What do you think makes you, a good SO?

[Miah02]

[Cynicaldreamer]

I'm far from perfect, but assuming anyone is willing to date me, I offer a plethora of benefits that make me special.

In no particular order:

• I'm loyal and devoted. Once I'm in a relationship with a guy, he's stuck with me unless he does something really stupid (such as cheat), or asks we end things. I try to pick partners based on long term relationships, so I'm not jumping from one relationship to another
• I'm fairly independent and like doing my own thing. Meaning I'm not the clingy, needy type. You want a night out, or hang with the guys? Have fun! I'll be doing my own thing as well! I'm big on "me time" and not smothering people
• I'm fit and active. So I'm going to motivate you to exercise and stay in shape
• I'm honest. Bluntly so.
• I'm a good listener and-
• I know how to keep my mouth shut.
• It doesn't take a lot to make me happy. Seriously: keep it simple with me
• I'm a geek. So if you're into video games, anime, or technology? I'm your woman. We can talk about that for hours.
• I'm frugal with money and an introvert. No, that's not a bad thing... it means I'm happier staying in than going out most of the time. And I'm resourceful with money and my spending habits.

And MUCH more. All of which I'm offering to the right person.

[Miah02]

Sounds like a great SO

[MCheetah]

POSITIVES:

1. I'm loyal and supportive.
2. Seek to bring out the best in people I care about.
3. I'm open-minded when it comes to *many* things (not *all* things, though).
4. I'm intelligent.
5. I have a good, witty of humor.
6. I have a strong work ethic *most* of the time (not 100% of the time).
7. I'm fairly patient.
8. I'm VERY interesting to talk to (I have to be, considering my looks)
9. I'm monogamous AF.
10. If you're a nerd, you'll like that I'm nerdy and into video games or superheroes.
11. I'm creative and artistic, if that's a thing you like.
12. I'm very much into self-improvement and not being the same person I was before.
13. I'm romantic, when I have the right person who deserves that.
14. I'm appreciative and grateful of good things, the few times in my life I get them.
15. I'm a strong communicator and would like to talk through issues, rather than letting them boil over.

NEGATIVES:

11. My height is a big one; I'm only 181 cm (A "F" grade; a little manlet of a male)
12. I'm not attractive looking in the face; dare I say, I'm "ugly."
13. I'm overweight (and I've tried my whole life to lose it, but Hypothyroidism makes it that much harder).
14. I'm dark skinned.
15. I have a small penis (6.5).

[Mia-Wallace]

What? 181 cm is short? In what planet is that short?

[MCheetah]

@Mia-Wallace
Western society. Especially America, Germany, and The Netherlands.

[MCheetah]

5. I have a good, witty *sense of humor.

[Mia-Wallace]

I live in Sweden and 181 is not short here. It is average for men (in fact, it's 2 cm above average). It's almost the same in Germany.

I don't know about America but I assume the average height there is 2 to 4 cm lower than Northern Europe.

Anyway. I think you're factually wrong there. I'm not trying to give you "hope" or compliment you. (I don't think you like inspirational/motivational nonsense).
But that "little manlet of a male" thing was so (melo) dramatic and exaggerated I kind of chuckled.

[MCheetah]

@Mia-Wallace
1. An opinion can't be "factually wrong."
2. Being shorter than every goddamn guy I know, I've studied this extensively. I tried to seek out ways to increase height after puberty, but could not find any ones that don't involve risky leg surgery. In other words, I know more about this subject than you.
3. Mediocre-sized American men are 178 cm, which is also short AF in my opinion.
4. Swedish men are the same exact height as American men, and they aren't tall whatsoever, either. The Dutch are taller than them.
5. Nobody wants to be considered mediocre or literally useless. Why even comment if you're going to call me something just as shitty as short?

[Mia-Wallace]

If that's just an opinion then yes. You were saying 181 is "F" grade like the average height in northern Europe is 2 meters.

[MCheetah]

@Mia-Wallace
Socially, it is. If we were to get scientific, then being that short is also a genetic failure, as well.





Men aren't even supposed to be that short. The standard height for adult males is SUPPOSED to be 184 cm (6'0.5") which is what men were for most of human existence. (Women are supposed to be 170 cm/5'7".) But then the agricultural age 10,000 years ago happened and shrunk men down to as low as 167 cm (5'6") and made them weak and pathetic. Only a few countries, like The Netherlands, have caught back up close to the size homo sapiens are genetically supposed to be, but are still mostly sedentary with poor overall health. I'm a short shit, so I don't even care about being in good super-athletic shape anymore.

