In your opinion, is paying a sex worker a way to get more comfortable with girls/women?

[Anonymous]

I was thinking about it. As a balding 20 yo dude, i've got very low chances to meet a girl interested in me, and willing to accept my baldness, until i'll be 30 or more. So, other 10 years without experiencing dating will destroy my self esteem. I've been told i already look like a 30 yo man, even if i workout and even if i'm not that bad looking.

So, would paying a sex worker help regarding this insecurity? This is a serious question. Not having to deal with the burden of "being a virgin not by choice" is not great anymore and my self esteem is damaged.

[LexiLuv91]

You should DEFINITELY work on building your self esteem up and learn to be confident. You're worrying about balding? Really? Not to dismiss your worries and fears but honey, you are putting too much into it. Stop overthinking and overanalyzing.
And considering paying a woman for sex to lose your virginity. Let's stop and think about that for a second. What do you think THAT will do to your self esteem and self image? The fact that you had to PAY FOR SEX TO GET LAID. That sounds like it would be the real disaster.
If it means that much to you, take the money you would use to pay for a prostitute and get yourself some Rogaine? Or buy a hat? But I promise you, YOU'RE the only one worried about baldness. And the more you make a big deal about it, THEN it becomes a problem.
At the very least, OWN it. Find a way to be confident and smooth with the baldness. THAT is sexy.

[IHateBeingaMan]

for many guys, its a last resort, they feel its the only way

[LexiLuv91]

@IHateBeingaMan Well, I've never had that experience so really I shouldn't even speak on something I know nothing about. But at the same time, if you're having that much self doubt, there's a much bigger problem then a quick losing of ones virginity. What is expected to happen after the hook up? You think you get a Casanova Supreme Overlord Greek God amount of confidence? Maybe some pep in your step because you finally stuck your thing in some thing? NO.

[Asker]

OP here. I've read both your answers and i'd like to thank you first for these long opinions. I'll answer later cause i'm busy due to studying rn.

[IHateBeingaMan]

plus, a lot of guys don't want to have to deal with the burden of courtship and having to take the lead

[LexiLuv91]

@IHateBeingaMan So you want your cake and eat it too?

[IHateBeingaMan]

i don't know what you mean by that

[MysteriousDarkness]

@IHateBeingaMan
Have your cake and eat it to - To have or do two things that one desires that are normally contradictory or impossible to have or do simultaneously.

[IHateBeingaMan]

some guys are too socially awkward or socially inept beyond their control to ever get a girlfriend

[Sour-rose]

Yes... because you can call it practice. If you walk up to the plate and not know how to swing at the ball, you gonna get hit in the balls or face. And it's gonna hurt. But if you practice with your "friend" (just imagine with me please), you can build up said confidience. :)

[Phoenix-gb]

Unfortunately, as someone also "blessed" with male pattern baldness in their 20's, it doesn't improve in your 30's either. With regards to seeing a sex worker, for some I've heard it works, I've not done it myself, I'd rather someone wanted to be with me for me, not the money I'm paying them, but you do you.

Hope you sort out whatever it is you need to though, I'm still trying to and about to run out of hope for myself.

[IMuser]

1. If balding was the deal breaker, Johnny Sins and Jeff Bezos would be broke af
2. Assume that you will never get laid and have a girl in your life. For the next 10 years, make women your last priority, work hard, build a social circle such that you won't have to use tinder or brothels to get laid
3. Find a reason to stay alive. Your libido ain't going anywhere

[honeynut-scenarios]

No. Sex workers have a job, and if your intentions are to get ‘dating practice’ with them, I think you’ll be far disappointed. It’s an act, and they’re playing a role. I think this will give you a huge misconception of how real relationships should be. Plus, loosing your virginity, especially to a hooker, would not in anyway make you more desirable. Plenty of women adore bald men!!

[Asker]

yeah you're right.

But i don't seem to notice that women like bald men. It's just that i'm too young to be seen attractive with a shaved head. I totally agree with you by the way, but i don't really think women "adore" bald men... they're just more accepting. But i'm talking about women, not girls of my age. Lack of dating for the next years would hurt me.

Thanks for the reply

[honeynut-scenarios]

Keep trying! She’s out there. This is actually a lot more common than you may think. Lots of bald men choose to wear hats everyday, but once you embrace it, you’ll never look back. I’m rooting for you!

