@wtf636Agreed, the topic could easily support a thread of it own imho.
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What is it with men that pretend to be something different than what they r to attract a partner and then get upset when the woman finds out who they really r and prefers the fake version of themselves that they presented in the relationship to begin with?
@zed-789Your example is apples and oranges. You are talking about a guy being something different than what they are (whatever that means)@kingofthellamas is talking about girls trying to fundamentally change who they are.And to your point, people ALWAYS show you who they are, but girls tend to only see what they want to see, and ignore the flaws. Guys do this too, but girls definitely more. If you are always choosing guys who are constantly lying to you then you might to adjust your standards upward.
I do agree and I’m not saying that does not happen but as a woman that knows other women from my past experience and the experiences of others many times it not the notion to change a man. Many times u get into a relationship and they show u that they r a certain way for months and then slowly start to bring out bits and pieces of who they really r. How do we know which to believe? Is the shit behavior that slowly creeped out who he was all along? Or am I just over thinking things as a woman misinterpreting each time he had a bad day? By the time we actually figure out which is which, years has already gone by. Now the new question is. Do u end ur relationship after investing so much into it? Or stick around to c if he changes? Maybe I can help him remember that he’s the guy she showed me in the beginning of the relationship? Then before u know it u’ve put urself into a cycle of trying to “change” a man. It’s just like gambling. U get so deep, that instead of thinking logical to just cut ur losses u think “if I just bet a little more money I can fix this” then ur out more money than before. U pare that notion with women being natural nurturers, it’s an equation for disaster. I’ve only known a couple women that purposely found a guy that was nothing they wanted and they thought they could “build him” into what they wanted. It’s easy to spot these women, they start from the second month of the relationship nit picking on simple things.
@zed-789 What you are describing is not a guy/girl thing. Its the same with all relationships, male / female, romantic or not. Plenty of times I've met people through work, as an example, and its taken months for me to see them for who they really are. So if you are in a romantic relationship and you think he's changing, he's not. You've just rushed in too quick.But if you are trying to change someone, sorry, thats just plane wrong.
Again I’m not saying it happens but this must be depending on cultural or location. Because where I’m from women rarely pick up a dude they premeditated changing.
I like to hear his side of the story
You're right leave that plastic surgery alone
May God give both of you many more years together and in good health.
Exactly! That kind of mindset I find hot. Why change for the sake of relationship?
I'm talking being demanding and asking for certain ways to do things in a relationship and them refusing.