But okay. I don't want to talk about my negatives, flaws, and shitty-traits all day. I just hate being fuckin' short (or genetically useless, to you).

[Mia-Wallace]

Okay, I read your reply now (I apologize, I was eating).

One thing I just noticed is you're speaking about height as if it's not relative. Height is relative. Well, at least as far as I know (enlighten me if it isn't). You're not "tall", you're taller than".

An Iranian person who is 179 cm tall, is simply tall in Iran. Literally. He's taller than most men there, and most women would be 15-20 cm shorter than him. That only changes if he decides to move to Norway.

Now you think the 178 cm average height in America is "short AF" (I respect your opinion), and that's fine as an opinion, but then you apply that opinion (probably using it as knowledge) to relationships and list the fact that your height is slightly above average (in America) among your negative traits. I don't see how that makes sense. 🤷‍♀️

In reality American women are 15-20 cm shorter than 178 cm on average, and the average man they see is taller than them. But I guess using your statement that'd just make America a midget fest. Or a "mediocre" fest.

And yes, if we're going to get that "scientific", then a large number of humans today could be considered short compared to their ancestors (I just take your word for it because I didn't research that myself). But take note, positive/descriptive data is rarely used for something as normative as "178 cm bad/mediocre, 184 cm good". Now you can use it, but that doesn't necessarily make you normative statement true.

Anyway. I commented because I think 181 is not short or even "average". It's slightly above average and when it comes to height average doesn't have negative connotation in my mind. I didn't know it's connoted that way for you. I apologize for the misunderstanding.

[MCheetah]

@Mia-Wallace
I'd rather be called short (which is what Americans in general think of any men less than six feet tall/183 cm) than "literally useless" and a generally worthless being (to you, the word is "average"). The same way I'd rather be called ugly than forgettable and insignificant. It's leagues more insulting to imply someone is worthless or a disposable being like farm cattle than simply inadequate (in this case, women's standards for dateable men, and men's standards for masculinity).

To put it in very simple language, "if your height begins with a 5, you'd better be a girl or a minor." To use another anology, you either pass the test, or fail it. Less than an "80" is failing the test in society. And what is six feet tall in America? 80th percentile. One inch less than that (180 cm) is 64th percentile. A 64 on a test is an F. There ya go.

Me using the term "short" isn't technically accurate; it's just in the same realm of failure as short. But as I said, calling myself "average/mediocre/disposable" is personally more insulting. But considering all my male friends ARE taller than me, and most of my exes are around my height or taller, I *am* short in my social circle. On a national level, I'm just in the "average/short" failure zone like 80% of the rest of the generic faceless population.

That's the general consensus in America. Nobody wants a fucking mediocre, useless man. Not in size, not in looks, and definitely not in personality. Although I hear Scandinavians value useless traits in human beings (The Law of Jantè) and confirming. To me, it's literally the most insulting thing you can call someone: worthless. And to be honest, it's one of only two things that offend me.

[MCheetah]

*conforming

[Mia-Wallace]

I don't know if you like me to reply after being off for about 4 days, and also because you said this topic bothers you. But I guess I kind of feel like replying. So, I apologize for the notification (s) in advance.
______

It's interesting you mentioned Law of Jante. And it's interesting you associate conforming with "useless traits". Well, you are American (I'm just pointing out your individualist mind set).

I think our disagreement might be a little deep. Maybe as deep as our premises in defining concepts like "self". Or maybe not, I don't know but I go with that assumption.

I think (and I might be mistaken) not only you try to detach yourself from the crowd, you idealize that detachment. And you idealize people who have traits that enable them to "stand out". Or maybe you only value that group and everything other than them simply has no value to you. The beautiful, the tall, the genius, the brave. I guess those are the worthy.

Now, while I guess I agree this might feel like a desire for perfection and breaking free from the pitiful (average) human condition, and that it might sound noble to want to rise above this supposed average level, I think in reality it only leads (most) individuals to loneliness/isolation, societies to inner conflict and disaster, and projects to stagnation. In the end nothing gets done, and definitely not in a "perfect" way.

Is it because there is no average? No. There is. Some people have more even before they are born. But even for a gifted person "haves" are only one of the many things he needs to succeed. And what if you're not particularly gifted?

...(cont.)

