How do I stop being boring?

[MilaRay]

This guy invited me to a few things and I was busy. I work a lot and most of my time goes to working and then I pay my bills which leaves me broke and needing to work some more. If I didn’t have so many responsibilities I would be loving my best life. But I don’t think there is any excuse to be boring. Finally we tried to arrange to do something and he said he didn’t want to come up with a date idea because “You don’t like to do anything.”

What I don’t want to do is respond defensively because I see how he came to that conclusion. But I do like to do things. If I had the kind of money he has I would be living it up too. But I dont. The thing I like about talking to him is he is a bit older and has more experience so he tells me how to do the things I don’t know how to do. And one thing I have been falling into the trap of doing is being in a routine. Unlike me, he has done something new every day. One day he is at a barbeque, the next day it’s a car show, next day he is on a trip, he is shopping, he is at a show, out with friends, etc. He’s right. I am boring. But I don’t want to be boring. I’m just stuck

[TheSpaceGnome]

"I would be loving my best life."
What exactly is your best life?

"You don’t like to do anything.”
What do actually you like doing?

If he's wrong, you can answer those questions, and honestly it's the same question just phrased differently.

You don't need to be defensive, you can just say what you like doing, even if you can't currently afford to do any of it.

And honestly you have to tell him all of that, because you have to share hobbies to get along well enough to stay together.

[LazerBean]

He sounds very passive aggressive. I wouldn't bother with him.

[Adogdog]

I know how you feel. I am in the same situation.

[In_Trance]

Start learning new things

[Anonymous]

Find a hobby, join a club, or do volunteer work.