Does using makeup, make you a fraud?

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caring__1 · Accepted Answer

When girls can't allow anyone to see them without makeup on (including their husbands), then it is fraud. The purpose of makeup (not stage makeup) is to draw attention to your positive attributes and minimize the negative ones. Ideally, we want to see the person, not the makeup. When we see the makeup, it appears as a mask they are hiding behind. It doesn't take much makeup to enhance, but going overboard is presenting a bait and switch. You'd be implying you're one thing, but not who you actually are. Be true to yourself, and let people who are drawn to that image appreciate you as you are. For every type of person, there are people who are drawn to that type. Let people see the real you rather than pretending you're something else (which is the definition of fraud).

What I've always found myself drawn to isn't what society promotes as the ideal. Therefore, it has been very challenging to find someone I'm drawn to who feels there is value in what she brings to a relationship. This leads her to have low self-esteem, and it is miserable to be in a relationship with someone who has low self-esteem. They constantly put themselves down and minimize whatever compliments you give.

OlderAndWiser · Accepted Answer

Getting a haircut before a date is a fraud.
Cleaning your car before a date is a fraud.
Taking her to a nicer restaurant that you would normally patronize is a fraud.
Controlling your temper and not cursing the driver who cuts in front of you when your date is with you is fraud.
Acting nicer to your parents when you introduce her to them is fraud.

Sure, it's all fraud.

littlelady1234 · Accepted Answer

I think to a degree it does. If you're using makeup just for yourself and trying to feel good about yourself then I don't think it does. However, if you're one of those girl that like to get all the attention on instagram then yes it most likely means it does. Like why else would you want to put all that makeup on just to show off on instgram. It mostl likely means that you're doing it for attention. LIke you want to prove to people how pretty you are when most likley its fake. All the plastic surgeries, the filters, and makeup is just supposed to make fake girls feel good about themselves to try to look cool in front of people and to be honest its fake. Like dont get me wrong if you want to wear makeup because you want to feel good about yourself and you genuinely like it then no you're not fake and there's nothing wrong. However if you're an attention-seeker and someone that tries to act all that on social media (kinda like those people that buy hella guccia but dont make a lot of money) then you're fake. you're not naturally pretty and you just boys to be impressed by you when you're not even being real

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

I understand why some would say yes. I do wear makeup, and it DOES cover a lot of my imperfections and it does a really good job enhancing my features. It really changes how I look, I cannot deny that. So it may make others think that people who wear makeup are "frauds", but I myself don't wear them to deceive other people, I simply feel a lot more confident in myself when I wear them. I have very low self-esteem and wearing makeup helps a lot. Even the process of doing them gives me joy, and seeing the "finish look" and liking how they turn out makes me feel good about myself. I have a lot of issues lmao and im one of those pessimistic people who hate themselves, but makeup makes me forget all those for a while. When my boyfriend compliments me that I look pretty, I always hit him with the "its the makeup" answer, and he still compliments me when im not wearing any, and although i know he be lying lol, it feels kinda nice. So ps, guys your words mean a lot to your girls, especially when she's feeling a little insecure every now and then.

chevymcgthatsme · Answer

No not nesiseraly it's not a fraud if u want to look good for the boyfriend it's not a fraud wearing it everyday for a walk or to a shop everydaybmake up Is afraid I would say the only time I wear makeup is on a special occasion apart from tht I can show my real me nd face I dont need to hide my face to look good and even a hour or two at my boyfriends I take it off so I get done up with makeup to go to my boyfriend and sometimes jst go up casual without makeup when I do it's off in the nxt hour makeup everyday is very bad for skin that's why I don't wear it every say I jst show my real face nd if people that dont like it fk them nd awl give them a fkn face they will need to keep makeup on 24 seven when am done wae them the cheeky cunts so iam a show my real face person makeup hardly now and then to see my boyfriend thts when I wear it

MuffinBoi · Answer

Let's say I give you 2 shoe boxes. They are both identical in every way, dimensions and all except for the fact that one of them is embellished neatly in shiny red Christmas-themed wrapping paper with a lovely green bow tying it all together. If I then ask you which looks nicer, you're likely going to tell me that the wrapped up box looks better, and yet; you know they are one and the same box. You can tell by it's weight, it's dimensions, the way it sounds when you tap on it's side.

The point I'm trying to get across is even though their face may have makeup on it to hide some of the small little faults within their facial area, they're still recognisable physically. Makeup doesn't change their facial dimensions or nose shape, much like how wrapping up a box in wrapping paper doesn't change it's size or shape. Ergo, someone using makeup to enhance their appearance doesn't make them a 'fraud'.

Purple_Rose · Answer

I'll be honest. I'm not very big into makeup. I put on a little eyeshadow, lip gloss and concealer to cover acne scars and that's it. It amazes me how someone can literally rework their entire facial structure by contouring and highlighting and everything.

