Is he uninterested or is he being cautious with me?

[Anonymous]

My guy friend confessed that he likes me as more than a friend and he knows I feel the same way towards him...
he has an overnite job working in a warehouse and he does get tired out... however he never messages me first but he does reply to me and he does tell me he misses me when I tell him I miss him... and he doesn’t like planning too far ahead...
is he uninterested in me? Or is he being cautious with me? (He’s a virgin still)

Uninterested in me

Being cautious

Updates

+1 y

He always cuddles me and hold me close to him and plays with my hair whenever we’re together

[slatyb]

You are 30 and he’s a virgin? That’s really unusual. He must be extremely awkward and shy. If you want him, you are going to have to ask him for a date. If he won’t commit to a meeting, then forget about it. He’s in the closet or asexual and in any case is unsuitable for a romantic partner.

[Asker]

We’ve seen each other a few times so far and he’s always all over me... he even grabbed my phone to see if I still talk to my ex... and he was playing with my hair and kissing me

[slatyb]

He’s interested. What do you want? The phone thing would be a big violation for me.

[Asker]

I’m always the first to message him but he replies to me... is he being cautious with me?

[Asker]

We’ve seen each other a few times already

[OlderAndWiser]

To me it sounds as if he is inexperienced and doesn't know what is expected of him in a relationship.

He has admitted to a romantic interest in you, so why haven't you scheduled a date?

[OlderAndWiser]

I understand tat you know he is a virgin, but do you know anything about romantic relationships he may have had in the past?

[Browneye57]

Two things...
1. You cannot forge a relationship by texting, so just quit that bullshit.
2. Guys connect physically, so if you're not fucking him he's not yours. PERIOD.

[horatiohornblower]

Tell him specifically you want a date and push for a firm day and time.

[Twalli]

Most guys don't text first and unless you have told him recently you feel the same way he might not make any moves.

[OddBeMe]

Most likely cautious. Guys are constantly told not to seem over eager.

[Jamie05rhs]

You asked this question before.

[mark000h]

Yes, I think you know he's interested.

[Wise4myage]

He's being cautious, so try to be patient.

[Anonymous]

Sounds like he is being cautious