[Mia-Wallace]

In reality, the more selflessly devoted a person is to a subject (thing in itself), the more focused he will be on that subject, the better he will get in that subject. Ironically, by doing so, in time he will "stand out" from the crowd. He "becomes". It's about "It, It, It" not "Me, Me, Me" . But he does end up benefiting from it. And one of the gifts of the mentally “gifted” people is an understanding of this, of transcending self and actually looking at and being fascinated by the thing they are working on, otherwise nobody is born with some inborn knowledge of how to build a dam or a spaceship.

This subject can be anything and everything. It is an ideal sought.

And what's better than a selfless individual? A team practicing selflessness and humility and devotion to a shared ideal. What’s better, faster, happier, and shines for a longer period than an individual who stands out? A community that stands out. Now if the people are also "gifted" that is by all means better. But it's not a necessity as long as they make "progress". Will they, if they all believe they are too good for the team?

...(cont.)

[Mia-Wallace]

The happiest and the most functional family is made of individuals selflessly devoted to each other's well being. They've taken care of each other for so long and with such devotion that they become exceptionally good at caring. It's not a superhero comic filled with tall beautiful people. It's simply a place where people are interested in achieving something greater than themselves instead of something great for themselves. The reward is that they will be "a part" of something great.

But hey, being tall and beautiful (gifted) is not bad at all. Why not achieve this "gift"? Say, in fifty years? And who has a better chance of increasing their height and beauty in half a century? A group of average looking Nordic people working together for such an ideal or an isolated individual in a society more chaotic than a jungle? A group that want that beauty and height for their bloodline or an individual who wants it for herself?

Anyway. Let's cut my Scandinavian rant in defence of selflessness and other “useless traits” and get to the point.

...(cont.) (I'll just copy and paste the rest I wrote this morning).

[Mia-Wallace]

Do you see one of our fundamental disagreements? I'm not denying the existence of many different natural hierarchies. I simply believe movement within hierarchies is not achieved by individuals and certainly not by an individual playing rigged games within them. Nature is careless and determined and to abide by its rules is for most of us to die.

That is one reason we have civilization. If we could achieve anything by “conforming” to nature’s rules except mindlessly and endlessly run in a vicious circle of life pain and death, we would have stayed in our jungles and caves.

I am a selfless actor who doesn’t care about being among the less desirable people on this planet as long as I’m busy contributing to a family that’s moving up every hierarchy there is, one step at a time, while the YOLO man/woman is losing before he/she starts.

Now, the society you described (supposedly America but I think it’s today’s west in general), or (in my view) this chaotic jungle, is the opposite of this vision. In it, everyone either "is" or "is not", "has" or "has not". Cooperation and support based on a shared identity or cause/culture is meaningless and individuals are in a vain conflict to occupy spaces already taken by others. It is a stagnant society and for most people "trying" is like playing a rigged game.

And why exactly would it be any other way? It is a society where the individual rules. A society where he or she destroys a cultural institution if it regulates his/her hobby.

[Mia-Wallace]

Everyone rules in his own small empire (basement?). And what DO most people have outside of their communities and learned skills?

Their natural traits. Skin colour/race, beauty, height, higher intelligence (which slowly but surely becomes a rarity in such a society), etc.

And since everyone is in a conflict, everyone uses his or her “superpower” to move upwards within the hierarchy.

And is it really a surprise that most women in such a society would use their ultimate superpower, their vagina, to move up the social hierarchy? To refuse to have sex with and give love to 80% of men in order to abuse them in every way possible to either get to that 20% of “naturally gifted” men or just live on their own with a few hundred thousand dollars?

Is it a surprise some of them never stop looking even when they have providing boyfriends or even husbands? Nah. They might screw a family up but at least they get to live in a mansion for a decade or so in their miserable lives.

And is there anything above them in this world? Anyone? Any community? Any ideal? Institution? Identity? Doctrine? Religion? Nope.

Is there a group of men they would describe as “our men”? Nope. There is no affiliation, no connection of any sort between them and men or between men and women or between men and men for that matter. They have no obligation to give even a small group of men love without condition. Even their fathers are not exempt.

...(cont.)

[Mia-Wallace]

Individualism. Those very useful traits. I mean, “It just works”, doesn't it? It’s a feature not a bug.

This is my view: The moment you start valuing the individual above everything else without even defining what this "individual" is outside of his community, is the moment you render most cultural values connecting people's together ineffective. Not only that, but in your way to emancipate the individual from his own "evil" social constructs you might accidentally get rid of every institution that stands between him and his supposed "freedom", and that includes his family, the smallest collective unit people need in order to learn togetherness.

Propagate that mind set for a few decades and the only thing that'll remain is the individual entirely on his own.