Also, guys a lot of you are really stupid when it comes to makeup. I constantly hear men saying they want their woman to look "natural" but they always chase after the women who are the polar opposite of that.

GirlsTonguesHOT · Answer

Some may consider "penis lengthening pills" to be nothing more than a fraud. And quite honestly, I'm inclined to agree. First off, they only add TWO-THREE inches to your P-shizzel and not the five that's promised on both the front and the back of the box. So yes, my tall Japanese-Vietnamese girlfriend's 6 inch tongue is STILL bigger than my 5 inch honey noodle. Also, the effects last for only several hours and not the fourteen as promised on the back of the box.

But I can rant about my laughably tiny Johnson later. No. Wearing MU (not "Marvel Universe", nerds) isn't a fraud. I apply beauty cream to my face and conditioner to my hair. Are those frauds? I would say "no". Besides, I'm going to wind up learning what you truly look like anyway soooo... yuppers.

TheorionMage · Answer

In a species that's SO innately DEEPLY visually motivated,
why would ANYONE not enhance other's perceptions of their 'desirability' in the social hierarchy...
there's hypocritical 'Pollyanna' romanticism and then, there's 'real world' pragmatism.

Why do you think there are such stringent societal prohibitions about dressing and grooming pre-teen female children as seductive adults for "beauty contests"? And, those perceived as 'baby-faced'?
Youth & beauty are naturally 'perishable' commodities.

Look up the movie stills from Jodie Foster's "Pretty Baby"---

Anonymous · Answer

I'm a girl who wears makeup, and I'm being honest I would not be attractive without makeup. I'd not be asked out by boys if I don't wear makeup. I'm not ugly nor am I average looking, I'm just not confident. So I wear makeup to gain confidence.
I've seen many average or below average girls wearing makeup and they totally turn into divas. But beautiful women also wear makeup.
These days I have seen videos of women sticking tapes under their jaws to shape it, placing some sort of artificial nose, wearing so much eyeshadow to make the eyes look bigger, drawing lips to make it look big etc. These are all frauds in my opinion.
I don't do any of these, I just enhance my features with makeup, so it's upon others to decide if I'm a fraud.
According to your question, if using makeup qualifies someone as a fraud, I'm a fraud.

ChiTown33 · Answer

If i showed up dressed as Ironman would you believe i was him. Or would you see through that? I mean it does make you a fraud but i would like to think a guy sees through it. Especially if she's wearing a ton of makeup. One eay to find out. Dial back the makeup with each date and see if his interest starts waning. The way i see it the woman who uses a lot of makeup might only end up tricking herself. I mean they guy might go out with her, maybe they sleep together, but the mixture of him getting a look at that face without makeup plus the baby batter no longer being in his brain might make him run for his life.

modelUN242 · Answer

Makeup is supposed to enhance your features, it's not supposed to be a mask. So, yes it can be deceiving. I hate foundation because it's cakey and makes me look different. I prefer a natural look anyways. I think makeup should be worn occasionally or for fun, but not everyday. When I was younger, light makeup would be worn everyday, but now, heavy makeup is worn everyday, weird... Instagram has definitely made it normal.

lol20075 · Answer

I think makeup should enhance the face but not completely change it. I put on a bit of makeup (no eyeshadow, no eyeliner, no bronzer). Just a light coverage foundation with a subtle amount of blush, maybe draw in my eyebrows a teeny bit (not stamped on/thick brows). I used to be all for that full-faced makeup look but now not so much. I've learned to embrace my face the way it is and not be so focused on every imperfection on my face.

Luv2BRealExotic13 · Answer

No, I use makeup sometimes but I don’t look or use it to look drastically different unless I’m doing specialfx. I don’t think anyone wants me to show up to a date looking like a zombie gushing blood, a skeleton, or some terrifying creature outside of Halloween.

Youryeodongsaeng · Answer

I mean, there's a limit.

If a girl wants a guy and she managed to get one by wearing makeup, there's no doubt the guy fell for her looks and not her personality.

What's a relationship when one partner is using the other for... Whatever they want to use them for?

Using this to catfish, yeah it'll make you fraud.

JamieLoves · Answer

As a guy, it can be disturbing waking up to a women with out her makeup. When I was young it happened to me and I left ! Not one of my prouder moments. I have an iPhone app called MakeApp. that lets you take a women’s picture and it removes her makeup. It’s truly amazing how some women look without it.
Is it fake? I’m not sure, because I love how women look with it. So I’m just as guilty. I get past it now. Many women I’ve been with for years at a time, just looked like a sleepy version of themselves. Guess I’ve been pretty lucky.

