Does dating mean to have sex with someone?

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LindsayR07 · Accepted Answer

I haven't read the other girls responses yet but I feel I am the black sheep with my opinion here:

If you are in a monogamous relationship, it is your responsibility to your relationship to be sexually available to your man and here is why... You can put lipstick on a pig, but it's still a pig; you can dress humans up in a society with societal constructs and expectations, but we are still animals at heart. as such, we have basic needs like any mammal: food, water, and the ultimate goal of procreation ad a means of furthering the species.

True, we are very complex, you have gay and lesbian folk, and asexual folk who buck this trend, but these anomalies occur throughout nature and do not completely detract from a creatures drive to procreate.

Your man has needs, as do you. It is unethical to demand that he refuse his base needs because of your personal choices or sense of morality. Your choices are fine, the imposition of personal choices upon others is not.

If you choose to be celibate either do the ethical thing and permit him to pursue this primal need elsewhere or understand that he will be tempted to do so behind your back... I'm not saying he will, but the temptation will exist.

Sarahr123 · Accepted Answer

Dating means testing people. It means you are going out on dates with people you’re not committed to until you find someone compatible where both of you decide to commit.

I personally don’t like dating. I prefer going straight into relationships with someone I know and like.

Jake99999 · Accepted Answer

Of course it includes that. If people are dating it means they have a romantic interest and attraction - so of course sex is in that picture. But it may not come into the picture right away. Just going on a first date with someone does not mean you have to have sex on the first date. And there should not be any rules on “how many dates before you have sex”. Sex should be a mutual feeling, mutual consent. If you are dating someone and you like each other, at some point it leads to sex. When you both feel it’s right.

To be dating someone and have zero expectation that it will lead to sex at some point - that sex is not part of dating at all - that just seems strange.

You may date someone and never have any sex with them because it was only a few dates and you realized you didn’t like them - so you moved on. But if you are dating someone and you both feel good about how it’s going…sex is part of romance.

If your question is really asking about “is sex required on the first date” I would say no. There should be no timer on it or pressure on it. It should happen when it feels right for both people.

ThatNoUVAtYourEyes · Accepted Answer

No,

Dating - in America - is the process of getting together with someone (typically with the intention of marrying and/or starting a family (inceiving and raising a child/children)).

The word comes from 'synchronising schedules/agendas' - lifestyles and lives, into togethernsss (which itself is an evolutionary adaptation for better chances of survival/life more beautiful than living it alone; somewhere along the way those who came together and gave birth to children ended up being multigenerational; those who did not are not around - except if you belive in life eternal and shrinking into being a baby in which case dating is the same but the rest sounds crazy from the standpoint of the death being inevitable)

Browneye57 · Answer

Dating is how people get to know each other. Spending quality time together, face to face, learning about the other, so you can make a determination as to their worthiness, whether they are match.

If you really like someone and you feel connected, then you may choose to be intimate with them, to have sex with them. Dating and sex are not synonymous.

It's a little concerning when a 31yo isn't sure about dating and sex. Are you sure you didn't lie to get on here - like you're really 12?

Lippime123 · Answer

Nope, especially in highly religious communities, sex is something often reserved for marriage.
However, even in the non religious context, sex is not the foundation of dating. Sex can indicate a one night stand, a friends with benefits, marriage or dating. It is not exclusive.

Dating is usually a tool to get to know the other person through various activities (dinner, puttputt, movies etc.).

ObscuredBeyond · Answer

Doesn't have to. I was courting a Chinese woman on and off for 5 years before it became official that I was never gonna get her back. I gave her every possible chance, but she wound up I guess in an arranged marriage back in China. The plug was pulled on her internet, and she was unable to tell me the bad news. By the time her replacement at work was able to get through to me, the gal was already raising someone else's kid.

I would've done almost anything for her. But I never actually got the chance to take her to bed, or even kiss her. I also wanted to kiss a different woman I was close to, who was terminally ill. But I had a cold, so I missed my chance. Only once did I get physical with anyone, a long long time ago. But it's better that way. If you jump into sex, you forget everything else that makes a relationship great. It becomes nothing but sex, and then you don't have a real relationship. You have a booty call. And those are so mindless.

Novacane · Answer

If they are official then I would say it doesn't mean you have to do it but it comes with it, or at least the idea of exclusive sex with that person only. When you take into perspective what is the difference between a friendship and a relationship, for the most part, all the things you can do or aspire in a relationship can also be done in a friendship, so what really separated the two? For the most part, it is sex that makes the difference, because you wouldn't want to have sex with friends (I mean you could but it's not likely) therefore being in a relationship where there is no sex is basically just a friendship.

