Because he thinks while he still has your stuff, there's a chance he cab get access to your other "stuff"... Whether you really do
or just threaten to.. Tell him if he doesn't return your things bye such avid such a date... you'll be contacting the authorities... Or arrangeturning go pick up from him... Or, depending what items they are and how valuable or important, maybe just cut your losses...
Odds are he is in denial and isn't dealing with the break up... He probably thinks that by keep your stuff and such, he can force you to at least talk to him. He may also be desperate, hoping that having sex will somehow get you back. I don't know the guy so I can't say anything for sure. He's either acting like you're not broken up in order to force you to get back with him, or he's got a screw loose and isn't living in reality. Don't be afraid to threaten to call the cops on him, it's your property - he's essentially stealing it at this point legally speaking. Clearly he want to talk to you, and he clearly thinks he can convince you to get back with him somehow... Be careful, he might snap...
Under the circumstances, I'd bring backup. Come and get your stuff. But make sure you collect your things first. If he insists on a sexual reward, make sure it's the last he ever gets from you. Don't give him any until you get everything secured away from him first. And make sure he can't impregnate you if you do decide to play along, just to get him to calm down. Turn his game against him. Whatever you do, don't go in alone. And don't give him any chance to find a way to gain any more leverage against you than he already has.
And once you have your possessions secured, get as far away from him as you can, and never have sex with him again - no matter how much he begs.
he's keeping your things because you want them back & he's using them as a way to see you again. Im sorry to tell you this, but you shouldve made sure to get all your shit back before you broke it off just in case this shit happens. If it isn't important things, cut your losses & forget about them.
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u Holding on to your stuff is a way of controlling you.
He is trying to manipulate his way into sleeping with you. Basically he is super trash.
He is a controlling immature little shit.
Go and fetch your stuff yourself, but don't go alone. Take the most badass friend you have with you.
Someone suggested you can't get your stuff back through the law. That's not entirely true. You have a time line in your messages showing you've ended the relationship then on requesting he return your belongings he essentially demands sex for their return. That's either blackmail or extortion. Either way it's extremely illegal.
You don't actually have to have a receipt for the ownership of the belongings. In these circumstances it would be his responsibility, legally, to prove they're his.
Good luck
Well, that's really sucky of him, and I think he just wants to manipulate you into having sex. Don't buy in, he doesn't deserve it, just for the very fact he's trying to manipulate you. That's pretty low.
Also, forget about your things. I know its frustrating but you need to let it go because that's the only thing that he can use against you.
I was pretty mad after breaking up at the fact that my ex was suppose to return 800$ id lent him. And now I learned that if I give something I should consider it gone, can't expect a return.
The way I see it, he was immature, and I was smart enough to forgive so that it wouldn't consume me.
Did he loose all my trust? yes. That's on him.
Sucky people will suck.
But you can walk away from that.
Life is too short to waste breathing minutes on stupid things like that.
Tell him whatever and arrange to go pick it up. Take a friend with you, ideally the toughest looking guy you know. If he won't agree to that, then write a demand letter. If you have a friend who is an attorney, maybe they will write it for you for free. The most you can do is threaten to sue him for the stuff, but if it's not worth much money you might decide to just forget it.
I've learned to always make sure I grab what's mine before breaking it off with a guy because they use it as a way to either see you again (usually hoping for sex) or for a way to have you keep contacting them. It's leverage. It's the last hope and control they have. I've had to just deal with the loss of some of my things before because of this reason. He will drag it out as long as you let him.
You might have to get law enforcement involved to solve this matter
sure you don't want to do this but you have no other choice and do not
trust yourself to be alone with him cause he could do anything these
partners who don't want to let us go could be psychos?
Start dressing differently. Let him see what he is missing.
An ex of mine did this. She was my buddy's little sister and was 15 at the time. She had a thing for me and I turned her down like any gentleman would. But over the course of a year she started dressing really sexy but not trampy. She would always seem to be where I was at the the gym, meeting friends, at parties, the swimming pool, the beach and I really started to notice her as a woman eventually after a bad breakup she was there to comfort me and one thing let to another and we started hooking up. She had an amazing body, with those big puppy fat titties that teens sometimes get and was very thin
First, I think you need to clarify; was this a good/mutual breakup? Or was it a bad/one-sided?
It's entirely possible he's hoping that the two of you will get back together, and he's postponing returning your things because he doesn't want to accept the reality of the situation.
No he wants to be beating around the bush LOL you know some things are just better left the way they are and walk away I know you're saying right now no fucking way it's the principle I want my stuff. And I hear you loud and clear I would be the same way but I don't know I have felt your energy since I started answering your questions I think you're a beautiful person with a beautiful heart and I think you can get any guy you wanted I think the best you'd get away from this guy the better
He still has feeling for you so he's grasping at straws to keep in contact.
“Can i come see you can we have sex?” That's fucking pathetic! He's ransoming your personal property in exchange for sex. It's no wonder you dumped this loser.
Tell him to put your stuff in the mail. Based on this jerk's track record you'll probably have to pay for postage!
I don't think he's beating around the bush either its clear he will only give you your stuff in return for sex. I think you should try standing up for yourself and then if that doesn't work then getting the police involved should work very effectively in this scenario.
He's leveraging yohr property for breakup sex. Are they things that are replaceable because he is definitely prepared to get retribution in some form. If a woman did that to me i would cut the locks off the door and get my stuff but if you're not prepared to risk that just leave him alone.
He's trying to hold your stuff hostage for sex. As scummy as it is, I'd say "bring me my stuff and I'll think about it". Then, AFTER AND ONLY AFTER he gives you your stuff tell him to fuck off and that you won't be blackmailed into fucking him with your own stuff.
I'm assuming it's a way for him to see you or lure you over to him, it's your property. It's easier because you weren't married, basically, you're gonna want to get him on text or call saying that he'll give your stuff back, and set a date and time to go get your stuff, take a family member with you to ease tension and so guy doesn't get any ideas. If guy doesn't comply in giving stuff back, you now have evidence and a witness, go get a court order.
You may have to let your stuff go. He's trying to lure you into something. At least one more roll in the hay. I wouldn't do it, but it seems he's trying to get one last trick out of you. Do you really need that stuff?
Worst case, show up with a cop to retrieve your stuff. He definitely won't try anything with the cop there. And give the cop a tip for helping you...
Are your things replaceable? If they are, replace them. If they’re not, you may have to get the police involved. I’m not sure where you live but maybe they might be able to accompany you on a run to pick up your things.
He's playing games call the sheriff's department they'll assist you ✌️
Yea he's gonna use that till you give him what he wants. Unless you have a recipte that says that stuff is yours. U can't get it back from him threw the law.
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