Why are men always expected to be the ones to reach out?

[MLGbreezy]

After having many female friends I've noticed that in my experience woman do not reach out to men unless they are a potential romantic interest are already one to begin with. I've seen this multiple times where if I don't talk to a girl who I'm friends with for a while and decided to talk to them the topic always arises on who should have reached out first. And wherever I ask the girl why they didn't reach out they never have an answer or swiftly changed the topic. This isn't always the cases but it is the case far to often. Are men seriously expected to do everything for women bin there interactions nowadays? I feel like I'm holding a babies hand all the time.

[btbc92]

Because you men who think like this don't respect a woman's feelings and emotions. It's too uncomfortable for you because you want something sexual when all we want is somebody to love and cherish us even if we cannot reciprocate. We would for you, but you come short for us or don't want to. Women always express how we feel. It is you men who are too toxic with your emotions to appreciate or accept that. We don't reach out to you because we feel you consider us a burden. And the last thing we want to do, is to feel like were a burden to you. "Fake it till you make it", right? W

[btbc92]

-We now have to protect our hearts from you. Your female friends are avoiding you because:

1. Your behaviors are toxic
2. You're detrimental to their mental, emotional and psychological well-being. They love you as a friend, but they cannot help you with your internal problems that need to be fixed.
3. They more and likely read and observed your actions and behaviors. we care about this with men more than you do. So we preemptively learn to adapt or know how to curve certain situations that is not desirable. Comes with experience.

Again, you don't want friendships. You want sex. Women are not going to reach out like that because were feeding behaviors in you that we don't want. A guy who is primarily looking for sex. A woman needs romance, love, platonic friendship in a man, a man who is secure in himself, who is sure of himself if he is not that secure, somebody who isn't afraid of being honest about what he feels but can respect hers and others too. She needs to feel his heart and he must be warm. A man who has a cold and closed-off heart cannot be reached by the woman he wants. At least for healthy women.

[Anonymous]

I think it’s really scary every time I ask the guy I am kind of seeing if he wants to hangout. I think many girls find it uncomfortable as they don’t want to come across as needy or desperate. Calling girls needy is not fair just because they reach out to a guy. But that is what many girls think guys will think of them in case they ask a guy to hangout.

I am currently waiting for the guy to text me since I took the initiative last time. Although I really want to see him, and we had a great time last time, I don’t dare to reach out to him two times in a row. Now it has been 1.5 weeks since the last time.

I think if you guys want girls to reach out to you more often, you have to encourage it by talking more openly about it. Like ”I really like when girls take a lot of initiative” or ”I got really happy when you asked me if I wanted to hangout btw”

[Unbeatable]

That speaks to the unfounded pride women have they are more valuable

[MLGbreezy]

I agree she took an issue that is entirely on the side of the woman and somehow made it men's fault as all woman love to do. Well if men did this then woman would do this. No it's not our responsibility to have you reach out men so not discourage woman from reaching out if anything how do you think men feel having to constantly reach out you are the ones that don't reach out forcing us to have to and what do men that constantly do that get labeled as? Creeps, desperate and needy , but you expect me to believe that men are discouraging woman from reaching out those is the reason barely any woman do so because they are being labeled as desperate and needy when they don't reach out to begin with. That makes no sense

[MLGbreezy]

Like I literally contradict your own logic

[Opinion Owner]

I’m just explaining it from how me and my girlfriends are feeling about it. We don’t want to come across as a burden, annoying, needy, or desperate when we ask a guy to hangout. For some reason, many girls are afraid of this. Maybe your theory is because of our pride. Maybe it is, maybe not. But that is just an explanation I made to why many women are instead prefering the guy to reach out.

[Unbeatable]

there's no maybe in my judgement. Your pride is excessive. Humility is unknown and archaic.

[Unbeatable]

The truths that they dont reach out cause they could simply do without you and if they did reach out it wouldn't be for your ugly ass.

[Opinion Owner]

@Unbeatable you seem like a nice person

[Unbeatable]

Im Truthful. If you were too, I would be your kind of person.

[Juxtapose]

On average, women are cowards who can't take rejection.

Luckily my girlfriend reached out to me <3

[princeofromance]

I have always wondered this myself. I think the woman needs to branch out, and do that part.