KaylaJoy · Answer

No, not if that’s not what you want. My boyfriend and I have been living together for 4 months and we still haven’t had sex. Just set up the boundaries that you are comfortable with.

readyplayer001 · Answer

not how i was raised traditional it means- dating- means getting to know the person, likes, dislikes. people these days are very backwards the whole society of having 2,3,4,5 kids by different people, changing partners like changing socks is ridiculous, people would rather break up and move on rather then work on things

Halibut · Answer

For most people it will, and it'll definitely be assumed that it will at some point. Even if the woman says she's asexual, the guy is probably going to be interested in sex unless she's real specific about not wanting sex.

I know there are people who would be quite interested in still dating someone where no sex was involved though. I figure these will mostly be inexperienced guys. I know an overweight guy with a wonderful personality who's never had a girlfriend who would jump on that sort of thing in a heartbeat.

I think if someone won't eventually want sex, they should specific about that though. Other people just might not want sex before marriage, or that sort of thing. I would assume plenty of people would be okay with that... so long as it would happen at some point.

MelissaMarie9614 · Answer

No! Dating and being in a relationship does not mean sex. There's more to a relationship then sex. Save that for marriage. That's what I'm doing.

IveGotNoName · Answer

No it does not, because then I didn't date my boyfriend until like 1.5 years into our relationship

PositiveNote · Answer

There is just so much sexual tension if the relationship goes sex-less for too long. I belief you then risk either doing some stupid things, or you "tie the knot" only to find out later you shouldn't have rushed.

I'm an expert in that married-before-sex mistake. Sex is something that you should experience and have it regularly so that you can rule out not only sexual tension, but you have to what each other is like without the tension.

cloudspy · Answer

No. I think dating is going out on dates, getting to know someone. Maybe kissing to see if you like them to have sex with in the future. My view is you can date more than one person at a time if you want to, and then pick the one you like the best to move things on further with.

SunnyFlorida · Answer

Unless the woman is a virgin... then there is a reasonable expectation that a relationship would involve physical love making. From a man's view point, if I am dating a woman and the woman isn't having intimacy with me, she is having it with someone other man.

TheorionMage · Answer

'Dating' has become a euphemism for turning a PLATONIC 'friendship' to explore its intimate physical potential... either merely 'carnally' or ultimately to a committed exclusivity.
I grew up when peers used the 'euphemism' of "going steady" to express a PHYSICALLY PRIVILEGED status.
You have given expressed CONSENT to BE touched... to BE kissed, ... intimately caressed & fondled, ... possibly consenting to foreplay to arouse nascent desire to copulate. #Me Too ~

FilmGuy93 · Answer

Not always, but secular society in the Western World would consider sex an essential part of most dating relationships.

Anonymous · Answer

Yes unfortunately it. Everyone all nowadays is having sex with person their date. I don't think dating is innocent. They are using each other without marriage. Men use women for sex, women use men for money. Generally, the dating period ends after 7-8 months. LMFAO

I think everyone should keep their innocence for one person they fall in love with. 😌

Anonymous · Answer

No. Who says that it needs to be done in a relationship or even in a marriage? There is no obligation for it, nor is there the obligation to say yes to anything for guys and girls. If a girl asks her boyfriend/fiancé/husband for it, she is not entitled to the guy saying yes to that, inasmuch as a guy asking his girlfriend/fiancée/wife for it is not entitled to her saying yes to that.

Anonymous · Answer

Not necessarily. Some people expect to be having sex while dating, some prefer to wait until they are in a committed relationship to have sex, some prefer to wait until marriage to have sex. And some will have sex with people whether they are dating or not.

tropicalbreeze · Answer

No. Otherwise all those dinner date shows are false advertising or editing me out the good parts. But seriously no. No it does not mean that and sometimes a date ends as boring as a friendship catch-up.

Massageman · Answer

No. Dating means that you are going on a date.  Having sex means you are having sex.

Slotbot · Answer

Chaos to the fly, is nature to the spider.

We all have different comfort levels n were introduced to it in different ways.
U only have to look at the current available gender choices to see that not even 1 of us is the same.

I must advise anyone branching out beyond their regular comfort zone to stay in Physical contact with ur zone at all times cos it’s beyond hectic n I didn’t even go upstairs. Lol.

karaspara · Answer

No it means going out on dates with someone sex may or may not be on the agenda

exitseven · Answer

It does not mean that you have to. You can go on as many dates as you want that will not end in sex.

