I suppose he's immature and is not really ready for a real relationship or it's his first time dating and he got overly excited with the physical touching. He sounds devastated by the fact that he couldn't touch you physically, he probably is wondering and pondering on the question whether you like him or not; however, when it's your first date it's important to slow down. For not texting you all day sounds pretty immature of him. Try talking to him again and make it clear.
Here are other tips:
Applaud your assertiveness
You have taken the time of figure out what you want and you’re ready to communicate that. You are not shying away from being honest, and you’re not running away from something you’re enjoying just because you want it to change a little.
What to say to him:
Have a clear ask for what you want so that you are answering:
What does slow mean, how would you define it?
How does it practically look?
Do you have a time frame in mind for this current pace?
Stay calm. One way to do this is to plan your words beforehand. Rehearse the scene and potential responses he may have. This will help prevent you from saying something that is emotionally charged, or that you regret.
Give context
Prepare to explain why you want to slow down. Help him understand by walking him through your decision. You have also decided to continue seeing him, not just break up, so explain why.
Anticipate that he may worry he has done something to upset you, and you can help him see that you made this decision for yourself. He may become defensive and interpret your request as a critique of him or that he has done something wrong (neither of which may be true). But, it is not your responsibility to soothe his feelings or handle his anxiety.
One thing that can help is to mention positives about him, your relationship, and your thoughts (even hopes) for the future.
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So you are claiming you want to wait for sex until you established a relationship yet at the same time you are saying you made out with him for hours making out with him you gave the impression you wanted sex talk about playing mine games with someone no wonder why he pulled away and he hasn’t bothered to contact you
It sounds like you're the type of girl that finds anything and everything to bitch and complain about. If he texted you more, you'd wonder if he had anything better to do with his day than being on the phone. But he doesn't text you at all and now you're craving his attention.
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You've had one date, you told him to slow down, and now you're complaining because he doesn't text thoughout the day. Isn't that mixed signals? Perhaps you need to slow down, too!
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He could just be busy. It's one day. Relax.
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