Alone, Scared (rightfully so), Cornered, Frustrated, Jealous, Confused, Misguided, Demoralized
(Even) Dehumanized.

Take away his family and family values, his community and nation, give him an Iphon and Tinder. What an accomplishment. Would it not be easier if you just threw him into the sea?

[Mia-Wallace]

Anyway, I think I wrote too much and I apologize for that and for the notifications.

To end it: I don't say this is something uniformly happening in the west, but I am quite sure it is happening. Especially after 1960s and 1970s. Emancipation after emancipation until this “individual” is probably emancipated from his own soul too. Lmao

Or hey, maybe it’s just divide and rule. 90% of the upper class families I know live like it’s 1950. The remaining 10% live like it’s 1960. Lmao

Anyway. I already said what I think is the cure: Selflessness, humility, rebirth of community and collective and putting the individual where he belongs; a meaningful collective unit. And no, I am not playing this rigged game, neither is my husband and neither are the rest of my family. We never did, never will.

Because of that, I cannot say I can fully empathize with you. I have been privileged in my life and had/have everything I mentioned this society is not giving its members, and the pain you feel is one that belongs to a MAN who is strong and intelligent, but (probably) feels alone, (probably) has no tribe, and does not speak from a position of privilege.

Who am I to tell you don’t be angry and frustrated? Who am I to judge you? I can only suggest what I think works best.

And good luck, I guess.

[MCheetah]

@Mia-Wallace
"I think (and I might be mistaken) not only you try to detach yourself from the crowd, you idealize that detachment. And you idealize people who have traits that enable them to stand out."

The short version is, I have a creed and a way of life: If you aren't contributing something to the betterment of society, then you are objectively useless. In the most literal way possible. I am not a Christian, nor do I believe "everyone is special." Most human beings are parasites on the planet, and even among our own species. The cows these people eat at McDonalds have more value to the planet than these people do. Thinking they're special just for existing and offering nothing of value in return. I abhor that mindset and I NEVER want to be like that. You would call it "average." I call it an objectively useless parasite to planet Earth.

This permeates everything I do. I believe I exist to (try to) make the world a better place. But even if someone can't, the GOAL of wanting that and TRYING to do that, is still better than a good 90% of people on this planet (if I had to guess) who just eat, fuck, and shit, adding nothing of value to society. THAT is why, to be called mediocre, is the biggest insult I can imagine.

[MCheetah]

@Mia-Wallace

I get what you're saying about the Jack of All Trades comparison, and I do not seek to be "exceptional in everything" (okay, that's a lie; I just know it's unlikely). My whole thing is, I want to be a contributing mind to the world. Not a worker drone, but even they add SOMETHING to society. Every Amazon worker or postal worker. I'm talking about the modern, automated world we live in where people have no skills, no talents, and worse of all, no desire to ever step of being useless and actually DO SOMETHING for someone other than themselves. Because, to do something for others, requires SOME level of being more than just "you." More than just mediocrity and "existing" on this planet. For example, to be good and kind requires self-sacrifice and altruism. To be "like everyone else," requires just being as selfish and useless as they are. Those who seek to make the world a better place seek to go above and beyond the mediocre human being. Even THAT in itself is remarkable among the human species of cattle.

What you talk about in family, and making a better community IS exactly what I mean by standing out, and contributing. That is NOT normal in the world! The norm is to be a useless cog in the machine, earning a paycheck, so you can waste it on stupid self-gratifying sh*t that makes only you feel better. And I get living in the 21st century dystopia that we do makes that easy. But the easy path is rarely the rewarding one in life. Being someone who DOESN'T get high on weed, has a porn addiction, has useless empty sex with people you aren't dating, makes up bullshit genders and pronouns to feel like a snowflake, makes everything all about themselves, etc. I don't know if you've noticed, but we're living in a society where self-gratification is not only the norm, but celebrated. A life of selfish vice and sin, is not shamed, it's "looked up to." THIS is the average 21st century human being.

[MCheetah]

@Mia-Wallace
And make no mistake, I am not a perfect being, either. I don't expect perfection from anyone. All I expect is fucking effort! No one gives a shit anymore! Maybe humanity never has. All people care about are themselves. Human beings are selfish, by nature. THAT is why I abhor being "average." A useless, selfish, sack of shit. Like a good 75-90% of human beings, depending on where you live.

So to associate shitty physical traits onto me, is also associating me with "them." Reducing me down to being just another useless meat-sack, like them. I'm aware it may sound narcissitic, to an outsider. But I know what I do in the world, and I know my worth, and my desires for this world. To ideally not want to leave this planet as shitty as my time spent on it. But it seems to be a losing battle, especially in the West.

