Is there something wrong with me. Why am I not liking men I’m supposed to like?

[Anonymous]

I’m a FA (forever alone) person. 29 and never had a boyfriend. Been trying apps. Met a couple guys. I just don’t feel anything. No attraction. But they seem to lead normal, fun lives. If i dated them i’d have a normal fun life too. i went out with a guy Friday. i was out with him for 4 hours. i don’t know why i don’t like him or see us meeting again. i didn’t care to see him again. that’s why i stayed out past 12 with him. i knew i wouldn’t want to see him again so i was taking in the company while i had it. is something wrong with me. why is my brain my heart not feeling anything is worth pursuing.

side note i have liked maybe 3 guys in my life and they didn’t want anything with me.

[Anonymous]

Out of all of the guys you dated, how many of them flirted, teases, broke the touch barrier or talked beyond just two friends spending time together?

[Asker]

none

[Opinion Owner]

Just as I suspected. A lot of women don't really understand that when they are attracted to a man, it's primarily because the man built this attraction through those things I just mentioned. But for the man, he is primarily attracted initially from how the woman looks. Therefore, if the man does not build attraction, or does not know how to build attraction, the vast majority of time you are around him, you simply will not feel attracted.

If I were to take all of those same guys that you just mentioned, and you spent time with them... but they built attraction... then you would not be asking this question. There are exceptions of course.

The fact is, the same guy can behave in one way and you'd be completely uninterested, but could behave in another way and you be crazy about him.

But you could also play your part by inviting them in more, being more open, feminine etc. But if the man does not know how to build from that, then nothing will happen. Therefore, that is likely to be the issue.

Now think back to the men you liked, either they were very attractive, or their behavior was attractive.

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