Friends think a guy I’m talking to is ugly?

[Anonymous]

I have been Rowling to this guy for about two weeks now. I don’t know if I like him or not because he is not my usual type. I’m in college and he smokes a lot and etc. i like his Personality tho. But I don’t want to be with him in that way yet. I’m just getting to know him and learning how to talk to guys. I don’t know how to talk to guys to he is making this process easy for me. Anyway yesterday my friends kept enforcing how he looks smoked out and not cute anymore but he doesn’t look too bad to me when he gets fixed up. But I know their opinions shouldn’t matter to me but in a way I do. I’m trying to figure out what I should do. I don’t want the first guy I talk to in so long to be someone who disappoints me of gives my friends ammo to talk about me. What should I do?

[Anonymous]

Here's my take on your question and description:

After two weeks a woman knows if she's attracted to someone or not. If you are saying that when you met him he wasn't your type and after two weeks, you're not feeling him in a more intimate way, then the attraction just isn't there for you. By getting to know him, you're hoping you will gain more attraction for him as time goes by. Usually when we humans do this, we confuse attraction with filling a void because we have taken a liking to the comfort that person provides us.

Your friends comments are poking you because you are not secure enough in yourself, nor in the guy you are seeing. Trust me, when you really like someone, there's not much someone could say that could bother you. Also, if your friends are talking about you and not to you, you need new friends.

Here's my advice. First you should ask yourself a some questions and BE HONEST with yourself. Let's pretend you could have your pick at any guy you want... Would you chose the guy you're seeing now? If you didn't have social issues with guys and this guy didn't make it easy for you... Would you put in effort to still date this guy? If you had another option who wanted to date you and you were interested... would you dump the guy you're seeing now and give the new guy a chance?

[ohshee]

This is not about your friends this is about you and what you want and what you like and what makes you happy.
In life we most experienced something do you understand it
This is all a new experience for you learn everything you can.
This is not about being ugly or cute this is about a friendship a bond and interaction with somebody that you wouldn't usually even hang out with but there's something beautiful that you like about it so that's good. This is like the second or third question I've answered kind of like this because I'm going to say the same thing as I send in those answers in order to understand something you need to experience it
If I was you I would roleplay online and start learning how to communicate that way to to be honest with you I think you probably are very special person it was a very beautiful heart.
This is your journey embrace it become it. Role play it out

[SteveSmith1985]

You should let your friends know that you like this guy, so out of respect FOR YOU... ask them to quit talking shit about him.

Easy. If they're your friends that should be that.

If you like this guy it really shouldn't matter what they think.

You should totally go for it. 🙂

[koran_harinas]

Fellow human, Stop! Right there! And listen.
Listen yourself only! Some people look good or have first impression game strong but when they open their mouth and start showing their personalities then and there the real strong personality person's game starts "maybe" like one you mentioned!

Dw he will too have some bad things which need to be improved as any human but it's you who need to decide whatever you want ! Or feel! Don't let other control you
Yes listen everyone but do what you feel!

Best wishes to you and your "guy" friend 🌻

[Slithers]

I don't care what my friends think about people I'm seeing. Most of them have high standards they don't follow through on themselves. I had a guy making fun of a chick I was having a fling with and the very next week he's taking home a girl that looked like a dogs breakfast.

[Anonymous]

It is your life, not your friends.
Do not try to fix a man, you will end up disappointed every time.
Most of my uni friends are gone, I see only few of them once or twice a year.
In case you already noticing all his bad bits more, you going down the hill with your relationship, you need to change something or move on.

[boggboss]

Learn to have friends that u don't feel u need to not give them ammo towards your friends group sounds so toxic ita amusing

[dragoblack]

It's about what you want. Its not your friends looking for romance, but you. You know what you find attractive, and you know what you like. Friends only get input if the guy is dangerous or has a bunch of red flags

[Yourfriend2021]

Give him a chance, at least you could become good friends.

[andy530]

Go with what feels right. If you find him attractive go for it screw what others think

[PuNishant]

Lol you have rude friends.

[Wise4myage]

Stop thinking or caring what they say or think.

[scott04sa22]

im ugliest so whats the differences

[scott04sa22]

It’s true

[disgustingweebtrash]

ok lol why does it matter what she thinks