Hypothetically, if you were to become a single parent, would you give dating a go again in the future?

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Okay so if i decide to go through with invitro, I understand that I’ll be less wanted because I’ll be a single parent. I slick don’t really care because my kid would be my dang near everything. But after about 2-3 years, if the opportunity rolled around with a guy I found attractive, and he was genuinely interested in a serious relationship that would eventually lead to marriage, I’d be down to give it a shot. But i will not be “hooking up” just because thats what most deem is all a single parent is good enough for. I’ve never been big on hookup culture and well, my standards will remain the same before and after I’m a parent. Plus, I want to remain a good influence for my future children because they shouldn't have to see a bunch of “dates” running in and out of mommy’s life.
So What about you? If you are or were a single parent (just hypothetically speaking since i know many are so against the idea), would you still take a chance on being in a relationship in the future?
I already know I want kids sooner than later. Thats been a thing forever. Bt i also know that I’ve always wanted to give birth to any and all of my future children before i turn 30. Anything after 30 would preferably be adoption. Ideally, I’d date a person for 2 years, get engaged for 6 months to a year and then marry. But thats unlikely if i still want a kid before 30. Its just not enough time. I hate my past relationships weren’t with the right people and that time was wasted, but Im also not going to settle with some guy just for the possibility of starting a family.
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HighValue · Accepted Answer

Your best bet would be to date another single parent at that point that didn't want more kids.
If you did that though, you should mention to them up front that it was insemination and there wouldn't be any drama from any ex, because that is one of the reasons men avoid single mothers. So you would have one less hurdle.

For me it would depend. If I was in a relationship with someone for 10 years or more and had kids with her, I don't think I would pursue any relationships after that point if something happened and I became single again.

DarkWinterNights · Accepted Answer

Nah. Raising my child would become my sole focus in life. And while two parents is important, the reality is dating would be a distraction. I might reconsider when they got older.

jennifer_bloom · Answer

I would wait until the children are at least 6 if they are boys and at least 12 if they are girls cause then there is a lower chance of them abusing my children and me never finding out about it.

Wsx2wsx2ws · Answer

First off Life happens.
“the best laid plans of mice and men often go awry”

Single mothers are NOT less attractive. It just snaps the foolish to the reality that you need a responsible, capable man and they are sorely lacking. So they will probe to see how foolish you might be but thats about it, if you ain't. Because they know they aren't staying and you won't keep them once you find out their true nature.

The realization that the child/ren are the center of a parents universe is a high quality mark for you.
That also means you would vet any man that comes your way. And I dare say make it know. You are a she wolf protecting her cubs and you will see before hand what kind of man he is.
There you have 2 very effective ways to diminish the crowd of fools. Now what remains you will have little trouble with.

Personally I have been attracted to mothers. They are a beautiful breed, an enchanted being.
I laugh when I write this because of all the accusations and police calls against me to do their damnedest to destroy my character, I have had many background checks for serious jobs and always comes back perfectly clean.
So maybe word of mouth can help. but lets do a background check too, why not?

Loveisgirthy · Answer

Yeah the look of single mothers seems to fall into the milf category. I remember chances I had talking with several single mothers from my same highschool. I'd talk with them at the register at Walmart of dollar tree stores, where they worked small town, I had little moments with each of them like I sang for one because a friend made me n stuff like that from the past. I was purposely trying to discourage any idea of attraction even though yeah they fine. It seemed to be a pattern that the pretty damn sexy ones always got janked and knocked up. But it was attractive that they were mothering as well, also obviously had matured by then and it was the first time I'd considered ever dating a "milf" sort. And more recently I bumped, like literally bumped into a single mother with her friends at a Kareoke bar and it almost ended up going somewhere but my friends were fairly annoying and I think it was why they left, I didn't tell them that. But one showed us her boobas so that's all fine. DILFs are hot right now though, if I were a single parent I'd imagine it wouldn't be too hard to find an other. Many more attractive mothers looking for serious relationships by my radar. And yeh age-wise I don't know ideally I'd wait for 6 or 7 before I'd date again. And I mean realistically probably end up with at least one hook up, but I'd try not to.