In short: Average people eat, fuck, and shit, and leave behind the mess we know as modern 21st century society behind them. Exceptional people want to do better and STRIVE for a better world than... THIS. I don't expect everyone to be exceptional; that would defeat the purpose. I would just hope for the human species to be better. To not be such sacks of shit that they are. To not be... AVERAGE. Useless cattle and parasites consuming resources. I've had a shittier life than most of these people, and yet even I strive to make the world a better place in all that I do. Why can't they with all the family and resources they were given that I wasn't? (I mean, I know why; they're just content enough to be comfortable, but not enough to actually matter.)

[MCheetah]

@Mia-Wallace
Also, I never described what I want specifically as "individualism." Though I can see why it's interpreted that way.

Maybe I'm rambling, so I'll keep it simple: Most human beings are shit, and they always have been. I don't seek to be just another turd in the bowl and I've worked literally MY ENTIRE LIFE to separate myself from that. My looks are a curse in themselves, because if it was up to me, every aspect of me would be different from the "average" (useless) human being, including even height and looks. (I don't even want to be one of the "big four" ethnicities. I'd rather be Samoan, Native American, or an endless mixed mutt, to be honest.)

I know it sounds a little superficial. Maybe it is. But when I've worked my ass off and done ten times the work just to get a fraction of the "privilege" some tall asshole gets for existing, or some rich jerk, it sucks. To strive to be the best I can be, to maybe help and inspire others, and to have ALL OF THAT demolished by some random woman going, "You're average height" (as in, just another useless human being who doesn't matter), THAT hurts. THAT fucking triggers me. A million good deeds, all washed away by being compared to the generic piece of shit, trash, useless, self-indulgent human being in 2021 America... THAT offends me. As I said, very little does. But that's the fucking kick in the teeth, there.

[MCheetah]

@Mia-Wallace
Also, I will say, you're probably the most intelligent woman I've ever spoken to on the internet (possibly ever). It's a shame you're married, because you're the type of mind I would seek my whole life to connect with. Then again, I'm an "average" lump of shit, in your eyes. (I know you didn't say it, but that's what 'average' is going to translate to, to me.) And for all your talks of collectivism, I almost guarantee you, you didn't marry some mediocre 5'11" generic, faceless, selfish, blank slate, nobody of a male.

[Mia-Wallace]

I understand everything you said and as I suggested at the beginning that I might be mistaken, I think I was mistaken. I think you're an ideal mate based on your beliefs. A shame you're single. A bigger shame you don't have a kid.

I do suggest you try and think more positively as negativity would mostly just kill your creative energy (sometimes it's a fuel too, but always guaranteed to disrupt your ability to focus). I'd also be a little more protective of my mental health. The mind is a fragile thing living in today’s society, especially for men like yourself. Maybe get pickier with the things you read both offline and online. Completely stop certain subjects from popping up in front of your eyes in order to get rid of rumination. Ruminative thoughts can be extremely toxic for the mind if constantly repeated. They are also a mark of depression.

Let your brain be 100% focused on your subjects of interest (you invited me to questions so I know you write). It’s better to read Aristotle’s Poetics one more time than to know what exactly is the height preference of an American girl with an IQ of 90-100 in 2021. I mean, even if you want inspiration for characters, why not go for the rarities? Lmao.

And lastly, may I suggest you take people less seriously? And no, I don’t mean by looking at them through normative glasses and making value judgements based on their, say, IQ. Exactly the other way around. See them in descriptive terms.

They are neither good nor bad, the majority just lack brain power and education and that severely limits their ability to think and judge. If a person didn’t see the able man in you and judged you based on your, say, height, rather than deeds, in a lot of cases it could be through no fault of her own. See if she’s not completely crapping on her own life with her decisions. In many cases, she is, and maybe then you would even feel sorry for her instead of getting angry.

[Mia-Wallace]

In any case, it’s better to feel less anger and generally less negative emotions. I hope you do manage to decrease yours.

As for my husband, I married my childhood friend and he's 6'2".

The question is, would I choose him if he wasn't 6'2"? Yes. I was getting engaged to a 5'8" boy when I was about 19 (we usually marry young) and I am 170 cm tall myself. And no, he wasn’t River Phoenix. And no, I am not ugly or obese.

I spare you the details. Won’t bore you with my life story. But I do think you’re still thinking of me the wrong way. I have standards, but they are mostly about the deeds and wants rather than haves. Though I would say, with my husband it's even more about tender love.

