Is it over, struggling to know how to feel after shitty second date?

[Anonymous]

So recently I went on a second date with a guy I really like (we met on bumble), however I kind of blew it. I was in my head the entire time due to some unforeseen family drama that happened like an hour prior to the date. I was super awkward and zoned out and almost standoffish and felt like an absolute piece of shit the entire time. As our date ended, he called me out on the fact that I was acting so off. I tried my best to explain the situation to him but he just seemed really upset at me, which I completely understand. I sent him a text after I got home apologizing for being such a shitty date, and his response to me was “I’m not ghosting you by any means, I just need some time to think.” I told him that was fine but we haven't spoken since, that was like 3 days ago now. I just wonder, is it over? Like, is there any hope for me getting a do over of that date or should I just be preparing for it to be over?

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FOR CONTEXT: Our first date could not have gone more perfectly. I just fucked this one up and I'm nervous.

[Anonymous]

Just distract yourself in the meantime, he'll be in touch. I wasn't there for the date obviously, but this seems like an over reaction a bit? Unless you did a poor job of the explanation? lol But maybe he feels you should have told him that from the beginning? But it's 50/50. Even if he decides he doesn't want to date anymore, I'm sure he'll show you the respect to tell you. In the meantime try not to let your mind run away with you. And, don't beat yourself up too much either. Life happens and this sounds completely understandable to be distracted. Unless you really treated him like shit? lol

[Opinion Owner]

But thinking about it more... it's been 3 days and I'm not sure what he'd really have to think about? I guess he's just confused because of how different the 2 dates were? But he should have an idea if he wants to see you again or not (?)

[Opinion Owner]

Women certainly don't take long to decide LOL

[Twalli]

I would prepare for it to be over. He doesn't know you. The first impression was really bad. Honestly it would have been a lot better if you cancelled due to said family drama and then maybe rescheduled. Unless you repeatedly cancel dates and such with that person, they probably will understand if you have to cancel.

[Sketti2021]

If he's upset even after you explained, he's not the one

[boobliker]

you should not have gone on the date but told him why he now thinks you are in that place we all get but some can't get out of...

[Guy13]

No worries then…1st one went good.

[Guy13]

He knows you already. He had high expectations on 2nd date. You graciously explained…. If you KNOW he was still immaturely pissed of after a provided awareness THEN you need to reconsider. If he had no heart for your circumstances THEN that’s likely Something that will never change. Tip of Iceberg…