[moviedude714]

I would believe the experiences vary per men

[PhenomenalQueen]

Honestly, I don’t think you should do that.. I think you should just date women and allow yourself to experience the situations so that you’re learning.. Trial and error, you know? Sex workers aren’t always clean (STDS) and it wouldn’t be the best decision to put yourself in that situation.

[Anonymous]

This is more common than you think. Women hate virgins and want men who have lot of sex so men learn to get sex workers to fix that problem. Most women only want top with big D so thousands sleep with top 100 men at their college. If sex work didn't exist then most men would still be virgin and alone

Since many men still like virgins the top men will marry a nice virgin because they can. This works good because promiscuous men taking virgin women gives chance for leftovers to get together so promiscuous sex workers can get with virgin men

[JustiReno]

Sex workers will teach you the WRONG / OPPOSITE things you need for a relationship in the future. It’s a numbers game, start asking 10 girls out a day and if they reject you so what, you’ll never see them again in your life you don’t have to care.

pro tip: use that $$$ you were gonna spend on pussy on some Js and a new fit and let the games begin!!!

[bamesjond0069]

Uhh thats retarded and morally wrong you never give a woman money for sex. Fuck a prostitute fine but get her to fuck you for free have some game dude.

If you dont try to hit on every fuckable girl you pass within 30 feet of then you really aren't giving it your best.

And whats the big deal with looking 30? Im 35 and have significant grey hair. I have a hot 19 year old girlfriend. you're just making dumb excuses because you won't even say hi to girls.

[moviedude714]

A lot of guys just want to get it out of the way

[bamesjond0069]

@moviedude714 so fuck a fat slut for your first time. But heavens please dont pay.

[Truthatanycost]

If you're balding at that age then find out why. I'm not buying this genetic stuff people always blame, that's how they keep you hopeless so you turn to their money making ideas. What diet do you have? how much collagen do you intake daily?

[Explorer91]

I suspect the bald issue might not be the only issue holding you back.
I suspect maybe you lack other qualities to make up for the baldness? Is it possible to focus on improving those qualities?

[slatyb]

Don’t give up. My bald 20-something 5-5” friend met a lovely woman on Bagel Meets Coffee. They are both into hiking and a couple of years ago they hiked the Pacific Crest Trail, all 2653+ miles of it.

[Lionman95]

No because it might help you getting pleasure out from sex but there is so much about a relationship that sex workers can't teach you.

[Darine123]

Don’t waste your money on prostitute!! You will regret about it. Just wait till u find the right one

[Wilhelmstrasse]

He's an incel. he never will

[JustiReno]

@Wilhelmstrasse naw he can spend that money to get fitted and he might actually have a chance

[Asker]

@Wilhelmstrasse are you serious? You know incels have misogynist thoughts? You know incels value people only regarding their looks from 1 to 10? Do you know that?

Someone who’s inexperienced in relationships and sex and feels sad about it is not like thinking about killing all women on the planet. Cause that exactly what incels think and you just stated i got misogynistic convictions. Think twice before replying and using terms you know nothing about.

[Wilhelmstrasse]

I'm an incel. so I feel you bro. you can't get women that's exactly what you are 💯

[JustiReno]

@Wilhelmstrasse I thought you were a giant?

[Twalli]

Dide, you're too young to be an incel. I didn't get a girlfriend until 27 and I started balding early too. Although that may have been partly due to malnutrition.

[driven159]

get in a dating service and tell the truth about yourself and some women be interested in a virgin or start going after 30 years Olds they are better at sex anyway

[blondfrog]

No cause they will tell you whatever you wanna hear and have sex with you anyway you want. So they are giving you a false sense of security lol.

[moviedude714]

I believe it works out well for many guys who do this, to each their own and of course not for everyone

[Medhat-M]

Practically speaking... yeah I think it can actually help

[anton_dee]

No. A paid lady will be all business. You will not experience the warmth of a lady in love... Trust me, there is a HUGE difference...

[Slim57]

It helps a little but then you realize they're only all over you because they're paid to be, feels much better when a woman is all over you for your charm and not your money

[Jamie05rhs]

No. Lol. Then you'll just go from being bald to being a bald creep. Congratulations.

[Hellraiser1984]

Not in the us. In Europe it's way easier to do that.

[blundernuts]

It will only lead to low self-esteem and depression making it harder to deal with social situations