Anyway. Have a nice time. 👍🏻

[MCheetah]

@Mia-Wallace
Thank you for the talk. As I said, your ability to articulate your thoughts and words is something I'd find to be a very attractive trait in a woman. Not to get pessimistic, but I've only had strong feelings for one woman in my life, and as clever as she was (I say clever, instead of smart), even she wasn't as intellectually sound as you.

I grew up with a lack of family, an abusive mother, etc. I acknowledge that lack of love, which lead to a lack of "confidence," along with the complete lack of height, looks, etc, is why I'm not Mr. Swagger, in general. However, I do work hard and I know I am intelligent (based on my own efforts and others around me getting far further in life with only a fraction of the effort/intelligence/skills). And I've always wanted a better world than... THIS. Because this world is shit. Human beings were not meant to live this way. With corrupt idiots running society.

And yes, I understand the thing about people. I live by Hanlon's Razor: "Never attribute malice when stupidity is a reasonable enough explanation." Combined with my own thoughts: "Stupid people aren't smart enough to stop being stupid." That requires self-awareness, as well as environmental awareness. In my opinion, most people lack both.

I'm constantly looking for more positivity in my life. All the time. But coming from a super-negative upbringing, raised in a super-negative city (Philadelphia; literally one of the most toxic cities in America), and watching society go to shit every year since 2013, while ALSO not having a source of inspiration or love of my own... Yeah, me being positive is like asking me to fly to Mars. But I'm trying! I'd be a happier person if I saw the world improving; either my own or the world around me. But I see what you mean.

Thank you.

[Mia-Wallace]

You're very welcome. It was my pleasure. And sorry for the late response, I'm not online every day.

[coachTanthony]

A good S. O loves themselves first.
A good S. O stays attuned to their partner’s needs.
A good S. O is a good listener.
A good S. O is a good communicator.
A good S. O is forgiving and doesn't hold grudges.
A good S. O is honest and lives with integrity.

I could go on but you get the picture.

"A true relationship is two imperfect people refusing to give up on each other."
~Coach T Anthony @thedatecoach IG

[Miah02]

💯💯

[Iron_Man]

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[IDontBelieveIt]

brilliant answer

[PaynefulPleasures]

Straight up true
Faithful
Hilarious
Work hard play hard
Independent
Multitasker
Good cook/baker
Great listener
Sex all the time if you're up too it even after a hard day at work (let me shower first lol 😆)
Love to laugh
Don't snuff the small stuff
Keep a clean house (OCD)
Very hygienic
Try to maintain my health
Good at conversating (communation is key)
Love animals
Compassionate/understanding
Educated (smarter than the average bear)
Down to earth (Ok most of the time)
Lover not a fighter
Compromise/Sacrifice
No I'm not a model I got my imperfections but I've earned them good, bad or other wise. I'm a survivor through & through, but I'll do my best to see it till end, I'd say I'm a pretty damn good friend.
Unconditional non-superficial that's just me✌️

[Miah02]

Lmao

[PaynefulPleasures]

Thank you thank you very much 😊

[Miah02]

Haha

[IDontBelieveIt]

another brilliant answer

[PaynefulPleasures]

@IDontBelieveIt thank you virtual hug 🤗✌️

[IDontBelieveIt]

TY, ditto

[OlderAndWiser]

I am loyal until death us do part.

[Miah02]

Good trait

[throwsomecheeseonit]

I mean I could not really answer that because not every relationship is the same. Some change you for better some for worse. Others bring you out of your comfort zone. What I can say is if you love yourself and truly find out who you are as a person they you will more than likely be a great SO to the other person. Take time being single to work on yourself and you will be amazed at how effortless everything will be in a relationship because you will know exactly what you want and not settle for less

[Miah02]

Facts

[HawkPerception]

I'm great with openess and communication.

They have full access to my phone at any given time. They just need to say the word. Any time I go out, I let them know where I'm going and who I'm with. If I change locations, I let them know. If I talk to anyone of the opposite sex during the day, I let them know and what we talked about. I'll show messages maybe if I feel it will help put their mind at ease.

I'm very vocal about everything that goes on in my mind. If I don't like something I'll let them know. If I do like something I'll let them know. When I feel sad, happy, uncomfortable, angry, anxious, etc... I'll let thrm know. We don't read minds. We can only guess and assume as humans so the best way to let your partner know what's up is to tell them. If they're mature, they'll be able to handle all your shit and support you.

