Would you rather to be chased or do the chase when it comes to dating?

[Desconhecida]

[Cynicaldreamer]

I've never been "chased" by a guy. I honestly wouldn't mind experiencing that for a change. Usually I'm the one trying to convince a guy why I'm worth being with, or what a catch I am... only to be disappointed.

... it gets old, just like my patience, lol.

But why should someone chase the other person to prove his or her worth? Why can't dating be simple where it's mutual: you like me; I like you... we give it a shot? Instead of one person putting in more effort than the other. That's just stupid to me there has to be a chaser when it comes to dating.

[Lliam]

Either one. I do have to say that it's nice if a woman likes me enough to chase me. And I like pro-active women.

I met my wife through a pre-internet dating service. You could request up to five meetings (dates) a week through the site. I went on several dates.
When I met my (future) wife, we really clicked and our date went extremely well. But I had other dates in the pipeline. There is a chance that I would have gone on any met other women.
But two days after our date, she called me to say that some friends had offered her two tickets to see the Red Hot Chili Peppers opening for the Rolling Stones. She wondered if I was interested in joining her, knowing full well that I was a rocker. She didn't even like that kind of music.
Of course I was interested and we had a great time. We wound up dating exclusively after that. If she hadn't been pro active, we might not have gotten together. So I applaud her guts and initiative.

[globetrotter22]

In my experience women want challenge more then men do (when all else is equal). They rarely truly fall in love with a guy who “chases them”. Some sad exceptions would be briefly falling in love with aggressive controlling guys because some women mistake his deep insecurity as strong masculine energy. She won’t stay in love with him though.

No the best relationships are when the women is slightly and I do emphasize slightly more into the guy then vice versa. Her attraction will keep her more level headed when she gets caught up in her emotional shit testing moments.

[WonderBell99]

If ANY man feels the need to “CHASE” me, then I’m not interested. I neither like to be chased nor chase anyone. I’m not going to go after someone who is not interested in me. It sounds like an utter waste of time and energy.

If I’m not interested in someone, and they still try to pursue me, I would be extremely annoyed. I don’t chase anyone. If I develop feelings for someone, and they’re single, I’d be straightforward and let them know that I have feelings for them. If they do not seem to reciprocate the feelings, I would leave them alone.

[OlderAndWiser]

I have been doing the chasing for fifty years so I'll keep doing what I've been doing.

[KrisPW]

I think everybody wants to be chased, but I'm not going to make a guy work extra just to prove anything. Not gonna run from someone I'm interested in. I want to feel wanted, desired, but women also get labeled so I also don't want to appear "easy" or "cheap".

[muscularbumblebee]

I always got chased in the past. As much as I enjoy being chased I prefer chasing.. if the guy ends up liking me back the reward is a lot higher. I know relationships aren’t fun and games but it’s boring when you already know you have options when there’s a magic gem out there hiding who you can also catch somehow and might be s better match for you. Plus if a man chases after you he’s probably also chased after several other girls I mean..

[JSmuve]

I don't mind doing the pursuing. BUT, I hate when it's one-sided. Being chased doesn't mean sitting on your hands and acting indifferent while he pursues you, ladies. You gotta match his energy. If she's not doing that, then she's really not worth the pursuit and it's just going to lead to disappointment.

[ZackBan]

For guys "being chased" doesn't just happen.
The guys who do get chased have actually managed to make the impression needed on the girl so she began chasing.

Personally I'd rather chase simply because it's fun and it allows me to pick and chose who I wanna get involved with

[wheresmrcunnunglis]

Where is the third option for us women where we stare potential love interests down until they get the hint that we want them to talk to us and take it from there? I used to do this but now I don't know. Since all the times I have attempted to chase, I realized that I liked the chasing aspect more than the denouement.

[Msputiton]

Shouldn't be any chasing.
I believe it should be shoot your shot.
Either a yes or a no.
Yes proceed
No move on to the next.

If the person said no but is interested, then i would say they missed their chance and should've been more honest.

If someone has to chase someone to get them to date them.
That relationship sounds like it most likely gonna not work

[StuMan1990]

I've spent too much chasing for a date and never been chased, I'd so love to be chased for a change. I'd love it to bits if a woman took an interest in me for once, started flirting with me and eventually ask me on a date one day out of the blue, but Hell has not frozen over yet, so the chances of that happening is a massive 0% of happening.