Lliam · Answer

Not at all. Does wearing a bra make you a fraud? Does hair color or hair style or nail polish make you a fraud? Does waxing or shaving make you a fraud?
Every women, aside from teen agers, looks best with a bit of makeup. I don't care for heavy makeup. But the "no makeup" makeup look rocks. It sets women apart from men. It makes them glow. And I love feminine women.

DailyFairy · Answer

Make up is almost all men n women way of making themselves look good, just like when u buy an outfit. If u liked her when she had makeup n when she takes it off u run away, it seems like u both r fraud she for her makeup n you for ur feelings. U deserve each other hoho.

ANR29 · Answer

I wear just light amount of make up. But my face is clear complexion anyways so really just evens my tone. A little blush mascara and odd time add lipstick. And that isn’t hiding my lips it’s showing them off where as they’re not as noticeable on women as much nude as compared with it. Or I wear a shade next to my own lip color. So only thing I’m really hiding totally is my blond eye lashes 🤣

Apple1996 · Answer

Eh yeah kinda. Its more that if I see a women wearing makeup it basically just shows me that they prefer to waste time and money on their insecurities instead of just living their life. So that doesn't really make them fake just makes them stupid.

Anonymous · Answer

I don't think it does, makeup is a form of self-expression and it gives women that confidence guys find attractive (don't do it for guys do it for you) I used to but on heavy amounts of makeup and I found it make me less attractive, but once I started experimenting with my features and skincare I found a perfect balance that complimented my features. Whatever gives a woman confidence isn't a fraud.

karangill · Answer

The attention is given to the mask but the person behind thinks the attention is being given to them because they aren't aware of the mask anymore, it's become a part of themselves. This attention helps boost ego and increase self esteem for some period of time.

Makeup
Dating apps
Social media

These all are used for the same purpose - attention.

Hyped_up_on_coffee · Answer

No , and a man is kind of an idiot if he expects you to look the same without it. I say just know how to do make up for each occasion. Minimal for everyday , all the way when going out , and for goodness sake don’t cake it on.

nella965 · Answer

In my opinion when society is filled with such shallow men. You can't possibly ever get a guy unless you look hot. Its a lesson for shallow people in our society. I have no problem wearing a full face caked with makeup on a first date.

Justacatlady · Answer

Not a fraud. Yes it does change the way a person looks but if it isn’t crazy extensive like with tapes and those techniques that change the face shape, then it is simply an accentuation of what is already there

ThePolishKnight37 · Answer

Could not vote because we need a little makeup versus hiding Like the woman is doing in the original picture. If you look way different without makeup you are being a fraud. That is the true meaning of coyote ugly. Women that look so different in the morning with no make up. If you need that much makeup you have no personality.

Skankhunt · Answer

If you use makeup, you trick people, they see you are beautiful, but in fact, men don't like girls who use makeup. We like natual, natural beauty is way more beautiful than using makeup to hide your true beauty.

Women use makeup to feel more beautiful, but the reality is that your beauty is fake. Your true beauty is way more beautiful. There's no reason to feel insecure about your body, you perfect the way you are.

Spade07 · Answer

You may not wear makeup to fool guys but to simply make yourself feel better about yourself. More secure.

This is exactly why I think it is fraud. You're just using the fraud against yourself. Which is even more sad. Read the book, "psycho-cybernetics by maxwell maltz". It will help you.

loveslongnails · Answer

If you want to get "technical" about it, then yes, any amount of make up is designed to conceal, enhance or create a deception. But practically speaking, that would depend on how much make-up, in my opinion.

CubsterShura · Answer

Anything other than showing up in your morning unwashed face and uncombed hair with the natural smell of your overnight stale sweat is a fraud at this point.

Sincerly_KittyCat · Answer

If you are looking completely different, yeah you are scammer. But if you can look good with or without make up, Nope

DiscomfortZone · Answer

No, I wouldn't say it does, unless the woman used makeup in a certain way that isn't her every day ordinary way, made herself look very different to what she looks like normally, then uploaded that picture to a social network or dating site. Same as using enhancing filters - that's indeed fraudulent.

MissKittyz · Answer

I personally don't think so because at the end of the day, you can remove it lol it isn't permanent. So eventually you will see that person without makeup at some point.

Smashingdoozy · Answer

Guys who think it's a fraud or think women are "lying" because our face doesn't look like that are stupid. Like no shit Chad my eyelids aren't naturally purple. Make up just enhances natural beauty.

_DARKNESS_ · Answer

I would’ve chosen a middle ground opinion if there were one, because it depends on the extent of makeup applied.
for the girls that become almost unrecognisable after applying a crap-tonne of makeup (it definitely exists), I’d say yes, it could “make you a fraud”
for the girls that only apply a light amount of makeup, I’d say no, not at all, since they usually maintain a more natural look that’s true to their appearance

Aiko_E_Lara · Answer

If that is what you intended to do then absolutely. But anyone can just make lies that they do it for themselves as an excuse to hide their insecurities saying they don't do it for anyone and of course i'm not talking about or makeup users. They can lie to anyone but they can't lie to themselves.