[ohshee]

When two people touch there's an energy between you both so for me I can only be as good did you allow me to that's why I try to make it all about the girl the more turned on I can get her that turns me on and the more I get turned on the more turned on I can get her and when you can become one in slow deep motion or in a pounding non-stop motion it gets intense the more intense it gets the hotter it is like I said it's all of it to cycle it is beautiful what you allow each other to fill each other and become one together that's when I know it is good very good

[ChrisMaster69]

I am dependable, trustworthy, open, I listen actively and believe in clear open communication.
Very open emotionally
sense of humour.
strong and confident to protect them and family.
financially secure
loyalty

also love to give and receive snuggles.

[Miah02]

Snuggles are the best

[ChrisMaster69]

@miah02 yep the best thing going.

[Anonymous]

I'm a nurturer. I enjoy taking care of my man.

I'm honest and trustworthy, loyal to a fault.

I have a good heart. I would never do something deceptive or immoral or purposely hurtful.

I'm responsible with money.

I know quite a bit about sports.

I'm perfectly happy with the simple pleasures in life. I'm low key, and I'm just fine staying in, watching movies and drinking hot chocolate in our pj's.

But I also have an adventurous side. Want to climb a mountain? I'm down. Want to drive on a racetrack? I'll give it a shot. Rappel down a waterfall? Sure, you only live once lol.

[yoyoyoyoyoyoyoyoyo]

During the dating process it's more so patience, humor, kindness and understanding.

But when we establish ourselves as a couple you get my dedication, undying support, my trust, we can share amazing moments that your friends will be envious of.

And as a father I would break my back backwards to make sure the kids have all the memories I wish I had with a father.


And I also know quite a bit about... that, too. But that comes after compatibility and not before

[XimenaV]

I love to listen, especially if it's something that I can tell is important to you. I'm very cuddly and love nothing more than being held. I have a naturally low body temp and am always cold so if you get over heated you can hold me to cool down. I try to always answer honestly even if it's something I know you don't want to hear but I'm also kind about it. When I want attention I just ask for it and understand if you're busy or don't feel like giving me any.

[Espresso-Grande]

I'm willing to make compromises and sacrifices in the relationship. I have so much love to give, and making my SO feel happy, secure, wanted and loved in the relationship is paramount to me. I consider how my actions or behavior will affect him.

[Miah02]

Sounds like a great SO

[Espresso-Grande]

I have my flaws too 😂

[Miah02]

We all do

[MrCommodore]

Probably that I'm a decent hard working self sufficient guy, who is domestically independent (Own my house, Do my own laundry, cleaning and cooking), emotionally mature and intelligent. Not a drug or drink addict either, and not a wife beater type.

I do have my flaws (My cooking isn't great), but generally I'm not as bad as some.

[Anon621]

I am a strong open communicater. I say things from my point of view and I ask questions in an open ended fashion most times and I can give answers to direct questions in a direct manner.

[Miah02]

That sounds more like what would make you a good teacher, or manager

[anylolone]

I'm considered, wiser than average, not fat, quite strong for my weight, very affectionate, independent, social, a bit smart and quite industrious, above average dick size, above average height for where I live, I like sucking pussy, not demanding in sex.

[Tiptoetamm]

I am I take care if myself first so I can be there for my partner, I am supportive, I'm a good listener, when i have a disagreement with my partner I talk it through with him, but I'm not perfect I do my best.

[iseekpinetrees]

I always wanna touch the d. I like mini vacations. I like to push my other half to be better and I'm behind him on his decisions. I like to talk about life and work and mentally how they are doing. I try to be a good partner.

[Dinosaursandanime65]

[Jenngirl00]

Supportive, open, honest, loyal and I will not let anyone hurt my family

[Miah02]

💯💯

[Browneye57]

Smart, good looking, rich as hell, a lion in the sack, creative, funny, and I take care of my SO.
At least my wife of thirty years thinks so. :)

You? I'll bet you've never even considered it. Do you have any idea how to keep a man?

[JesseJayNeak]

I always make people's day.
I'm loyal and faithful
Willing to share emotions
Always ready to learn
I know boundaries
Tolerant of many things
Always ready to make friends

[Miah02]

I like that

[KillerTofu]

I'm not afraid to be vulnerable. I'm not too proud to apologize when in the wrong. I listen and want to understand someone's side. I'm very accepting, loving and forgiving. I'm reliable. I'm independent but I love partnership. I'm someone you can be weird and silly with.

[COMMODOREII]

I try to listen and think of my so as an equal not my property or slave.

