If a guy says he’s not “looking for anything serious, then what is he looking for?

[Anonymous]

So I started talking to this guy on a dating app. On it, it says he’s not looking for anything serious/not looking for a relationship. I initially thought he was looking for a hookup but he never initiated anything. Never asked to “hang out” or anything. I asked him to hang out and he said yes. I even sent him a topless photo of myself (not with my face) lol. And he did like it and all. And said he can’t wait to see it in person as well. However, this entire time our conversations have been platonic for the exception of when I sent him that photo.

Then he got drunk a few days ago at a bar and grill and told me that he likes giving me his undivided attention. And that the only thing that would make his night better would be if I was there with him. Also said he really likes talking to me. Since he was drinking, I told him to have fun and to message me another time so he can enjoy his night without feeling obligated to text back. But he said no. That he wanted to be talking to me right at that very moment.

Like. Is he just trying to be friends? I’m just confused.

[AmandaYVR]

It's code for "I don't want commitment, responsibilities, or pressure. Will you just fuck me?"

He sounds like he is a happy drunk. But listen more to the sober.
He's emotionally unavailable.
But if you already sent a topless photo then you're looking for sex and you'll probably get it. Just don't expect anything more out of him.

Most guys aren't interesting in being "just friends." They want no friendship, or sex, or a relationship. "Friends" could just mean fucking around once in a while, sexting, etc.

[Asker]

I mean yeah. I just wanted a hookup. And still do. But I’m confused as to why he’s been messaging me nonstop for 2 weeks now and he’s kept it platonic. I’m the one that had to ask to “hang out” (essentially hook up).

[Mary087]

Nothing serious usually equals just sex or friends with benefits or even one night stand, once he knows he got it from you that could be it…

[Asker]

I’m just looking for a hookup. My question is that he’s not even trying to hookup with me. Lol. We’ve been talking for like 2 weeks and he never asked to hang out or has flirted or anything. I’m the one that asked to hang out.

[Honesttguy]

He just struggling to lead it further, females always expect guys to know how to move everything perfectly forward. Maybe he thinks things are going further and u feel like emm hello nothing happpening.
Well thats life no one teaches guy how to do things. So thats that.
All u can do is suggest if u want to see my why dont u ask me out or something?

[Asker]

I had the afterthought that maybe he’s just looking for friends? Lol. Because he never made a move.

[Citizenkirk]

Who knows maybe just a fun time without complications, as if such relationships actually exist.

[awkward_author]

Maybe he wants a friends with benefits situation? It's possible he wants to establish some form of friendship first, though.

[Cowboy6666]

He wants sex nothing else.
Also he was in hangover that day, so he didn't know what he was saying that day.
Suggest you to move on from him

[Asker]

Well I only want a hookup. I’m saying he’s not even trying to hook up with me tho.

[FilmGuy93]

He's looking for sex and quasi monogamous companionship

[driven159]

looking for sex and a good time with no strings attached

[NachoDaddy]

He either wants a friend or passtime sex buddy. Not worth your time in my opinion.

[Anonymous]

Oh the problems people have with hooking up, don't get or spread STDs please.

[Iron_Man]

He wants to use your body and get satisfied by you

[Asker]

I’m looking for a hookup. But If you read what I wrote, he’s not even trying to hook up with me

[Iron_Man]

I just read a little bit of it I answer a lot of questions it’s not like I’ve got time to answer maybe two questions every day and really get into every detail

[andylakes9]

Looking to hookup or sext

[Asker]

Did you read what I put tho? In the paragraph. I want a hookup. But he’s not even trying

[jahaims]

Sex.

[fireforeffect]

Sex.