[motownplayer2000]

Neither. I would rather meet someone. Get to know them (which means have mutual interest). And see where it leads. I’m not big on giving more effort to a woman than she would give me. So if that’s the case, I’ll chase the money like I always do instead.

[GlassTop]

If you chase a woman it becomes harassment unless she reciprocates it. But you never know unless you go far enough. Go too fast and you are a creep. Go too slow and friend zoned. Only way it works out well for guy is to be extremely attractive or have money.

[Unknown0427]

I think every relationship should be 50/50 so whether your male or female you should be chased and chase occasionally. But personally as a female I want to be chased.

[Anonymous]

I like the excitement of taking initiative, and do a little chase. But on one hand I'm sort of shy and anxious, and on other hand I don't like her to stretch the chase that much haha. and I can't pick on her signs of interest unless it's really obvious. Also I'm always afraid that she is not interested and I'm just misinterpreting things

[crmoore]

I'd rather be chased. But not fervently (not to be confused with a lack of dependence or neediness, I love both of those qualities). I'll start conversations, but I don't chase. If she plays hard to get or otherwise obfuscates her interest in me, I'll lose appeal in her real quick.

[chulo1992]

I have never been a fan of chasing women. Now if I was a police officer and she was running from me... 🏃🏼‍♂️ No but seriously, I rather a woman give me choosing signals, this way if I'm interested, I will make the approach. If there is no choosing signals, there will be no approach therefore she will have to (how they say at dinner) Come and get it!!!

[johnnygodeep]

Chased but faint then into it… especially if they have a partner…
I like to get into their heads and then watch it play out… it’s my personal fav… :) I like watching them wrestle with it, then the moral dilemma, as sexual tension builds, and they wrestle and plot, daydream and fantasize, get all up in their head while you watch them work themselves and their pussy and tight assholes horny and shamesslessly into my long thick cock… :) lol

[MrNameless]

I don't chase. That's for children.

I will pursue women that I'm really interested in and let them know I am out, but if they play hard to get on purpose, I'm out. Might try once or twice, but I'm done and moving on to the next.

[NathanDavis]

none... I don't like to play games like that

if you're chasing or pursuing it means they're distancing themselves so that's pretty much pointless to me... if you're not into or onto me, then there's nothing for me in that...

[bamesjond0069]

Neither. Thats for children. A solid relationship you should both be head over heels the second you meet each other. I don't know how people even bother being with people they aren't that excited about or that werent that excited about them. Smh seems like shit to me.

[England4eva]

Girls who play hard to get, get chased. I’ve never done that, cause if I want it I’m available.
Therefore there is (in my opinion) a degree of interest missing, if you are playing the game, because it comes with uncertainty.

[Emiliamazing]

Nearly 20 years ago I think I did the chasing to meet my husband. I flirted so hard and it took a while for it to sit in that I was actually interested in him. Happy it worked out :-)

[Mess96]

Asked out. I’m sick and tired of the games and plus there’s no way I’m gonna make the first move. Even if my feelings for a guy keep building up with time and I’m holding it all in letting it build up. I actually do that

[Anonymous]

I think the vast majority of guys would prefer that if a woman is interested in them she would take some initiative. It's flattering to anyone, male or female when someone shows interest in them.

I don't understand why women still don't take the initiative more often. Most still expect men to do it, which just makes women look bad because it reinforces the reputation modern women have earned for wanting to abolish all traditional gender roles except the ones that benefit them.

[Phoenix-gb]

Chased, far too many rejections to think anyone's interested in me, so now looking for someone who want's to prove me wrong.

[Borzor]

Depends what you mean by chasing.
I believe it's a man's job to go after a woman at the start, but if it's not a push-and-pull then a man should stop. The girl actually has to encourage it by stopping and engaging a man from time to time. However, after about the 3rd date, it should slowly go to 50/50, and remain there most of the time.
When it comes to dates, it is perfectly fine for a man to do 95-100% of the work as long as the girl is receptive.

[awkwardddgirl]

in this scenario what do you think should be done-if a girl asks the guy for the first date then should he initiate the second or she should still chase him for the 2nd date

[Preston_Tatum]

Honestly, I still like chasing if I know she’s into me. Chasing her is if she doesn’t like you is called stalking lol. I’d be fine with the woman chasing me.

[Pyrofox]

I'd be down to be chased. Just then gotta be prepared to go on all the fun crazy places I wanna go. O. O and see. And put up with the pics of us on those adventures.

