited me back to his house for a movie. I was fully not expecting it but I felt so comfortable with him and so safe that I agreed but followed him in my own car. He did want to have sex but when I said not yet he respected me and dropped it and we just cuddled while watching a movie
I would not invite a woman to my house for the first date because I know she'd refuse. Inviting a girl to your house means it's you who has complete control over the environment be it; privacy, familiarity, logistics, etc. and makes you in a position to put pressure on her to compromise. At the end of the day it's all about sex and you're more likely to feel emboldened if you're both at your house, as compared to somewhere public.
Always meet someone you have never met irl in a public place with other people around. No matter how well you think you know them, you don't know them. Even after you have met someone irl it takes time to get to know them.
Maybe this guy is just immature, but it's not cool for him to invite you to his house on a first date. His intentions might be good, but then again they might not be. Don't find out. You did the right thing. Meet him in a public place or not at all.
Yes why not, if I dont have enough in my budget to go out to eat and I can do something for her at home, I would ask her if that was something she would be interested in, maybe a home dinner date, with an art class before hand do some painting, cook a meal together, and have a drink with here, and the end of the night get her a taxi home.
No because you woman are so judgmental. Few woman I dated and invited to my apartment they were judgmental over my apartment not being clean. Why do you woman care about clean so much in fact they wanted to used a near by store bathroom because they bitch about my bathroom which I see nothing wrong you woman are all like eww the toilet has pee when you can actually flush it yourself
I’ve done it and we ended up having sex. I wasn’t exactly trying to (not that it wasn’t on my mind) but having her over was super convenient lol. I would suggest that as a first date again but I would put up more boundaries lol.
So yeah he’s probably looking for sex on the first date lol.
Hell no! That's just clueless. A woman who doesn't know me would have to be foolhardy to get in my car or meet me in any private space. A guy your age should know better. Either that or he has no money to pay for a date.
NEVER do this.
Noo. I don’t want any “person” having my address unless I know they’re sane and trustworthy. The last thing I need is a crazy woman showing up at my door without warning.
He might just not be aware of the precautions women need to take. I'd never invite a stranger to my house. They don't know me and I don't know them. Even if we've been getting to know each other.
I always refuse this type of first dates. I don't feel uncomfortable going to someone's house and I don't even know them yet I'm always very suspicious of their intentions so I'd rather go to a restaurant or a bar maybe.
During this pandemic why not , what else is there really to do , I would definitely talk to them on the phone first and video chat them before showing up first , make sure you feel comfortable with them before attempting to go over
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