Anonymous · Answer

What exactly do you mean…dating as in months of seeing someone? Or dating as in the first date?

MotorcycleMan · Answer

Typically, yes, but not necessarily.
I see dating as people who are interested in each other romantically doing things together to get to know each other and enjoy their time together. Sex may or may not be a part of that.

Schizoaffective · Answer

that is something you and the one are seeing would decide. There is no norm about it. So just communicate with each other about boundaries and expectations

ohshee · Answer

I guess you could mean just about anything but dating for me just means I'm seeing somebody and having sex with somebody please I'm having hot sex with somebody if I'm having hot sex with somebody I'm going to date them LOL

DarkWinterNights · Answer

No. Just that you’re exclusive to someone and in some sort of intimate relationship with them.

onahole-san · Answer

Just going to be honest here. If I am dating someone, I do expect sex. At a bare minimum, 69'ing is a must. I am not "waiting until marriage" or interested in a girl who is "saving herself"

slatyb · Answer

That's up to the people involved. But most adults date to find a companion and sex partner, so after a few dates they are doing it. The average for me is three dates.

backblueblack22 · Answer

Unless you are dating to become serious (engaged and then marriage) then sex is an integral part of a romantic relationship.

Lowiu · Answer

No not necessary its just a stage where you get to know each other closer

Anonymous · Answer

Wow so many people are saying no. Liars!
Then howcome many people lost their virginity, been fucked thousands of times and also hate the concept of sex after marriage?
Why is hookup culture normalized?

TremorJay · Answer

No it means to spend time with them as a potential (romantic) partner

Avcfhcic · Answer

I'd rather wait to know it's the right thing to do. You don't need to rush sex

Bklynbadboy12 · Answer

No it doesn't you don't have to do anything you don't want to do

genericname85 · Answer

No. Most people expect that sooner or later in dating.

the_kisses_of_sun · Answer

Maybe I'm old school but sex is not dating. Sex is just fun. Dating is going on dates to get to know someone and see if you are compatible.

Anonymous · Answer

Personally? Hell no. You should (in my personal opinion) stay a virgin until your wedding night. 😉

DizzyDesii · Answer

Totally different defintions/levels. Dating should come before the sex

Xylem1992 · Answer

Not necessarily. You could date someone without it leading to sex.

Anonymous · Answer

No it means both are set to hang out , spending time with each other.

Dantenera · Answer

What do you expect?
You're both of the opposite gender.
And to the contrary, have a lady or a man who is mentally literate and civilised, one day you'll see its importance.
#thank me later.
Sex you can find from anyone.

pinaypixie · Answer

No! Dating is an established deeper relationship than friendship between two or more people.  Sometimes that relationship is spiritual rather than physical.

RebeccaSJ · Answer

Not necessarily, but in today's world, it usually does.

Gnome0 · Answer

It is often implied... like it could happen eventually, though that is not always implied.

legalboxers · Answer

can be.. unless your the type who has no sex until marriage... #biblethumpers

joshctlee · Answer

I’ve been doing a lot of dating and never even came close to having sex. Dating is just getting to know someone to see if you’re compatible.

The sex comes later when you both know you’re ready to move forward

nickaboy · Answer

Nope it is getting to know someone you are curious about having a sexual and emotional relationship with

B4852 · Answer

Not at all. You can Definitely date someone without having to have sex.

Queenzee22 · Answer

Nope it's not to me but actually it's depends on whatever they agree to

Caliguy88 · Answer

I think that’s a big piece but I don’t rush it. If someone needs a little time I’m not out right away.

postaldudePL123 · Answer

Does having sex means dating someone?  First you answer this and you have your answer.

Anonymous · Answer

Honestly I wouldn't have sex with a person Im not dating, but I would still date someone if we didn't have sex. For me sex is a perk of dating, not the other way around.

RasberrySlushPuppy · Answer

No not that i know of, have i been doing something wrong?

SmokinAces2000 · Answer

No but Im sexually active so I’m not gonna get into a relationship with someone who isn’t from the start

sattii2607 · Answer

Definitely not, somes dates may turn out to include making out but that doesn't mean every date is meant for that alone

Anonymous · Answer

I am Christian as is my Girlfriend we are saving for marriage. We are using dating to grow our relation in Christ and get to know each other better.

Slartybartfast · Answer

No, just that your dating them..

red324 · Answer

Eventually. Not necessarily the first date or three but yes.

ToastyOats · Answer

It should Always be the goal, But sometimes things don't workout and all you get is a burrito.

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