Why do some people go into denial after being rejected by their crush?

[Anonymous]

I've ran into some people guys and girls who can't seem to accept the fact that their love interest doesn't like them back and can't seem to move on from it. I saw this one thing on here saying that a pudgy kid kept asking this one girl out over and over again after she said no multiple times. Like why do people do that? or why does it seem that some people are in denial and can't accept it and move on to someone else?

[caring__1]

Unfortunately, people assume relationships are all about them, and they don't show they care about how anything impacts the other. Does it makes any sense to want someone who doesn't want you? What would be the value of that relationship? Would you get involved with someone you didn't care for, just because the other person cared about you? People go into denial, because all they care about is themselves.

If you truly want a healthy relationship, make sure what you bring to the relationship is what the other values. Don't just look at what you believe you're entitled to receive. If you're not considerate of the other person's feelings, how can you expect that person to be considerate of your feelings? Do you care enough about the other person that you truly want that person to be happy, even if with someone else, or is it all about you?

[Asker]

I totally agree with what you're saying this seems to be the case especially with some people in the younger generation. Like some parents raised their kids to be persistent or to believe that fantasy movie bullshit. Some of these guys/girls are like "I don't care if you don't want me, you should date me because I want you. Don't care what you think". I just think it makes them look like creeps or just desperate in general.

[caring__1]

Unfortunately, it's very hard to let go of the indoctrination of our youth. When we're taught to blindly believe, we don't have anything to back up that belief, so anyone who questions that belief is seen as a threat to be neutralized. Every girl is a princess, and every guy can become the President of the United States. What's the purpose of telling kids they'll always end up on top. Understand by ending up on top, that means everyone else must be beneath that person. I agree with the desperation, but I'm not sure they would see themselves as creepy. They just believe the entitlement they were conditioned to accept as reality.

[Browneye57]

Cuz they are desperate, and self-entitled little snowflakes. They have been told all their life how much they DESERVE to be happy, to have a successful career, love life, all the good things in life. Well, you deserve NOTHING, you get what you get for the effort and work you put in, just like everybody else.
I blame it on their parents. My generation raised a whole crop of really crappy parents that lie to their children about what life is, reality, and truth. Way too much blue-sky and platitudes. And then they sit them down to watch disney movies - more fantasy bullshit.

[Asker]

Well said:)

[slatyb]

Some men seem to believe if they keep trying they may eventually succeed. It’s more likely they will become the subject of a restraining order.

[Asker]

Yea I agree and then they just use the excuse that girls don't like "nice" guys.

[loveslongnails]

It's called ego. People can't handle that everyone doesn't want them, so if you're someone I want, you should be honored. Just stupid human behavior, nothing more.

[jahaims]

To protect their fragile minds