That's understandable, however a first thing you should avoid falling into, is refraining from falling into the attitude of "it's women's fault", or you won't get anything, because this approach is repulsive, for this reason: you don't offer anything on the table, but only expect to have the "debt" refilled by women who actually don't even know you and are not responsible for the rest of their gender. It's really repulsive to have the feeling to owe something to a random guy, and so are the perceived expectations, for the same reasons: if you give too much, or invest too much, and they're not responding with the same, then you're showing what are your expectations and how much they "owe" to you. And they will escape. So never overdo, never overgive, don't appear desperate and cluelessly offering your money, time and attention, when it's not reciprocated readily.
A lot of guys manage to have relationships, even being not really attractive physically, while others who are good looking keep failing. Why? Because they emit some bad vibes through their behaviours. This thing of women liking bad guys is not because they're bad, but because they're not "granted" to them, and prove to be well off alone, without them, and so they look like being more valuable, with much more to offer, quite "independent". While being granted to them, saying sorry for random things, asking consent for things that generally don't really require it, apologizing for taking their time (oh my god), giving them the literal option to not reply to x y z, etc. Anything that puts you in a secondary role and granted to them, is potentially a turn off. Nobody wants to start anything with someone who indirectly shows to need more than what he can offer (and actually it's valid also for men, about women who behave like that).
It sounds like a paradox but the more you don't care about women, the more they will flock to you. Of course you've to put some effort as well but what I'm talking about is implying, through your behaviours, that you're all put together and have your successful life, with your talents, your interests, pursuing the goals you have, etc, without the need of a woman to proceed. If you focus more on succeeding in all the other aspects of your life, and start seeing women as possibly not "enough" for your lifestyle, that will make them try to prove you they are, and get more possibly attracted.
It's hard if you are insecure, because it's like if I told you "stop being insecure", but I think if you start "pretending" you aren't, it can start a process of actually healing because you'd get external feedbacks that support that image.
Of course these are generic advices, we don't know the details of what is wrong during your texting and wrong moves you did...
Most men try first to build their self worth on the foundation of their sexual prowess with women. And most men fail entirely. All of the reasons you are attracted to women need disregarded, not because you need to stop wanting those things but because you need to consider what it is like to not want those things - because women don't. They want something else, but don't know how to define it. Stability is perhaps the best anyone has guessed. Someone who has learned to do their part in civilization and has thus also figured out how to get civilization to provide them with more security than they could ever manage on their own.
This is sort of common sense, really, but it is also not the dazzling lifestyle of a rock star or whatever. Celebrity status does tend to attract women but it's usually the sort of women who would be whorish with anyone, celebrity or not, are drawn to the celebrity status and are the ones invited to stick around (all men love whores, that's why they remain so popular after 10k years of civilization - some men don't like the disillusionment of whores paying attention to other men, though) thus accumulating.
In so many words, my suggestion is to find a way to build confidence in something else. Something useful. Women tend to be more attracted to that than they've ever been to a profile picture.
Try not to talk to women at all for a while. That way, you don't have to be insecure around them, but you don't also have to lie or be fake to them, either. Being real and true to yourself and letting go of society's BS standards of what you're "supposed" to be, is the easiest way to stop being insecure (not to say, it always succeeds).
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Because the man doesn't like confidence. Just because someone treats you a certain way all your life doesn't mean every other individual will. You have to be confident in who you are to keep going forward and not let small things bring you down I'll make you insecure of others and yourself or abilities
Woman’s response: it’s all your fault and women are totally fine acting the way they are.
Reality: There will be a lot of lonely people if we don’t fix gender relations asap. Deep issues exist that result in women getting ran through by the top men and most men getting nothing but scraps. Long term relationship success? Rare. Women’s standards are ridiculous in all the wrong areas. Low moral standards but high standards for looks
We all have been hurt. We have all been there. You just have to figure out a way to get past it.
I say you have to find a way to take the pressure off. Try just focusing on asking out a bunch of different women and having fun.
Well, maybe its time to accept reality. Not everyone can be confident. What is the second best thing you can enjoy that's not girls.
If you were Chad, you would have lots of confidence because you can go out most any night of the week and have many options. However, you are Billy and every girl you want is chasing after hot Chad.
By going to therapy and changing how you think of yourself
Just be who you are, and if people dont accept you, they are not worth it.
By not getting self value from others
This is a good question to ask a therapist.
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