Why does he never want to see me?

[Anonymous]

My boyfriend and I are high school juniors. When we first started dating, my boyfriend and I saw each other all the time. He seemed so in love with me and would go out of his way to make me feel special. However, after a few months of that, it's like he just lost interest. He barely puts in any effort, and I see him once a week at most, and for a very short amount of time. I've brought up multiple times how I feel like I never see him, but he doesn't change anything and just gets annoyed that I keep mentioning it. We barely text or call anymore, and some days go by without us saying a single word to each other. It's exhausting to feel like I'm putting in all the effort, just for him to shut me down or say that he's too tired or just doesn't feel like seeing me. He's insisted that he still loves me, but actions speak louder than words and at this point it's kind of hard to believe. How do I make things go back to normal?

[WhatTheHeckkkk]

None of us can really answer that accurately…


However, if he is not communicating or putting in effort, he has probably lost interest or he is going through something…


I don’t think it’s worth the time and (wasted) effort to continue with this relationship if he doesn’t want to reciprocate the effort and communication.

[Honesttguy]

He got bored of putting in much effort. You guys still babies when it comes to life, so good luck, take lessons from this relationship try improve for future thats all we can do.
If relationships would workout so easily we would have many happy couples out there but thats not the case. Statistics are not in favour of good happy relationships.

[Static_In_The_Attic]

Unfortunately your boyfriend has to get his shit together & when he does hopefully he wakes up & smells the coffee. On the flip side maybe you two should take a little break from your relationship & when he sees the light again maybe you two can rewrite a love story along with your futures if you give him a chance & he does the same.

[Ekiewlen]

When I was that Age I remember doing that exact thing to my first serious girlfriend. I can’t explain why. I really liked her. Looking back i now know it was a fear of intimacy. It’s a scary thing if u have some traumas to let yourself fall in love. I wouldn’t take it personally. I eventually got over it and thankfully she stuck around while I was being cold. We ended up dating almost 5 years.

[YoitsEl_Baby]

maybe try having a heart to heart with him and bring it up again but also try to understand him but if it seems like he genuinely doesn’t care anymore then it might be time to stop giving him your time and energy and let him go

[Wise4myage]

He's seeing other girls, or he has lost interests in you, so start dating other guys.

[Iron_Man]

Why don’t you sit down and have a deep conversation about it

[In_Trance]

You can't go back. You need to make a decision

[Asker]

what decision

[In_Trance]

You either put up with it or you move on

[TrillXHippy]

You’re old enough to figure it out by yourself