Men: Why do men say this about me?

[Anonymous]

Whenever im talking to a guy no matter how old theyre or race they say:

"you make me feel like a school boy again"

"you remind me of the really pretty popular girl i had a crush on in school"

"you were popular in school wasn't you"

One guy in my class just turned 18 from the US but staying the london

Was talking about HS and said "shed be like the hottest girl popular girl in my school"

Im over the age of 18 by a 4 years now but I've contstantly heard this from men. For refrence i look young for my age and im not even white im a black girl. Not that black girls can't be that but i mainly hear these phrases from men of european decent saying this to me. Could this mean i attract pedophiles? As a man whats your take...

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+1 y

What we aren't going to do is pretend there's a beauty standard. And in tv even real life the person who is european adjecent is always uplfited as popular especially in movies. In real life its 99%You can all stop pretending please.

[Anonymous]

I think you’re overthinking it to some degree, but it is a weird thing to say. I don’t know how old these guys are, I mean everyone goes to highschool, and it’s a common point of reference, especially if you’re talking to another person who only graduated a few years from high school such as yourself. It could just be that they have no idea what else to say to you and it’s just small talk. But I don’t think it means you attract pedophiles, how could you? You’re in your early 20’s.

[Asker]

Thanks for being mature and Hmm. But its an odd thing to say to someone even if its just small talk. But your right im probably over thinking

[Asker]

Yes im early 20s the men are of all ages

[Anonymous]

Majority of men never lose their virginity until their teen years are over so maybe they are trying to make up for that fantasy. They also see younger as a compliment because if they said you make them feel like an old man instead they're pretty much saying you're old or have wrinkles or something

[WhatTheHeckkkk]

Your question update… You need to grow up, seriously. You are bitter.

[Asker]

No your bitter because a woman of colour is prettier than you and is dating millionires based off looks. You could never.

[WhatTheHeckkkk]

You’re* Millionaires* Fix your spelling, sweetheart.

Oh well, thank you though. I’m glad I’d not with someone just because of my looks. Millionaires aren’t my thing either, too snobby.

[Asker]

As if youve ever been anywhere close too them hahah. Also Someone being good looking is not an attack to you lmao and i need to grow up? Sure.

[WhatTheHeckkkk]

I don’t want to be anywhere close to them, it usually results in people like you.
Yes, you need to grow up. Look at you. You are shaming other women, just because you have some fixation on race and wealth. Such superficial things. I do hope you grow up, sweetheart, you’ll live a miserable life if you keep it up.

[Asker]

Hahaha how do i have a fixtation of race? I literally mentioned age and so many other things yet you are all fixtated on race not me... I literally love all people i mentioned race because we all know what thr beauty standard is in society and i like to give details to paint better pictures. Anyways i dont sense bad vibes from u. You just seem pressed for some reason fix up its not that deep.

[WhatTheHeckkkk]

Well, you’re saying that women of color are prettier, and basically comparing them to other races and women. What kind of person who claims they love all people does that, especially to another woman? And you go ahead and bash another woman WHO IS A PERSON OF COLOR by posting it in your question update? I mean, it’s just rude, to do that. That’s why I’m “pressed.”

You can’t claim to love all people and do that

[Asker]

Mm first of all i didn't say women of colour were prettier. If i felt that i wouldn't mention race becauss it would be a standard. I said fhe poster was jealous of ME. because of being a WOC yet pretty. Even the male poster admitted he thought BW couldnt be beautiful. Where is your outrage? Yet you're here to gaslight me? hmm.

[Asker]

Also u can absolutely love all people and call them out. Non black women absoloutley hate seeing black women who dont fit into their stereotype. Not ALL but a small fraction thats life. Dont gaslight my experience.

[Asker]

You guys have nothing to say when your being praised in ghe media and put on the pedestal but as soon as its BWs time to shine its automatically

ALL WOMEN ARE BEAUTIFUL.

