Girls, do you pursue/reach out to guys you are interested in?

[Anonymous]

If you are seeing someone, are you comfortable being the one who takes more intiatives to meet than what the guy does? If you take 60% and he 40%. Or do you expect the guy to take most intiatives and if he doesn’t you assume he is not interested so then you don’t pursue?

[HiveBee]

I think most girls dont want to do all the work.

But luckily for me, I have had a fair few do all the work when I was so shy and had such bad social anxiety that I would run away from a pretty girl if she tried to talk to me lol. Most girls dont want that guy, straight up. I know for a fact being shy and having social anxiety makes you ugly to women.

But I've had some who just didn't care and chased me down like an animal until we fucked lol.

I'd probably be a virgin for life if it wasn't for those girls.

[IHateBeingaMan]

the vast majority don't, will probably always be this way, women playing a passive role in human mating

[SphynxUK]

I’m quite happy to initiate things, just as long as I’m pretty confident they are interested.

[Asker]

How or when do you feel confident in that they are interested? Do you base it on how they act when they are around you and you spend time together or do you base it on how much intiative he takes? I feel comfortable takining intiative if he takes at least as much as me but not if I take more…

[SphynxUK]

I’d have to feel his interest in his actions and words while we’re together, and how much contact we have via text etc when we’re apart. It’s quite easy to know when it’s more than a friendship level of interest.

[Lena84]

Nope. You can drop hints. But if he's not taking them, bounce. It's NOT a woman's job to chase a man. Remember, the egg doesn't swim to the sperm.

[elizamichale1]

Yea sometimes