He knew when he started to date her it was a package deal
@Booboo210 That's stupid logic. People enter into all sorts of things. Doesn't mean they have unending obligations. If someone has kids, they're their kids. Dating someone should not be a parent's ticket out of financial obligation to one's kin.
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Perfect. love her wholeheartedly and not half hearted
Are you just interested in finding love or are you committed? Are you willing to do what is inconvenient?
Yeah, that is more the way I see it.
You right if don't except her kids don't date her besides what if he had 2 kidsshould she except them. sometimes get to the meat got to bend a little both ways
@Booboo210 Mostly kids live with the mum so single fathers have it easy unless they’re raising the kids in which case fathers tend to stay single until the kids are adults if they’re good dads which they must be if they’re raising the kid. And I think most women wouldn’t want to raise someone else’s kid. I certainly would not so I understand men who wouldn’t. It would be different if I married a man who had children from a previous marriage and perhaps the mother deserted them or god forbid she’s no longer in this world then I would accept them and give them a mother’s love because they’d be my husband’s kids and I’d be their mother so they’re my responsibility. In dating scenarios that isn’t the case.
I agree with you but I know a lot of men that are low life and self centeredeven know women who walk of leave their kids. But if you had 2 kids and I really wanted youthen I would except them
Mmm…I love this one. Wait until you’re 30 and the playing field is all sorts of complicated.
@WakeSkateNut2126 I think I will be seriously thinking about marrying and settle down by my mid-late twenties so the likelihood of looking for a boyfriend at 30+ is almost 0 for me. Plus I am very lucky to have family support to find me a good stable husband so that I can have a lifelong marriage. God forbid I end up alone raising children in my 30s I will not even think about finding another man. I’ll be too busy raising my children and working on myself and withh the emotional fool that I am I may well be very hung up on the memories of my spouse because I believe that true love only happens once and that it is beyond a lifetime. So I am not really worried about anything.
I hope that works out for you. Because…it does become very difficult to find women without kids if you’re not married at 30. Women have a tough time finding a man that is responsible enough to handle their kids at 30. The single pickings become more scarce the longer you wait. There’s usually a reason why a lot of them are single too. The earlier you can get into something serious the better off you are in my opinion, especially if you’re planning on kiddo’s. I thought I’d be married by at least 25, kids by 30. What you picture your life to be in the future does not always play out like that. Just make it happen girl!
In regards to being hung up on your spouse while raising your kids alone at 30…you best not have sex till marriage. Either that or plan for an abortion because if you get pregnant you could be raising that kid alone at 30 without any of those memories. ;)
@WakeSkateNut2126 I am a virgin. In my culture girls don’t have sex before marriage. Indian culture is very strict with that and most girls are virgins when they’re married. My people are particularly orthodox. This traditional thought saves us from situations like these.
Hell yeah. The values you value create character. Good for you.
@mmlover Sorry to hurt your feelings , missy. But you clearly didn't get the memo that this dude doesn't want to live up to his end of the bargain when he got in a relationship witha single mother. And yes, most men do not want to date single mothers. Simply because we do not want to take care of children not our own. Don't like it? Sounds like a you-problem rather than that of anyone else. Yes, men who choose to date single mothers are more often losers and ironically often not respected by these same single mothers as they are seen as nothing more but a provider and are set on the bottom of the priority list. If someone needs growing up, it is you for getting mad at better informed people who have atonomy over what they want and choose for their life. Stay mad, missy.
@mmlover I know you're talking about shit you have no knowledge about because you yourself don't have to deal with, but any step father knows that they are expected to contribute financially to the children of the woman. One of the biggest reasons why single mothers are desperate to have a man is to "save" them financially. This is not me making stuff up, but rather gathered knowledge from those who went on that path. You can throw all the insults you want, booboo, but it won't change my views and it won't change the fact that single mothers are most undesirable.When it comes to this poster, either he is confused or he is seeking validation to why he shouldn't pay. Either way, it seems that he doesn't know what he got himself into. Now begone, trash