What's an instant turn on when dating someone new?

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Leahbear232 · Accepted Answer

This sounds like it should be the bare minimum but-- Perceptiveness. And I don't just mean paying attention to me but to your surroundings. Seems so many people have low attention spans and are absorbed in their thoughts. It's a turn off when I have to remind someone about little things like watching your step or where the register at the store was located.

Also being organized. And now that I sound boring, I also want to say I instantly turned on by someone who I can tell balances out being put together by having a wild side. I love people who are not afraid to get dirty in the mud, laugh uncontrollably, or to stay up all night fulfilling their heart's passions, whether it be skiing, partying, or having a whole bunch of sex or all of that haha

I also find it to be such a turn on when a man... Takes control? Not in a demeaning, belittling way cuz that is rude. But in a thoughtful, sweet way. I was once on a date where I got scared of a bee and he was like "I got this" with a genuine smile on his face and picked up the bee with his straw and led it to a bush. I dunno why but I wanted to hump in there and then.

Cynicaldreamer · Accepted Answer

He seems genuinely interested in getting to know me, spend time with me, and pays attention to me. That's sad how something so simple to do is a turn on because it's hard to come by nowadays.

TheBigGuy9 · Accepted Answer

Strong willed. Has goals in life. Lives on their own. Is able to manage their own bills. Does their own laundry. Has Discipline. Open and honest. Doesn’t care what other people think. Isn’t afraid to admit when they’re wrong. Keeps an open mind. Doesn’t think with their emotions. That’s a huge one. Too many people nowadays lack critical thinking skills. They don’t think before they speak. Isn’t so quick to take others at their word. Isn’t quick to believe something because they want it to be true.

Someone who works out and takes good care of their body. Looks you in the eye when talking to you. Is able to put their phone away. Someone not easily distracted. Cordial with everybody. Isn’t quick to judge others. Someone who doesn’t make fun of others. Has manners.. please, thank you, etc. Dresses nice. Acts the same around everyone.

MCheetah · Accepted Answer

INSTANT TURN-ONS:
- Hates feminists/wokeness.
- 100% heterosexual; not a hint of gayness in her (which is super-rare for women, nowadays).
- Actually genuinely interested in what I (or men) have to say; asks honest questions about me.
- Is creative; like a skilled singer, musician, or sketch artist. Artistic ability can be sexy.
- Has a nice dress style; feminine without being slutty (examples provided).

NOT A TURN ON, BUT YOU'D THINK WOULD BE:
- Says I'm physically attractive/sexy. I don't like liars!

What's an instant turn on when dating someone new?

jennifer_bloom · Answer

For a starting date, I want a guy who is able to have deep and meaningful formal conversations, one guy I used to talk to asked me whether I was born in Canada or another country and when my most recent plane trip had been. I asked him whether he was Indian or Middle Eastern and he refused to tell me.

AmandaYVR · Answer

Deep voice. They smell good with nothing on. And even better with the right cologne. A look of intensity in their eyes. And/or the way they look at you.

Brainsbeforebeauty · Answer

Naturally attentive and engaging

Ammi_goldie806 · Answer

From the jump if you tell me how you feel in detail as much detail you can possibly give me about how you feel about me or about anything you are automatically going to marry me you might as well put a ring on my finger cuz you going to be marrying me don't know what day don't know what month but you will be marry me if you say how you feel from the jump as best as you possibly can even if you have to look it up cuz if you put an extra effort to tell me how you feel we're getting married. 😫😩🤓👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👰🤵

stormiigrl · Answer

For me it is the way he accepts me as i am or makes me laugh and wants to truly get to know me as i am.
A smile goes a long way. A good sense of humor is a bonus.
A bigger bonus is communication, interests, connection and if all goes well a 2nd date

apmnurse · Answer

Lol there are always different and surprising things... I have a weakness for abs... And I was on a date with the guy I'm with rn (early on) and I was buzzed, walking out of the bar, holding him around his waste... I put my off hand on his stomach as we strolled, and I could totally feel his age through his shirt... sploosh... he got road head about 15 minutes later lol

TheorionMage · Answer

Robert Heinlein in his opus "Time Enough For Love"s Intermissions asserted:
"Darling, a true lady takes off her dignity with her clothes and does her whorish best. At other times you can be as modest and dignified as your persona requires."

AzzaBlue · Answer

I don't know about turn ons. But what I greatly appreciate is actual effort on the woman's part. It's nice if she actually participates and engages in our conversation rather than just answer with yes or no. What I also appreciate is when she offers to pay for her share of the date, you know, like an adult.

crazyish · Answer

A sense of humor. Being themselves and not trying to impress me. Men who boast about themselves are usually the ones overcompensating for something else and it's an automatic turn off.