Anonymous · Answer

I would probably not consider it at all the first couple of years, especially with very small children. But life is hopefully long enough to have more than one serious relationship :D. Though, I'd take it slow and he should have spend a lot of time with my kids before talking about moving together, and if my kids would not be comfortable with him, then we would not live together.

My mother had a boyfriend.. I feel it was pretty obvious he did not get along with me and my sister (my brother was ok, they connected more around his interests), but my mother ignored that. He was not in general abusive, except for one episode where he threw an object very close to me, but it was often uncomfortable and I did not feel truly at home. I honestly don't remember how I dealt with it, I did, but today I really wish I did not have to live with such a man, and I blame my mother for choosing to have him live with us for +5 years.

LovingLoverReturned · Answer

There are advantages of the person bonding if the baby is young... but also advantages if not
A disadvantage would be the honeymoon period is interrupted unnaturally...

Yes I would date but very carefully... I've heard horror stories with step parents...

Then would you be willing to date a guy who has a kid?

Guy13 · Answer

Tell you a “seen it live” secret…In today’s world, any dude who would date you with a 2-11 year old girl has another Agenda is all I’m going to say. Mark of 15 years…
—I’ve seen that happen to a close friend…Husband and not their Dad with the youngest daughter underwear found in his pants after 6 years of marriage. Talk about living with the Devil.

Ευδεμονια · Answer

I sincerely think I wouldn’t try dating after the experience of becoming dad. Growing up a child is a second work and I wouldn’t have enough time for all, I’m short on time now that I don’t have kids so I won’t imagine a future when I’m a single dad and I have to date someone, also with the risk to remain alone again.

Avicenna · Answer

I have four kids with two women, so me being a single parent could mean having one, three or four kids. I doubt I'd try to date even with one, and definitely not with three or four because only a woman with kids of her own would be willing to get involved with such a circus, and that's not something I'd want.

Mark987 · Answer

in my opinion.. you should definitely not stop dating. I dated a woman.. who had two kids, and even though it didn't work out I don't regret it. Those kids were amazing and so much fun. Made me feel young again. Going to the zoo, amusement park, picnics.. kids are a blessing... because they are so innocent... and don't have a care in the world.

Subarugirl · Answer

ehh maybe... most guys out there calling themselves men these days aren't worth dating. A lot of them think the only thing that they need to contribute to a relationship is money or mediocre sex.. both of which I am capable of obtaining with out a some guy. So unless he is adding value to my life physically or emotionally not thanks...

NZGirl07 · Answer

I've seen quite a few happy stories of single parents finding a new loving partner and creating a blended family. I'd like for that to happen, but also nowadays there are so many predators I'd be wary of letting them near my kids for a long while.

Emiliamazing · Answer

If something ever happened to my husband, and I lost him, I would absolutely date again if I found someone I was comfortable with and that my children loved.

Slartybartfast · Answer

MOST of my friends are single dad's. I'd love to be a single dad, but I'll never date again that's for sure. To risky, to expensive, no fun for me at all.

worldscolide · Answer

I don't know. It would be hard to trust someone else with my kid. Cause if I were to become a single parent, I would be dating with the intent to marry. Which means I would have to consider the impact on my kid.

Apple1996 · Answer

No if I became single I wouldn't date until my kids were all over 18. I'd rather spend those precious years with them instead of trying to date.

NathanDavis · Answer

I don't think I would be dating... I am not a serial dater, but I would very probably end up in a serious relationship eventually, just like I always have

TheSpaceGnome · Answer

Impossible, my type of wife would just have an abortion if her tubal-ligation/my vasectomy failed somehow (unsure atm which is going to happen). Children just aren't in my future, no matter what happens.

sheikalana · Answer

Absolutely but I would be even more selective about the person I'm choosing to date. I don't want to have an asshole around my child.

melanieeeB · Answer

I definitely would, I already press my mom to go out and dating but this biit. says she is too old

RobT312 · Answer

Yeah I’d prob give it a go. The kids would be great but I’d still want a partner in crime

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