I'd be disqualified from your list immediately because my relationship with mein mutter is piss poor. I have to be honest I like to talk about throwing a party if she dies but tbh I still just want to hear her admit one day that she's wrong about me and I'm the greatest son, not her bitter disappointment. To be fair, I fucked my own life up just fine without her helping out but, thankfully she also has two sons and the other one is a golden goose. Somehow, I don't know. Everyone loves him and I'm an afterthought so everyone can't be wrong.
Either way you and I are apparently incompatible right off the bat just based on this.
I would probably never date someone from hs either tbh with you. I saw my childhood crush again recently and she's... directionless. Unlike me she stayed the course and remained in our hometown and completed her Master's in our field, I did not, I'm often mocked for only having my Bachelor's despite having done it in half the time of everyone else. I had my own shit I worked out in my final semester. But her parents also divorced and I felt bad for that and we caught up but I couldn't help but think the whole time I was talking to her "you know everything you're going through right now that you're seeking my validation with right now? Yeah, I had to go through it about ten years earlier than you did a lot messier and with no one to help me through for the most part, the only two who did are dead now" and it's for that reason that in my head when someone from my childhood gives me the time of day as an adult now I just think "what was wrong with me in your eyes a decade ago? You know I was around then too, right? I wasn't much different from now".
I might be an asshole for thinking that way but I just, sorry. I'm terrified of never being seen as that sweet kid and that boy I was and always imagined ending up with a girl I went to school with... but that's not really what I want. I'm not an afterthought or anyone's second choice.
Instant disqualifier for me? This isn't really an instant but it would make me think twice about dating someone: Kids.
Sorry but I'm only 25, I know a lot of fathers at my age but I'm just not ready for kids right now and that part of my life isn't something I even want to remotely think about til I'm maybe 30, at least 28. I've got shit I still have to figure out here before I try to not fuck up another little Human.
If she has a history of being a liar and a cheat and I know it or later find out, NO DICE! Further if she is a liar and a cheat I won't even allow her in my home. To me these types are subhuman and I avoid them. If she has tats, smokes, or has meth teeth, NO DICE! Obesity and poor personal hygiene is another thing. I will be spending some time today and the rest of the week with a lady who has a large scar on her face from an accident years ago. True beauty comes from within. I'm sorry if this offends, but it is how I am.
Things that instantly disqualify you:
drug consumption/vaping/cigarette or tobacco use (this includes chewing. This includes each and every way and form of drug use. And I don’t care if you will always do it on my porch. We aren’t going to date or have any association with one another).
continual streams of swearing in your conversations with me. It makes you sound dumb. Sorry/not sorry.
if I find out you watch very large amounts of porn. This is now a dealbreaker. porn occasionally is fine. I do look at guy’s internet history.
I run background checks. If anything besides 2 traffic violations (speeding tickets) pop up, this automatically disqualifies yo ass. So yes, I’ll find out if you are a sex offender. I’ll find out if you have stolen from stores or have ever been in jail.
lying. About anything. Period. Automatic disqualification. This includes omission. lying about serious things such as saying you have a driver’s license when you don’t and then wrecking my vehicle will lead to you paying for each and every damage. one of my exes actually did this.
not having any form of college education. I like and thrive off being with someone intelligent. I don’t want to date a hick. thanks.
Not having a car.
not having your own decent home/apartment or getting ready to move into your own space.
A prior record of cheating. I have my ways to figure out if you have been doing this in the past. I do speak to individuals you associate with if I can prior to dating someone. I ALWAYS FIND OUT. I do better research than the FBI. I don’t play.
The one's you mentioned except for height, he must be taller than me so taller than 1.6m. Other big no's include: alcoholics/drug addict/smoker, cheater, dishonesty, manipulative, too consumed by career, hung up on the past/exes, doesn't listen, treats women likes slaves and not close to equals
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- Being atheist.
- Arrogance, especially about your looks.
- Being too concerned with money or career.
- Disrespecting store associates, cashiers, or restaurant workers.
- Having a dirty house.
- Bad breath.
- Finding it funny to insult others.
- Smoking.
- Tattoos down arms or torsos (it really is not my thing).
- General dishonesty about who you're texting, your daily life, etc.
Red flags are pretty basic. Bad temper, treats you with no respect, verbally abusive with you and other people..
1. You can’t admit it when you’re wrong. You can’t take criticism. You blame other people for your own mistakes. You take anything less than a compliment as an attack. This is actually extremely common amongst people.