[Miah02]

Hope so

[COMMODOREII]

Only one way to know really. Lol

[Miah02]

How's that?

[throwsomecheeseonit]

Haha to date him obviously.

[Miah02]

@throwsomecheeseonit hi😊

[COMMODOREII]

😉😋

[TheBigGuy9]

I’m loyal.
Goals in life
Am able to deal with adversity well
Got my own place
Haven’t lived at home with mommy and daddy since I was 18
I stay active
Humble; not afraid to admit when I’m wrong
Not easily distracted
I think before I speak

[pjf1958]

It's human nature to be our own worst critic. So, I usually focus on what I need to improve on, instead of the opposite.

[FunkyMonkee]

Loyalty, love, being trustworthy, fetching the ball every time she throws it, having a great sense of humour, not getting pissed off at every little thing.

[exitseven]

I take care of my wife and am a good provider and a caring partner. I put the needs of my family before my own. I can make a good living and I have a wide variety of talents.

[TommyMountainFigure]

I put her before myself and always try and see things from her point of view.

[AdithyaR]

I don't think I have any points actually worth anything.
I can cook pretty good but that's a basic skill everyone should know.
I'm a writer, not sure how that helps.

[pink_and_inlove]

I think we’re good for each other because we make each other happy, we’re always there for each other, and we’re each other’s best friends I never thought I would have a bond with someone in this way

[Bean2thousand]

I am a flighty cheater who will never listen and abuse you emotionally. Also, you can protected yourself and pay for all your own stuff. If you want loyalty, get a dog.

[RichardCranium6201]

If i thought that, id be with my girl right now. Turns out she never was only my girl. Smh

[MLGbreezy]

Supportiveness I feel like I'm very supportive of my partner if I had one

[Chris2769]

Empathy, candor and understanding the 5 languages of love

[Minx7282]

Yasss 👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻 someone who's also read the 5 love languages

[IDontBelieveIt]

just looked this up looks very intriguing going to get this cheers

[Chris2769]

@Minx7282 it works!

[Minx7282]

@Chris2769 100% it does

[Iron_Man]

Loyal faithful and supportive of your man be happy be a comedian Pull your weight

[dudeinohio]

Loyal, loving, similar personality to that of my SO.

[Asianguy123]

Cuz I am working now. I am an actor and I post phone my transition. I am a transgender and I know I can get a boy friend if I change it. But I can’t get an acting job if I am transition in acting

[WhiteWolf69]

Good communication, caring, attentive, loving, giving pleasure, empathetic,

[DeltaCharlieEcho]

Nothing. I’m a piece of shit. All I’m good at is fixing stuff and solving problems.

[pat_08]

Lifetime Committment, communication, shared vision-mission/values

[Willoughby23]

I don't know I've never been in a relationship. I don’t really care either

[DangpMango]

I genuinely care and don't give a damn what the norm is. If I need to do it I'll do it

[goodvibes4life247]

I am very open minded, and always try to give my honest opinion

[LAgirl11]

You look like your father would be disappointed in you if he stayed

[OddBeMe]

Well, first…wait I had it.

[Miah02]

Lmao

[collie22]

i'm not perfect but i try to be a good

[newfreshstart]

i'm going to pm you

[collie22]

@newfreshstart if you want

[newfreshstart]

@collie22 you have to follow me first

[collie22]

@newfreshstart okay

[Anonymous]

I’m open minded and flexible

[swettannie]

flexible?

[Opinion Owner]

Emotionally and mentally. Basically I don’t sweat the nonsense

[swettannie]

an you give me some exemple? here or in dm?

[WowwGirl]

I'm good arm candy 😂

[Archerer]

No temper, and a lot of patience!

[Luckycharms12]

Gentlem loyal cheeky funny kinky side

[CubaPirate]

Honesty love compassion and understanding

[lanadelrey25]

I'm empathetic, calm, loyal and caring. ?

[David_Bayer]

I'm very loyal and a good listener.

[Anonymous]

I won't cheat because I have erectile dysfunction

[Jamesscale]

I think i try to be honest and helpfull

[Jmmmfi4]

I don't think I am... hence I'm hopelessly single

[Omario2049]

What does SO mean?

[Miah02]

Significant other.

[Anonymous]

My ablitilty to pleasure her and my money.

[magiusX26]

it doesn't matter

[ProfaneBloom]

Supportive

[key_statistics]

What is an SO

[IDontBelieveIt]

super orgasm.. no seriously Significant Other

[TheFlak38]

Im a bad SO

[Adogdog]

I'm really nice!