I really dont care because this behaviour doesn't affect me but pointing it out is not being bitter and your showing your ass when u act like it is lool.

[WhatTheHeckkkk]

“Your mad because a WOC looks better than you” Really? You just said that to me and Priya, and she was not jelaous of you in any way shape or form.

“Where’s my outrage?” Where’s the comment saying black women can’t be beautiful. I haven’t seen that anywhere, so point me to it and I will remove it for being offensive.

Gaslighting isn’t the right term, ma’am. I’m correcting you, because you’re trying to backtrack. And I am not “gaslighting” your experience or “invalidating” it lol.

You’re generalizing. And I’m not calling you bitter for calling it out. I’m calling you bitter because you just told another woman, who is a person of color, that women of color looks better than them, and then continued to talk crap, AND make a question update about her. That is bitter, immature, and rude. You have absolutely no room to invalidate her experience either. I am simply standing up for another women against YOUR hostility towards her.

I hope you at least listen to what I am saying, because I can’t explain it even further to you if you won’t listen.

[Asker]

Hahaha your so aggressive for no reason calm down.

She is jealous because i look better than her thats why she's triggered. Otherwise why else would she come in here like this.

Again your full of shit. there's a man who JUST admitted he believes black women are ugly where is your outrage for wome n support women? Your proving my point thaz this clearly isn't a generalisation because now you here how desirable a black woman is its WOMEN SUPPORT WOMEN we are ALLL beautiful.

If you believed that youd be going at it with the guy that reffered to BW as ugly and obese hahaha. Keep your fake outrage.

[WhatTheHeckkkk]

Not aggressive, hon. I’m calm.

You don’t even know what she looks like and she doesn’t even know what you look like so how could she be jealous or triggered? She asked a simple question as to what race has to do with it, and you blew it out of proportion, like you’re doing now.

Call me full of shit all you want. Lol, I didn’t see it as an original opinion, just a reply. And it is removed, are you happy now? I no longer want to support you because of how you treat other women on this site. If you can be respectful to other women, I will be respectful and support you. As of right now, that’s not happening.

Hon, it’s time you just let it go.

[Asker]

Well i know all the attractive non black women dont give a damn about this post cause they aren't here only that poster is an average/basic one thats why she's so mad.

Its my op not taking it back.

[Asker]

Again dont lie. She asked bc it triggered her i gave her an answer and she made a snarky comment acting oblivious to beauty standard. No attractive european women or other races cafe about this post but her lool go figure.

[WhatTheHeckkkk]

Honey, you need to keep her name out of your mouth. You do realize that she only responded because she saw this post and wanted to help, right? She wasn’t mad, she just asked a question and was respectful to you.

And not everyone sees your question. It pops up in the live feed and some people see it and respond, some don’t see it and don’t respond.

So… You need to mind your business and stop talking shit about other women. That is not supporting other women. You are rude.

[joeldalton]

You probably seem fun, young and kinda innocent. Take it as a compliment.

[Asker]

I like that.

[Avicenna]

Lol, no, these are idiomatic expressions that just refer to their teenage experiences as an analogy to say you’re attractive

[Asker]

Thank you for not being trigfered and responding

[Anonymous]

Pedophiles?

Really?

Thats what you think a fucking pedophile is?

Fuck off.

[Asker]

UHHH if men are attracted to high school girls then YES ITS A PEDOPHILE GET THAT HATE OUT YOUR HEART WEIRDO

[Asker]

You F off. U must be attracted to high school girls.

[Jennyxr]

18-25 year olds are still young and fresh too young for you old 30+ men we look like children compared to your old asses. Guy who are into us would go younger if they could

[Jennyxr]

Men who want us are pedophiles like you a 30+ year old has no business with us. Pervs. Thankfully we prefer men our age and are grossed out by old men. Stay away from us pedo a 22 year old is not the same as a 40 year olf i know you wish u were 22 or 18 so bad but being a pedo won't make u young

[True_Sage]

No. You're absolutely overthinking it and getting teased for that reason. Chill.

