My boyfriend of 2 years wants his freedom?

[Anonymous]

I have been with my boyfriend for 2 years, but he treated me like crap last couple of months and he just admitted that he has been cold , distant, lazy etc. because he felt that being nice, caring for me and making some effort is more of an obligation. He said he wants to feel free and have no commitments + responsibilities and he assured me that he is not interested in other girls, but as soon as we broke up ( we are on a break for few weeks so he can sort it out) he texted his ex, but allegedly only from a boredom. Im not sure whether to wait for him or just move on, because i feel like i deserve something better after all the effort i put into this relationship. I dont want to date a guy he's been past few months, but fighting for a guy that treated me like him before all of this happened would be worth it. Altought im not sure if he wants to stay anymore.

[Anonymous]

Interesting. My question, did he always feel this way, and is only now being honest with himself about it? Or did something change somewhere during the relationship to make him feel this way? Just curious, I'm not sure it makes a difference either way, but maybe help understand where he's coming from? Especially if there isn't anyone else in the picture. But that's how he feels now, and regardless I'd let him go and try to move on, as hard as it will be. Try not to beat yourself up about it (not your fault). It's him and whatever he's going through. Don't "wait" for him though, it's done in my opinion. Even if he decided he changed his mind and wanted you, I mean, all it does is create doubt for you because he considered this at all, so how much does he really care for you right? I say let him go. It'll take time, but move on as best you can. Try to focus on other things and yourself. When you're ready to date again, find a guy that truly wants to be with you. Don't waste anymore time on this guy.

[Asker]

No he didn't, i think everything changed when he realized im not his priority and he should be his own. Thats when he started to treat me different, but im not sure what caused it. It would be much easier to let him go if he wasn't keep giving me hope saying he wants me to be his girlfriend and definitely be his future, just not right now. Thank u for your opinion

[Opinion Owner]

I would ignore that. "just not right now", really? How can you take that statement seriously when they say that you know? It sounds like he's confused himself and doesn't know what he wants. Either way he's not 100% into you and I wouldn't think that would change later. Even if it did for them, you'd always have that doubt because of this. I would anyway.

[Tunasub]

Let the boy go run free. whybtry to hold on to someone that don't want to be your boyfriend anymore. That's asking to get your feelings hurt even more.

Make sure you let him know once he goes, there will be no sex of any kind and stick to that.

Take some time for yourself, have fun. If you happen to see him in passing be say hello and keep you sweet ass moving.

Stay strong it's gonna hurt for while but time heals, so let it.

[Asker]

i would if he didn't say he wants to be with me and to have a life with me (including marriage and kids) even though he knows its selfish wanting to be "free" rn. Its really confusing for both of us

[Tunasub]

You are young and maybe you both need some time apart for a while. If possible maybe down the road you 2 will reconnect when you both know yourselves better and really know what and who you want so things won't be so confusing.

[Tunasub]

Thanks for MHO

[OlderAndWiser]

The way he was 6 months ago is not the way he is now. Hoping he will change again is a huge risk for you wasting time. If you decide to do that, have a time limit for yourself: if he doesn't act like a real boyfriend in three months (or six months or whatever time you can afford to waste,) then I'm moving on and not looking back.

[rcljr]

If you are completely broken up with both parties full knowledge then move on, it was his call, his loss.

[Paris13]

Move On. He will Keep Doing It, m This Idiot. Cannot be Trusted anymore!!! xxoo

[Made4sex]

I wouldn’t wait for it. If he really is that guy still then he would have fought for it himself.

[Scotte1us]

Could be a sex problem or you are annoying him you should discuss it maybe he found some one!!!

[Luckycharms12]

Leave him go if treating you bad and feels that way

[Canceled]

Yes! Commitment is a trap, kings!

[Iron_Man]

Give it to him for a while and see what happens

[IveGotNoName]

I'd let him go

[In_Trance]

Dump him