On the other hand, there are plenty of good guys that are actually willing to get to know me & take me out, and are actually caring, but I'm just not usually to attracted to the guys that have treated me well. sometimes I find that they come across as simps, which is a major turn off.
So what am I supposed to do? cause if I date a cool guy, I'll be happy to be with someone who I find attractive physically & emotionally too, but I'll be unhappy if he sleeps with other girls & cheats & parties all the time, which is expected & common behaviour of a guy like that.
Whereas with a nice guy, they'll treat me well & keep me happy mentally, but deep down I will be unhappy knowing I'm not that attracted to them & that I'll always be wishing I was with a 'cool' guy. So either way, it seems I won't be satisfied & there will always be a lack of something. How am I supposed to ever find an appropriate partner if I can't get someone that can at least fulfil some basic traits? I'm not asking for perfection.
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Your problem is common among women. Polygamy was the standard for most of human history. Women all like the same men. For example, studies hAve found that women rank 85% of males in photographs as “below average.”
men often bristle at this when women claim to want a relationship, yet they all line up to hookup with the same handful of men
what you might want to do, is give a few nice guys a chance. I, for example, often find that women I admire become beautiful over time. In addition, people bond over sex. If you have a good man, sleep with him often. This will often lead to a closer bond, and greater physical attraction.
also, if you want an alpha male, understand your physical attractiveness peaks young. Women often fail to realize how quickly they age. You will get far more attention at 23 than 35, but too many women engage in ugly behavior while young, then look to “settle down” when they are clearly past their prime, and now have sullied reputations.
try targeting older alpha males (10-20 years older than you and looking to settle down), and if that does not work, then work on falling in love with nice guys who will treat you with respect and be good fathers/husbands. Men do this instinctively. Women are often oblivious to the fact that yelling at your parents in front of a man, or behaving rudely towards service staff makes women look ugly. Men who do not care only want to sleep with you.
also, look at who and when alpha males marry. They marry in theirs thirties and forties, to women in their twenties. They care nothing for careers or social status (note how many rich men marry flight attendants, or retail clerks). They want good wives and mothers, not alpha females.
or you can simply be happy as a semen receptive for alpha males, when they cannot get anything better. Most women appear to choose this option, given modern marriage rates