2. You are too old. By the time I’m 45, I’m not interested in being married to a senior citizen who needs his diapers changed and for me to constantly remind you to take your medication. I can’t grow old with someone who is already old
3. You are controlling. If you’re the type of person who is “do it my way or the high way “. Then I’m not interested in you. Because I’m a grown up adult , not a child who needs to be told how exactly you want laundry folded or how the kitchen should be organized
4. you’re bad tempered. As someone who stands up for herself when She knows she's right , don’t expect me to back down just because you screamed at me.
5. you are too attached to your parents and siblings. When I marry you, we are supposed to be one family. Your loyalty and first priority should be your wife and children. If you make decisions primarily by consulting your parents instead of your wife , we would be headed for a very rough path ahead
6. You’re a 40 yr old man who only dates girls that are 18-25. If you only date 20 yr old girls , I have no doubt that you would dump me by the time I turn 35 for another 20 yr old girl. Perverts don’t make good husbands
Quite a lot. Like if they were really fat. A little bit fat, I can deal with, I mean nobody is perfect, but if she's just a blob with hands, feet and eyes, forget it.
I also wouldn't date a nazi or a white supremacist. Or a black supremacist for that matter or any other ideologically racist person.
Women too old for me are out too. I'm not ageist, I just think it would be weird. Like the French President and his wife. Anyone too invested in their religion is also out. Well, actually I might date a nun cause it seems kind of exciting since she's not supposed to date. So it would make the sex seem kind of naughty. But she still couldn't be a living blob, nazi, racist etc etc.. and she wouldn't be too religious anyway or she wouldn't be doing it. Kind of dishonest of her though isn't it? Anyway, enough about that.
I probably wouldn't date a lesbian either for obvious reasons. I also wouldn't date anyone who was too left or right politically. Or an antivaxxer or climate change denialist or someone who doesn't understand that science isn't just some sort of conspiracy theory. Normal people only please. I just want someone who isn't too much of a weirdo.
No celibacy until marriage people either. Sex literally takes like 30 minutes on a good day, nobody needs to wait their whole life for that. There's probably more, but that will do for now.
If he smokes or does drugs
If he's an avid gamer (daily/weekly)
If he has obvious anger issues
If he drinks alcohol daily/weekly
If he never wants kids
If he's 5+ years older/younger
If he doesn't believe in God
If he's too into social media/attention
If he's in a career that requires lots of travel
If he lacks a sense of humor
If he's constantly cocky/arrogant
If he's too into politics/debates
If he brags about having a large body count (large body counts disgust me and I really won't know he has one unless he mentions it)
I can't stand over active bravado. Some guys are just honestly tough, and that's okay, although I tend to avoid them as well. I think running and using your mind is far better than being a tough guy.
Some guys just have a grit to them, a resolve, and they're great.
Other than that, I stay far away from flashy people. Low key is best for me.
I cannot stand cigarettes, instant bye-bye.
Other than that, everything else is common sense (feces level filth, violent personality, etc.)
Yeah I feel the same about height. As long as he's taller than me or at least my height then it's fine with me. I'm only about 5'5 so that shouldn't be a problem.
Here are my other disqualifiers:
1. Anti vax and anti mask.
2. Wants children (I don't want children for a variety of reasons. It's mostly due to financial reasons. I'm deep in student loan debt. I may go back to school for a master's and I'll end up getting myself into more debt).
3. Smokes and/or drinks.
4. He has to be at least 18 but I don't want someone more than 15 years older than me.
5. Bigoted in anyway (racist, sexist, homophobic, etc.)
Far right/rights wing people.
They are not necessarily racists (tho, far right usually are) but they are per definition opposed to foreigners and social policies.
Its just fucking against everything I'm and value but I do expect they won't date me either.
Insecurities are also a turn off. I can't respect a man who isn't confident with his height or penis size or that I earn more than him. Seriously, grow the fuck up.
Also raging playing videogames. Like wow, if XxxSephiroth666xxX who teabagged you in battlefield 2042 make you lose self control, you ain't gonna survive me, bro.
Also being obsessed toward my ethnie? I won't even talk to you.
There's 50 billion people out there and you can date if you know something negative about a person don't even think about about dating them I mean if you know that a guy steps in dogshit every single day are you going to date him he'll say well I wash my shoes off it doesn't matter you still Steppin it every day LOL no walk away from those people anybody that's negative walkaway meet somebody new find out what they do and then walk away from them too you don't have to be in a hurry take your time they will come to you
Well... I don't date at all 😂😅 but if I did...
