I'm super into the guy I've been going out with recently, but there is a major age difference (I'm 40, he's 26) Is the age difference too much? (Page 2)
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It might be a little too much but it depends on the individals. There are plenty of 40 year old guys that are physically much younger.
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If you two work. go for it.
The age thing is little ridicules obstacle/limitation we tend to create to mess with ourselves when it doesn't really matter on a emotional level.
Shouldn't you be deciding that? If you form relationships based on societal pressure it would won't be healthy.
I am deciding that, but I'm kind of on the fence. I'm just trying to ask what other people think and see if there's any insights that could help me
The stereotypes come from younger attractive woman being with a financially well off older man and the fact that age usually comes with more life experiences so statistically it is less like to have commonalities. If you "vibe" better or the same as men in your age range I say go for it.
I've actually vibed much better with him then most guys my age. The age difference still worries me though. If it wasn't for that I'd be all in
So what reservations do you have about the age difference? Starting a family is a major one I can think of.
That's a big one. I'm also concerned that there could be some other major life goal differences and/or maturity differences if we got far enough in the relationship
Dig in and discuss goals and values. Better to know now before you become more invested.
Age only matters when your younger, the older you get the less it matters.
I think you should just love one another and take it from there.
I say go for it, I was in the same situation kinda she was 42 divorced with 2 kids, I am 28 never been married but we didn't work out but not because of the age difference
Why didn't you work out? Do you think if you were closer in age it would have changed much?
She drank too much for my taste and I wasn't into that and we weren't sexually compatible, which was more so on my end, I dont think age mattered much
are you sure that the age difference wasn't an issue for your sexual compatibility? That is something I'm a bit worried about (if we got there). Be honest, did you find her physically attractive (especially when compared to girls your age you could otherwise be dating)? Was that an issue?
Yes I am sure, I'm pretty picky and won't get with anyone I'm not attracted to, I'm not attracted to girls younger or my age usually because of their maturity level, thats why I prefer older women and have only dated older seriously
It won't be super serious forever because of your fertility. One day he will want a biological child and you can't provide it and then he will leave.
Your both adults and if your both happy who cares what other people think?
He's a boy honey. He just wants some hot pussy. And the stepping thing is a GIANT fail.
If he wants to be with you, go for the ride. The age difference should be more of a concern for him.
That's interesting. Why do you think the age difference would be more of a concern for him then me?
If he really loves and cares about you, then he has to consider life. My girlfriend is only 5 years older than me and I'm concerned about her dying before me if we get married. You're 14 years older than him, it's a concern. You can, probably, very happily marry and live to the end of your days with him. He can't really do the same, because you will probably die before him.
As long as real love and compatibility are there, it's no issue.
Enough said
Not really I see lot in reverse I don’t have problem If your both happy.
My mom has a friend, 75, married to a guy, 95
They make it work. Why, i dk, but they do
It’s a lot. But everyone’s an adult. So ride that boy toy, cougar.
maybe for a sexual thing thats ok. Not a serious relationship
why not?
Just barely. Take half your age And add 7... That the rule for me to decide if too young or not
If the chemistry is there then I say go for it.
There's a ton of chemistry, but I'm just really worried that problems could arise due to us being in pretty different parts of our lives. I really wish I'd hit it off like this with a guy my age, but I haven't. I go back and forth on this all the time.
Nooo not at all mines that age.
Yes, but I'm a bit older then you. Do you think it would make a difference if you were 40 instead of 32?
No I would have still gone for him
He acts 60
Nope. Doesn’t matter what others think