Should I text a shy guy who liked me at uni?

Question

It was really apparent that he liked me back then lol. But he liked something I posted recently and I’m wondering if I should just text him in a friendly way and ask how he’s doing/how his career is going etc?

I am interested but I also never make the first move! From what I remember, he was painfully shy at university.

Should I just do it and text him? I’m scared of rejection also.

TheSpaceGnome · Accepted Answer

If you like him, yes, you should.

You said he's shy, so if you don't do it, he's not gonna either.

Being scared of rejection is silly. Men don't act like victims of harrassment when they aren't interested in a person who is harmlessly flirting with them, they just say not interested, and thats that. So all you have to worry about is actual rejection, not legal consequences from slander, and regular old rejection just isn't scary at all.

He has a valid reason to fear rejection, but you don't, not in today's society anyway.

ZackBan · Accepted Answer

It's important to know that people grow and change after uni.
I know I did, my work forced me out of my shell and while I was once shy I can now very naturally express myself to anyone and everyone.

You lose nothing texting, it's not like you're sending nudes, just say hey how are you it's been a while.
Guys don't get that kind of text out of the blue and chances are if he's single he'll be intersted in seeing where it can go.

Either way you lose absolutely nothing

bubblegunnn · Accepted Answer

Its up to u but same like i also never make a first move..
U can try this trick to see he's into u or na..
U tried to talk w him at uni like maybe accidentally meet then u said oh hi whatsup.. then u guys chit chat abit and then at the end when u guys arw about to separate, u said text me okay.. it prolly works

Graci_e · Accepted Answer

Sure!

The way I see it, you have nothing to lose. You text him and he’s interested? Great. But if you text him if he’s not? That’s okay too, it doesn’t change how anything was before.

So you can either text him and find out, or keep wondering ‘what if’.

Go ahead and do it.

Pinay_ako · Answer

Go ahead and text him! Make the first move! You never know till you try

jonathan1182 · Answer

I used to be shy in my university days, I was in love with someone. Was very shy of approaching her. Unfortunately couldn't get any chance as she was already engaged. Unlike some people's dumb opinions, shy guys are very loyal (most of them as anyone can cheat). Talk to him, if he is quick to respond to your messages then he is still definitely interested into you. If you make him feel comfortable, his shyness will go away as well. Don't lose this guy if you think he is also nice and decent. Hope it works out for you 🙂

ohshee · Answer

Yes you should text him anytime you like the guy you should text him otherwise nobody will ever know it rejection is all right don't worry about that we have all been rejected we all feel embarrassed about it but it humbles you and makes you think a little bit different and it's okay don't be embarrassed about it it's part of life and it will make you rub leave me I don't think he's going to reject you I think he's truly going to fall in love with you

Avcfhcic · Answer

Well look at it this way, you're single right now and by the sounds that isn't gonna change by him asking you, so what is the downside?
You're currently single, you ask him with a 50:50 chance and you could either not change at all or find yourself going on a date. Only you will know if he rejects you and it happens.
Based off of your profile photo, you're a good looking girl with a great body, I'm sure his attraction is still there.
I still am attracted to a girl 12 years later

Turtlewax1994 · Answer

If you say he’s painfully shy you unfortunately have to mark the first move. Do it, I’m sure you won’t regret it :) Mine please?

slatyb · Answer

Rejection? So what? You aren't dating him now. If he declines, you'll be in the exact same position, except you will at least know. You said "he was painfully shy". He may believe that you are out of his league. I felt that way at about his age. Text him and invite him to coffee or lunch or dinner. If you have spoken before, then dinner would be appropriate.

TheMajesticKing777 · Answer

Through text I'd say would be the easiest way and I think you should give it a shot, getting rejected by a shy dude must be better than getting rejected by some double

Aakash_Hangargi · Answer

Text him chat with him exchange numbers meet gradually ask him for a date.

It's ok to get rejected men have been getting that since dawn of the time lol make your move there is a begining for everything you know.