I definitely would NOT date someone who considers themselves a feminist, a leftist, a communist and/or socialist. A BLM supporter, antifa supporter, or an SJW. I'd prefer not to date a democrat or liberal either. I've unknowingly done that before and it was not great.
I also wouldn't date someone with a mental illness because I've been with too many women with mental issues in the past. Including borderline personality disorder, bipolar disorder, schizophrenia, multiple personality, and panic disorder. I'm not going to allow myself to add another crazy ass bitch to that list.
I also don't want anyone clingy. I've dealt with too much suffocation in every relationship I've been in in the past. No touchy!
Too bad this list is exactly what women are these days... At least those that are my age which are unfortunately between Millenial and gen z 😩
leathery skin from constantly tanning
obvious poor hygiene
drugs other than weed or drinking
constant use of weed (some occassional is fine to a degree though i preffer none)
constant drinking (though on some occassions is fine even to the point of actually getting drunk unless you have a horrible personality when drunk)
overly dressy/high maintanance/snobby
bigotted attitude (things like racist or sexist)
looking old enough to be my mom or older
acting/being a complete airhead
these are just the major things off the top of my head
Aids
Smoking Crack or Meth
Disrespecting Elders
Selfishness and Ungrateful
A refusal to grow , work or unwillingness to learn
Treating our relationship like a transaction (you don’t have to sleep with me for me to do anything for you if I want sex I’ll go have sex)
Lying ( always )
Blatant racism ( I enjoy a racist joke as much as the next guy but if you’re constantly on and on about it that’s mad weird)
Probably my biggest one that I have ghosted a lot of girls for is not having a genuine interest or lack of commitment
For my age group it's quite different. These would be a no, and I am picky too, but I can't help it.
Poor hygiene
Poor teeth--but if this can be fixed, then it would be ok.
Uncaring or aloof attitude
Unfriendly or antagonistic, argumentative
Too talkative
Pothead -serious one, that is or drug user
No sense of humor at all
And that's it!
Smoker, drug user, doesn't care about physical health and hygiene, history of cheating, no future aspirations, insecure about what I wear instead of having a 'thats my girl! she's beautiful attitude' seeing my body as something they have a right to, calling periods little boy names like 'shark week' or 'no sex week' instead of being mature and loving. Avoids talking and prolongs arguments by not being able to sit down and discuss rationally, porn addiction, IG Model addiction.
“if the vibe/ gut feeling of fear”. On one end I can see why you feel that way on gut instincts and for good reason.
But seriously how often do women quickly reject men if the guy makes an honest mistake or accidentally wrong comment? Women really make guys walk the right rope on that.
What would disqualify a woman from me dating her?
1. Feminist/far-left/woke
2. Bisexual/queer (lesbian)
3. Transgender (male)
4. Polyamorous/isn't single/the "open relationship" type (an adulterer; unfaithful)
5. Abusive in any way, physical or verbally (a bitch)
6. Has an OnlyFans and/or promotes lewd content on the internet
What would disqualify me from dating a woman?
1. Short (under 6'0")
2. Chubby/a little overweight
3. Dark-skinned
- Being a serious Republican
- Being taller then me. But I am 6; 3" and have yet to meet a woman that was taller.
- really short hair. (it isn't automatic, but most women can't pull it off well)
- being really negative or nasty
- if it is an online profile, I skip past the ones that the entire profile is telling me what I need to me, not what they are and what they like.
If he has awful hygiene/ a slob, doesn’t take care of himself, if he is quick tempered, sexist /misogynistic behavior, if he lies, and also if he is a conspiracy nut.
And yes maybe I’m superficial here but if he is shorter than me or extremely overweight. All disqualifying.
- heavy drinkers
-people who party often
-someone who doesn’t go to the gym as serious as me (since I Practically live there need someone to understand)
-someone who usually only ‘prefers casual stuff but will make a change for me’ (I don’t like that vibe)
-someone who doesn’t have a strong sense of identity/ambition
Simple stuff. If you are mean, Daddy issues, Mommy issues, if her family are jerks, have annoying friends, fake, mean to other girls for no reason, judgmental, always serious, a cheater, lies all the time, inconsiderate, and don't think. Also, If they don't have common sense.
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