[ChrisMaster69]

It varies tbh.

i like doing the chasing but only if they know I am chasing and they want it.

then it’s more Hunter and prey so to speak lol

[KevVickinz]

I never win the race so I give up before I even start. You usually see me sitting on the bleachers slackin lol

[AvaOneLasTime]

If i run too fast, he won't catch me. If i run too slow, he will think i am easy.
Maybe i should slip?

[Kicks98]

SoI have been taked iniciative with guys... And never been lucky... So i prefer been chased and then I can see how interested he is on me.

[Siren777]

Asked out. These games will get me bored way too easily and I don't have time for shit nor do I wait around.

[Kaamraj]

I am a man and have never been chased, it would be good to experience what it feels like to be wanted and persued.

[oliversamuel]

I'd rather do the chase. I've had people stalk me because they had giant crushes on me, or just become obsessed with me while I felt the exact opposite.

[Biya21]

i did chase in the past but i feel so exhausted because in the past i was so giving and that person was a liar and cheater, so now i prefer someone who will chase me because i have self confidence issues as i was cheated on by that stupid person.

[exitseven]

I will do the chasing but I was really shy and closed up with girls and I appreciated the gentle nudge I got sometimes.

[CasaNorba]

none!

if I do the chasing then that would mean I'm thirsty. but if she does the chasing then she must be needy

[luvstoned4him]

I did both but being chased is better for the ego if you know what I mean 😂😇

[MysticDevice]

I've done enough chasing over the years and I'm tired of no reciprocation so someone else can do the chasing now.

[sissyalexa]

I've never been chased before, I think I'd quiet like it!

[connemara_crocodile]

Do the chase... The feeling of reward is greater when you have to work for it.

[megabamse]

It don't matter.

How ever ladies should most definitely try and do the chase every now and then.

[Hellraiser1984]

Chased as a guy it's much easier because you know she's interested. Instead of wasting your time hoping and trying only to be friendzoned. Women play too many mind games.

[SurströmmingLover]

Mostly do the chase, but it would be intriguing for the woman to be able to express her feelings too. I wouldn't like to be with a "no-feelings robot".

[Fiend88]

Being Chased is best. Im kinda old fashioned and feel like that's the role of the man.

[UniquelyBasic]

I can only run like 2 steps then Im tired so Im out on the chasing part.

[Shark_61695]

Imagine a monolith... that's how I'd act. Just waiting for someone to be distracted and walk face first into me.

[skytatoe]

Bit of both. I wanna be initiating, but I also pull back to see how reciprocal it is. And if there's no reciprocity it kinda kills it for me.

[CloudMassacre]

I don’t like Chase shit, like if I feel that someone isn’t really that interested in me, I’m going to just leave them alone and move on

[TyLeeAndPink]

I want to be chased. Gently, though. If a guy seems possessive or intrusive then that’s a red flag.

[Totenkopf88]

Be chased. Because I have done a good amount of chasing and it would be cool if I got chased for a change. But honestly must girls aren't going to do that so I guess I keep chasing. But who knows maybe I get lucky one day?

[Anonymous]

I’ve only ever done the chasing. Gets tiring and it’s not what I want. Cut the crap and just be 100 with each other

[TheManInTheWall]

I've tried both. When chasing its always been met with some pretty insulting responses, and no one has actually tried to chase me so I guess its just if you got the looks you're going to have success either way

[Darine123]

I would rather to be chased!! Why do I need to chase anyone? It’s tired

[Anonymous]

Chased in this day and age because to chase is to engage in violating the MeToo statutes and that is of course punishable but life in prison or the death penalty

[connemara_crocodile]

I see what you did there... nice

[Opinion Owner]

What did I do?
I was being serious especially these days, I won't enter a room alone with a female under 50 as protection I try to bring someone else if that situation could possibly arise

[FunkyMonkee]

I've been chaste for over 26 years and I'm damn sick of it!

[Jamie05rhs]

Neither. Why can't we just have a rational discussion and evaluate our compatibility with one another? Then we can flirt afterwards.

[MountAverage]

Neither, I prefer a mature kind of getting together. Either both are interested or not. If both are, then both will show it.

[clampfan101]

Neither.
Chased = scared I’ll go too far and she’ll give up
Chaser = scared I’ll never catch up with her

[AlwaysBelieving]

Neither, I prefer pursuing. There's a subtle difference, but it's there.

[RebeccaBI2000]

I am fine with chased, but to add if that person specifically pushes too hard, it gets annoying.