I don't know why this always happens for me?

[henryallen]

All the girls I have a crush or likes either puts me in bro zone or friend zone... they never like me as i like them.. if I'm super clear with my intentions they just ignore me like I'm nothing... guys who are worse in character, and guys who are u attractive , and even guys who cheat on other women are liked by other girls but not me..
Why? What am I doing wrong?

[Anonymous]

When I was younger I didn't do the friendzone with guys in either direction, if they didn't want to go out with me, then I was like "nice knowing you, bye" and if I didn't want to go out with them I just said "nice to knowing you, bye". I explained to the gentleman that "I'm looking for a boyfriend, not another friend, a friend is not what I need." It sounds harsh but it helped me avoid a lot of confusion and perhaps it helped them avoid confusion too. So tell this girl or girls that it's been nice knowing them but you are looking for something serious and you don't need any more friends and then let them walk away if friendship was all they wanted from you. The second part of that strategy is make sure your making your interest in a relationship known don't just say "hey I'd like to hang out with you and get to know you better" say more something like "hey would you like to go on a date with me", and then on date one say something like "hey I'd like to do this again and see where this goes" if the whole "I see you as a friend" convo starts make it clear that a friend is not what you are looking for. Good luck!

[HighlyVolatile]

Maybe have more fun and be more playful from the beginning. Usually, if you want a friendship to turn into a romance, I think it helps to start off being flirty and establish a mutual attraction and some chemistry that way.

It's not so much like transforming a friendship into a romance. It's more like transforming something already flirty where the girl is playing back at you into a romance.

That's what I did with my wife. She was a close friend for a year before we started dating but we were flirty. It was when we danced and she kissed me (just a flirty peck on my lips while smiling and laughing) when I asked her out. Yet we were flirty that way and always very playful with each other almost from the start.

[HighlyVolatile]

One of the things that men of questionable conscience towards women could do is flirt and play and have fun with girls. I was the same which is probably a big part of why I could get dates. The only difference was that I had the conscience and the long-term goal of finding a lifelong partner.

But I see a lot of good guys with the same intentions as me and a huge difference is that many are so serious and might bore or scare away girls with such seriousness. I think it helps a lot if, initially, you're down to just have fun and good times with girls even if you're looking for a lifelong partner. Fall in love with the girl over the process of dating when the attraction and affection is clearly mutual if you're going to fall in love with her at all, don't do it before, and focus on fun and good times before.

[Jamie05rhs]

Shit. You're probably right.

[jshm2]

What you're doing wrong is not playing the game right.

Look at it like this: You sneak into Tesla HQ and tell Elon Musk you could do his job, and he can just take your word on it. Do you really think he's going to take you seriously, if even let you finish at all?

You start at the bottom level and work your way up. Now this doesn't mean you start with the ugliest bitches or the dateless wonders. But you work on your charm and dating EQ by not trying to score the top poon right off the bat.

[bamesjond0069]

Just be very forward and aggressive. If they deny you dont be their friend. Move on. Im quite attractive to women and a big part of my success is numbers game. Talk to 100 women 200, 300... 5 is not sufficient even if you're the hottest man on earth. But ofc guys irl tell me i have it easy and stuff but i really dont. I hit on tons of girls, i use apps, i go on as many dates as i can, many dont work out... then after all the effort i fucked 2 girls that week and dudes be like i have it easy since im hot. Uhhh yeah thats all it is smh. Granted it makes thing easier but there is effort. This is how it works for men.

[whitewolf]

There is not much to go on in your post but one idea is maybe it is the way you act around them. If you only act like a friend they will think you aren't interested in more and quickly eliminate you as a possible romantic partner.

[indigomarine91]

Women don't want someone who comes off as easy to get with. Women are in competition with other women and want a guy that other women want/have so they can figure out what's so great about him. Hit the gym, women will want you when you have your life together.

[Bluemax]

Rejection is the norm. Perhaps you aren't approaching enough?

[noohair]

I don't know what the culture in India is. But I have learned that if you don't consider yourself high value, women won't either.

[scott04sa22]

They won’t stay with them very long because all my old crushes are now divorced

[This_Is_My_Opinion8]

You are young. Don't worry your chance will come.

[scott04sa22]

I’m 36 and still single

[Anonymous]

You are being to nice.
Girls want assholes.

[Subarugirl]

Just like boys want assholes, women want real men…

[Opinion Owner]

@Subarugirl women only want “real men” after they have burned through all the assholes they can find before 30 and decide to want “real men” when it’s time to settle.

[Subarugirl]

As if boys don’t do the same thing…

[Opinion Owner]

@Subarugirl Guys generally have to work at getting female attention and during their youth are lucky if they even get an opportunity to be with a girl or two. Women generally pick and choose who and when.

Men only gain their sexual power after 30 when women are “settling down” and “looking for a real man” because after 30 the guys who were overlooked by women in their youth spent their time getting their lives in order and are now the ones who are financially stable, have a career, etc.
The douchebags they females chased when younger are mostly losers with substance issues and zero going for them.

[Subarugirl]

So are you complaining one for being over looked in your youth or that you can’t find a woman who wants you now?

[Opinion Owner]

@Subarugirl Neither. (your attempt at a shaming tactic is noted)

Dude asked a question about girls overlooking him and I told him why it happens. End of statement.

[scott04sa22]

Women also don’t like heavyset guys either unless he has lots of money like Elon musk 🙄