Poppykate · Answer

Polite, wants to take his time in getting to know me, funny, positive, caring, great listener- but active talker, with a hint of sexy.

but at the end of the day, what everyone wants is someone that wants to get to know YOU.

Xoxocutekitty · Answer

Manners!

Looking for:
- please and thank you to servers
- clean clothes
- closed mouth chewing
- walker slower if I'm wearing heels.
- if he smokes, does it in a designated smoking area

Instant turn on if I find his smile cute when we first 'meet'

loveslongnails · Answer

Intelligence mixed with beauty and affection! Can't beat that.

awkfemme · Answer

I like it when a guy shows consistency. I can't stand guys that are hot and cold it confuses me and I slowly start to lose interest.

DaveToo · Answer

My wife just floored me, literally, the first time I met her, simply by sitting there with that beautiful red hair. As we got to know each other, she floored me with her intellect.

katyya_lov25 · Answer

If he can hold deep and meaningful conversations. Dummy is definitely a huge turn off for me.

deeks1121 · Answer

Humour. If you have the same type of banter then you will get on like a house on fire

WhiteWolf69 · Answer

Mental and emotional connection. Yeah there is the physical aspect too. I can be physically attracted to someone but if that's all there is I will end up getting bored because there is nothing else between the woman and I.

TacosRAwesome · Answer

When you can just relax in their presence and it feels like you're hanging out with a friend rather than on a date.

Lilbrown · Answer

Her ability to showcase a sense of humor. There noting like seating across a woman that enjoys laughing.

TheSpaceGnome · Answer

Hearing her say she is an atheist and likes the same movies, tv and video games.

worldscolide · Answer

honestly, if she shares similar interests to mine.. Or if she is as smart as me or smarter.

alowe72 · Answer

great eyes, clean teeth and if you have voice that can make wet when you say hello beautiful.

pleasestopthis · Answer

A man who's principled and has similar values. I like guys who are honorable.

timechangerr · Answer

Goods looks and good personality. I like confidence and people with high self esteem and are not two faced

Anonymous · Answer

Just like undeniable attraction, like I can’t keep my hands off them. Also good sense of humour

MissRomantic · Answer

When a guy is not only handsome but dresses well and is kind, funny, smart, and for me a true Christian.

Likes2drive · Answer

I guess when they are smiling at you and are into you

Iron_Man · Answer

her making me a lovely dinner than kissing later on

HawkPerception · Answer

Similar interests, views, sense of humor, communication flows effortlessly. Finding similarities is the biggest turn on.

WalkingBassist · Answer

If I find out she's a fan of the movie 'Secretary.'

Anonymous · Answer

That they genuinely like me as a person and not as a sex tool.

hi_it_is_me123 · Answer

His bodycount and age. I prefere young virgin men. Dont want an used up old guy. Sorrynotsorry

Gwenhwyfar · Answer

Running their finger across my palm

jimmy2 · Answer

A beautiful smiling woman you know she at peace inside

CisySpacex · Answer

Flow. Being on the same page effortlessly.

GirlyGal20 · Answer

His personality, is he humble, nice, funny etc..

Anonymous · Answer

What's an instant turn off when dating someone new? Always on the phone with god know who 🍆

Avicenna · Answer

Common interests and a great personality

Newhead · Answer

Good energy and good hygiene.

Anonymous · Answer

A female who isn’t entitled, childish, or a fake victim. Having morals, self respect, dignity, class. (not dressing like a whore)

Kas19 · Answer

If they're genuinely kind. That's a rarity.

slatyb · Answer

She laughs at my jokes.

sheikalana · Answer

When they smell good.

Makeushiver · Answer

When they say something witty

moonpie89 · Answer

Having similar interests

Mangospacho · Answer

I want a girl with a short skirt and long jacket.

princeofromance · Answer

They listen to what each other have to say.

BlackTealLazer · Answer

Manners and the ablity to show emotions.

kevyhanma · Answer

being open and honest

In_Trance · Answer

She understands exestentialism

jahaims · Answer

Smoker

SandandWaves · Answer

his smile

Anonymous · Answer

effort

IraqLobster · Answer

Her not being a bitch.

Waldoe · Answer

Nipples poking through

JamesRandiDebates · Answer

Above average BJ skills.

robocop666 · Answer

if she invites you into her house

Yamama · Answer

The size of her mammary glands.

Tia077 · Answer

Confidence definitely

karaspara · Answer

Nice smile

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