[Zolly99999]

That sounds creepy. ..😳

[Asker]

SOMEONE IS SAYING IT THANKYOUU!! what do you think they might mean

[PrettyPriya]

First, what has race to do with any of it?

[Asker]

I found it odd that theyd mention this since especially in movies or in real life the girl all the men fatasies in HS are always european adjecent. What we aren't gonna do is sit here and pretend.

[PrettyPriya]

How do you know what ALL men fantasize about? What are we pretending? Sounds like you have some growing up to do.

[PrettyPriya]

Ref update: Grow up.

[Asker]

Aww your mad.

[Asker]

Hahah omg your so pressed. there's literally a beauty standard and woc who dont fit into it are always crying.

[Asker]

Lmaoo i can't stop laughing how hypocritical you women get when your not the one everyone wants

[PrettyPriya]

I am happily engaged to a wonderful man who very much loves me. You on the other hand, seem bitter and sad. Goodbye.

[Asker]

Lmao hyporicte. U completely disregared WOC untill she's the centre of attention ghe suddenly race shouldn't matter and ALL girls matter hahaha

[Asker]

Okay. Good for you. And my boyfriend is well known and has been written about on forbes. Why would i be bitter your mad because a WOC looks better than u.

[Asker]

Im bitter yet you came in here triggered because im a WOC is getting attention its not even good attention so why are u so bitter?

[Honesttguy]

They trying to fuk u. Next question.

[Asker]

So why do they fall in love so fast? Talking about butterflies and constantly buying me everythibg i want? Hm i think they are attracted to me because i remind of HS girls and thats worrying.

[Asker]

Has me mentioning race really triggered u all this much i hope not

[Asker]

Hahaha. I knew putting my race triggered you all.

[Honesttguy]

Are u mentally behind? The way you start framing things now seems that looks is all you got.

[Asker]

Its not a bad thing i know im rare. Im a size 0 have gone viral on Instagram in my area for a bit. Always told by women and men that i have one of the best faces theyve ever seen.

[Asker]

Or one off.

[Asker]

And ifs funny because these men have never slept with me and afe okay with relationship without sex. Did i mention your brothers have been obsessed with me sincd HS. I mads non black women really bring out their racism because non black men would tell them strsight i was fhe prettiest in skl. Literally even the older studentd knew one left his blnd girlfriend for me who was also known as the hottest so yh. Im not mad at your comments. Because my experience is unheard off.

[Asker]

Sorry for the spelling im using a andriod today and i find it odd to type on this as an iphone user.

[Honesttguy]

There are 2 types of pretty girls the ones who know they good looking and thr ones who dont. The ones who know they're good looking becomes lazy in bed they just lay there like dead fish, boring. But the knows who dont know they're good looking are the best u get thr full kit.
So u now know u good looking and come here framing things as if every guy is gonna kiss your ass, let me tell u some of us guys out here dont run like puppy dogs just cus u good looking. Its okey i let those dogs chase you.

[sirwhitecloud]

Yeah, they wanna hit

[Asker]

@sirwhitecloud ofcourse all men get with women/approache women because they wanf to have sex.

But answer me now why do they stick around me even after we've never had sex?

And still buy me gifts over 1k? Even though theyve never hit.

Why do they take me on vacation with them as 2n to 3rd dates even though theyve never hit?

[Asker]

Gifts over £1k?

[sirwhitecloud]

Hard to say digitally.

[Asker]

Hm. Maybe therr are certain women who men like being around they like taking me places and habe openly said fhey love being around me.

[Honesttguy]

Here's something to think about.
Why men go and throw money into gambling?
They hope to get lucky.
So they throw money at you and hang around in hopes to get lucky.
Their mentality is just bad. They use gambling strategy in hopes to get women. What a joke.
If i was hot women i would also take that money and gifts and give them nothing.

[Asker]

@honesttguy hahah true. But i dont only fkr religious reasons.