ZackBan · Answer

Not a fraud no but it does mean that your beauty came from someone with a biology degree.
Yoy gain points for looking good but lose points for not being confident enough in how you look without any cover-ups.

Bee-Hatch · Answer

No. It's a thing that gets used to alter appearances. But if you go down that route, Ronald McDonald, the star of every film and TV show you love, and a fair percentage of the world's all committing fraud. It's just not like that.

Tstrbrainer · Answer

I don't give a fuck.
The people who are wearing makeup are not bothering me in any way. They are not asking me to take them on a date or marry them or sleep with them. They just walk past me like I'm a nobody.

So why should I complain about them trying to look beautiful?

Espresso-Grande · Answer

Not necesarily. I can often see if a woman is naturally pretty/beautiful by her facial features, despite her wearing makeup.

FreyaRed · Answer

It's just a makeup. Guys who consider this as fraud should really work on expanding of their mental horizon.

clalinesuu · Answer

I dont do heavy makeup, so me with and without makeup would just look like me looking so pale and dead or me looking brighter and fresher.

Silver158 · Answer

to be fair to women, half of you look awful without makeup because wearing makeup ruins your skin which then forces you to keep wearing makeup. It's really a false economy.

Also I like day makeup on a girl not that cake it till you make it fad that's been going on the past couple of years.

pink_and_inlove · Answer

No it just depends on how much you wear if you wear natural makeup or just a little touch of lipstick mascara and blush it shouldn’t change your appearance that much unless maybe you over line your lips

spartan55 · Answer

I you could have included some sort of middle ground choice... fraud is too strong a term for me... but some of the freak shows I see these days... yikes... especially the Sharpie eyebrows.

Marco86 · Answer

Absolutely. Some women that are like a 2 or 3 look like a 6 or 7 with make up. The best thing to do on a first date is to go swimming, then you can really see the person you are getting into a relationship with. Why wait for 6 months to see her real face?

comberchick · Answer

Makeup's not a friend it enhances your beauty those apps that change your actual facial structure are frauds give you lip injections bigger eyes narrower cheeks that's a fraud

LaLunaGoddess · Answer

I don’t think that make up is the issue here, I think it’s apps like ‘FaceTune’ .. I’ve seen many a woman who looks nothing like her actual pictures due to face tuning her face. It’s really quite depressing :(

NetSapien · Answer

nope I see makeup on women as something worn, like part of the dressing. Most people like to look nice and feel good about their appearance.

burlen · Answer

Not necessarily a fraud, but it is potentially deceptive. In other words, it is a false representation of one's facial composition.

exitseven · Answer

Everyone wants to look their best. Guys go to the gym and shave their bodies and try to look their best. As long as you are not faking your personality it's all okay.

hi_it_is_me123 · Answer

I dont wear make up but we should not be obsessed with looks so much. If a guy just end a date althiugh he liked her personality and almost everything, then it is his loss. Men also lie about their height, hide their faces behind beards etc.

Mark-IV · Answer

With the way the world is becoming, a significant amount of the value of the modern girl is attached to her looks, so if she fakes her look it’s fraud

Mr_longLegz · Answer

Nope. Men lie about dick size, job, etc etc. Making yourself look better for you is not a big deal. If a guy does have an issue with it, they better be the most honest person on the planet.

TheUniqueOne96 · Answer

Well if someone looks 10000x better with it on, to the point where they don't look like their natural self, then yeah, it kind of is.

SavageGirl101 · Answer

Ofc not 😭as long as you’re not like being a complete catfish with it

jshm2 · Answer

Depends on the purpose you're dressing up for.  It's not as "bad" as push up bras though.

pigoat · Answer

It's 50/50 Nothing interesting about it That's the ideal answer because not all women need make up and some women need make up

Ace_Chidorigafuchi · Answer

Man who cares that's a trophy piece. She's drop dead stunning in cake face, and so what, it hella works.  10/10 clapping cheeks.

sheikalana · Answer

Only if it makes you look like a completely different person.

alexander3244 · Answer

No, of course not. Every good girl deserves to be a princess :) Notice that I said "good" and not all of them, those "know-it-all", toxic girls are not included.

TChenny · Answer

It really depends. Is the makeup being used to mask something? Or is it being used to enhance what you already have? Subtle difference but a difference nonetheless

Becky316 · Answer

I think it adds to the fantasy. Does anyone have different looks for different reasons?

JDavid25 · Answer

It can if you don't show yourself without the makeup.. So not necessarily..

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