Am I the problem or is a red flag?

[ShyFilipino2010]

Been seeing a girl for about 2 months now, about once every week. She gets upset at me saying I'm not committing to the relationship. We aren't exclusive but I haven't really dated anyone else during this time. But she feels like I'm not trying to spend time with her. She said that I'm pushing a good person out. I've heard this same thing from a toxic ex before and it has me concerned. I know I have commitment issues, but is it something that I need to reevaluate myself and try to commit to this girl or is this a red flag?

[SteveSmith1985]

This is a red flag man.

If this girl is pressuring you to commit to the relationship beyond what YOU want. That's a red flag. She seems to be pretty aggressive about it in an emotionally manipulative way.

If you aren't exclusive, she is WAY overstepping proper boundaries to be getting upset with you. You should never be coerced or manipulated into committing to a relationship. Commitments are to be made freely and willingly. I don't get the sense that you would be committing for any healthy reasons.

If you also have a history that includes a toxic ex, then... YES THIS IS THE RED FLAG YOU FEAR IT COULD MAYBE BE. IT IS INDEED THAT RED FLAG. GET OUT.

[superrmatt]

Like most things, its likely not black & white.
If you like her, try to commit more.
If you don't like her, end it and find someone new.

[Avicenna]

It could be a legit complaint. Would it be possible for you to see her more often?

[ShyFilipino2010]

Not really. We live about 1 hour apart by car, but that isn't feasible , both financially and time wise (work commits, etc.) for both of us to see each other during the weekday.

[Avicenna]

Then all you can do is make that clear

[stuntbrain]

Putting up with those complaints means you are too committed

[In_Trance]

Both