Do you think that it's alright to mess up in dating while you're still new at it especially if you're an adult?

[poneglyphs]

I'm a late bloomer and I will definitely make mistakes and don't really know what I'm doing at all. I got take it day by day but I know I will make mistakes and that gets me kinda nervous 😓😓

[Pasiton5]

Listen nobody makes mistake how else you gonna learn you know, now it depends on the size of the mistake and what kind of mistake you make that's what matters so make sure you learn from it you know don't do it again or you know you control it but it's quite okay to make a mistake your first time out second time out third time out you make a mistake don't go on any more dates again till you can control yourself ok

[RobT312]

Everyone makes mistakes all the time no matter what your age is. Just do your best and go with it and have fun. I still mess up

[poneglyphs]

Thanks, I just feel lost cuz I never dated and don't really know what I want? 😕😕

[RealMarek]

Nobody is perfect, but what makes you think you will mess up in a bad way? Are you liable to cheat? Have addiction issues? Pressure a woman for sex? Be mean? You don’t seem the type to do those things.

[poneglyphs]

Maybe to clingy, ask for lots of sex, I might feel insecure in a relationship, and she might think that I'm not a fully adult yet because I lack certain things.

[RealMarek]

If you get far enough that you have a girlfriend, then the woman probably thinks you’re adult enough to be with, so that’s not a problem unless you’re not picking up skills and working toward being able to support yourself. If you’re on a path and a woman appreciates that, then good. As for sex, just talk about it up front once you become intimate. Ask her how much sex is reasonable and express what your needs are. I bet you would work out something that is mutually agreeable. If not, that’s a big incompatibility. The most difficult of the things you list is the feeling of insecurity. The best way to combat that is to do things that give you confidence and to avoid women who are manipulative or tend to drag you down.

[RealMarek]

Above all just be yourself and stay genuine, and I think you’ll be fine.

[Avicenna]

Of course- you need to learn what you want in dating, what works for you, and more about women. You're going to be outside your comfort zone, so mistakes will be made. And even experienced guys can make mistakes outside of our comfort zone.

[awkward_author]

Making mistakes is part of the learning process, so it’s fine as long as you’re not intentionally hurting anyone.

[poneglyphs]

Okay

[NathanDavis]

that depends on what you mean by mistakes...

there's "oops, sorry... mistakes"

and there's "going to jail, mistakes"

[poneglyphs]

Well, more opps sorry mistakes I doubt I would make any life threatening mistakes

[NathanDavis]

then that is fine... mistakes can happen all the time, experienced or not... you should not worry about that too much

[poneglyphs]

Alright just feel like I'm going to be a bad boyfriend or someone who needs help. 😟😟

[exitseven]

Everybody messes up. You make a mistake, you fix it. If it cannot be fixed you move on. Sitting on the sidelines is not an option.

[Yuuibtony]

No, u going through the age that u going have a midlife crisis

[poneglyphs]

Lol, alright

[DaveToo]

Believe it or not, once you meet the right person, it will all fall into place.

[boobliker]

mistakes and messing-up is part of life it's how we find things out, say sorry and move on and up!!!

[Tomtom9494]

Late bloomer is just a term used for men who lack what it takes to draw the interest of women therefore we remain undeveloped compared to those that are our same age

[poneglyphs]

Uhh so am I undeveloped?

@tomtom9494

[Tomtom9494]

Yes. As I am too

@Poneglyphs

[Tomtom9494]

Also your cat is identical to my brothers lol

[poneglyphs]

So, what can we do to be "develop"

@tomtom9494

[Tomtom9494]

I don’t care for dating or sex so it’s up to you. Try socializing more and engaging with women. Treat them as friends first then dating comes naturally.

[poneglyphs]

Oh, okay and lol they are cute cats 😍😍😍

[Tomtom9494]

They are haha my bros a huge gamer so his kitty is all fat cause she just eats and sleeps while he games all day

[Caunsos]

Fail faster because the sooner you fail the sooner you can do things better.

[Gwenhwyfar]

Yes!

[poneglyphs]

Okay, I will mess up but you'll be here if I need advice

[Gwenhwyfar]

Yes 😊

[poneglyphs]

🥰🥰🥰

[Anonymous]

I would think so