Would you date a guy like this?

[Anonymous]

The guy seems to be extremely obsessed and preoccupied with looks, has very high dating standards and likes women that look totally different to you... (eg. He prefers very thin women, with colored hair and eyes, whereas you're the exact opposite) and constantly puts you down about your looks.
Personally I wouldn't trust a guy like this, it's a waste of time
He will probably dump you, when he find someone better

[caring__1]

What would be your reasons for wanting to date someone who isn't drawn to you? Is he chasing you to put you down, or is that a reaction to you clinging to someone who has stated he's not interested? It's not about judging his preferences. Everyone has the right to have his/her preferences. Not everyone we're drawn to will be drawn to us. You'll only be frustrated and disappointed if you persistently chase those who aren't drawn to you. Never label someone as extremely obsessed and preoccupied, just because their choice is different than you. It just comes across as sour grapes.

https://www.youtube.com/embed/teIj7fak6eU

[artstatues]

Why did you have to label OP as jealous, clingy and obsessive without knowing the exact details of her situation.
Um maybe the guy he's referring to, is bullshitting her, claims that he loves her and is attracted to her, but at the same time insults her (whenever they fight). There women out there, in abusive/toxic relationships you knew, so I don't agree with you. And yes, there are guys with this mentality, they will settle for a type, who isn't ideal for them and them dump them at first chance, whenever they find someone better

[artstatues]

*there are a women

[caring__1]

@artstatues What she wrote implies she's questioning being involved with someone who isn't drawn to her. It never makes sense to get involved with someone who isn't drawn to you. I never claimed she is clingy. I merely questioned whether that might be a factor in the mix. I also never mentioned the word jealousy, and when I mentioned obsessive, it was merely to caution about putting negative labels on others, just because they don't conform to our desires. Many questions posted here aren't presented clearly enough for people to do more than guess what they mean. We do our best at answering, but we're not mind readers. Based on what she writes, she isn't clear whether the guy is chasing her or she's chasing the guy.

[artstatues]

It's a bit confusing, but the way I understand it, she must be talking to some guy, who has asked her out and she's concerned whether it's worth pursuing a relationship with him, or she might have seen some red flags.

Otherwise why would she say

"Would you date a guy like this?", and "Personally I wouldn't trust a guy like this, it's a waste of time
He will probably dump you, when he find someone better"

[caring__1]

@artstatues That may be the case, but it is still just your assumption. If she truly cares to get accurate answers, she'll clarify her question. It still can be seen as either her being chased by someone who isn't fully into her or her chasing someone she wants to be into her.

[MCheetah]

It's irrelevant. The better you treat women, the less they respect you and see you as "easy, desperate, and clingy." The worse you treat women, the more they see you as "high value" like you're irrelevant to him. The fact you posted a question like this about him proves my point. What women are there are posting flattering questions about men who like them and treat them well on GAG? Usually, it's more like the "This guy really likes me and treats me well, but that's boring. Should I break up with him?" questions.

But yeah, if you want to get a woman, then just be exactly like this man described in the post. Women are silly like that.

[Daniela1982]

Not whether you would date someone like this, but would he date you seeing his preferences seem to be that the girl be perfect. He shows he is not perfect either if he has to put others down. I wouldn't waste my time.

[PrettyPriya]

No way. I would never date someone that puts looks first and sounds superficial.

More so, why would anyone date someone that would be sure to dump them when someone better comes around?

[Anonymous]

No. You are perfect the way you are. Girl might be better for him, but they are NOT better than you. I think he needs to mature more before he starts dating anyone.

[Dchrls78104]

"When you love someone, you just don't treat them bad."--Donell Jones. And no one wants to leave the job he enjoys.

[notwoke]

"He prefers very thin women" - said every man who can actually get one