If he still doesn't understand tell him to dumbasss would you like to date or shall I take my buisness somewhere else 😆

kinggeorge007 · Answer

Text him and see where it goes. Life is short and chances won't stay forever. Shy guys end up with a successful life and high standards in terms of dating later in their lives as they get rejected and have more life experiences. After that, you won't even be able to think of reaching them.

MLBHct1P · Answer

What’s the downside? He rejects you in dms, nothing changes, and you continue your lives like nothing happened if you’re interested in him give it a shot, it’s better to know it wouldn’t work out then to regret not finding out

TheBootyChest · Answer

Yes you should. Especially if he is really shy. He is probably so nervous about asking you out. Thinking that you will reject him and that he ruined everything cause you won't want to speak to him again.

more_than_a_guy · Answer

Now you know how guys feel when they need to approach a girl😉
Jokes aside, you should text him casually a comment or ask for opinion on something or a small compliment like: "I liked the speech you gave".
When you like someone, initiate! I regret so many opportunities I didn't take.

Lionman95 · Answer

Yes you could give it a try, getting contact with him doesn´t need to be you making the first move. It could also mean that you show that the interest is mutual. That could help him to open up.

SassyAussieAddy · Answer

Someone has to make the move obviously. Nothing wrong with texting casually to see if he wants to talk. Don't have to leap into dating territory immediately.

LaFemmeFatale_1 · Answer

Text him, life’s too short to skip doing something you really want to do!  At least, you’ll be satisfied you did what you wanted to do and you’ll have no regrets. 😇

becee23love · Answer

Go for it girl you never know. I think thats a good start off text also lol don't hesitate make your shot😊

LilyoftheLake · Answer

I'm sure he's more scared of you than you are of him. Message him! I've never met a man who was unappreciative, even when they turned me down.

20yearsolder · Answer

Yes you should, obviously you're interested in him as well. You already know he's shy so he may not take the initiative at all because of his shyness

Chr1st0ph3rG901 · Answer

Hell yes. Being a shy guy myself, there's a million times I wish a girl that I liked would've messaged or called me first. I missed a lot of opportunities and I regret it.

ImJustSomeGuyLol · Answer

Just text him, the worst he'll say is he's taken. If he's not, I'm sure he'd go on a date with you, unless he fumbles it. Truth is, women have a much higher success rate when shooting their shot 😂

dynamicyandere · Answer

Checking in on him and starting a convo with him would be super safe. I’d say go for it. It’s definitely a start.

Blackcosmo · Answer

Yes you should! He's shy so he wants YOU to initiate it and the chance of rejection is pretty low. Give it a go.

Anonymous · Answer

Just message him, if he is a shy guy and he rejects you, then he’ll feel really bad about it too. He probably would be more embarrassed to reject you than you being rejected

And maybe he’s just so hoping you’ll contact him

DarkWinterNights · Answer

You can try. He may have moved on… but you’ll never know if you don’t try. It’s also Little risk, big reward.

Massageman · Answer

Sure - go for it, Alyssa.  You miss 100% of the opportunities you never take! Just be "almost" as shy as he is: you do not want to scare him off.

MysticDevice · Answer

Yes! Do it. Shy guys love it when you make the first move. You don't have to ask him out right away, just say hi and start talking and see what happens.

lightbulb27 · Answer

yes, but if it's a shy guy, plan on rejection and confusion.

Whatever2929292 · Answer

I think that if you fee like texting him that you should

RealMarek · Answer

Sure, go ahead and text him. See how the interaction goes before worrying about whether there is any potential relationship with him.

AssholeNumberOne · Answer

Ah, fuck it. Just make the first move, unless you want to regret it for the rest of your life. That regret is worse than any rejection.

Texasgal95 · Answer

If you have feelings for him and you have his number might as well try and see what happens

serious · Answer

If he is genuinely shy then he will make a move. You need to do it.

one1wild00 · Answer

Go ahead and text him, what's the worst that could happen? him saying buzz off? But I'm pretty sure if he is shy that won't be the case.

baserunner611 · Answer

Yes, go for let get some coffee talk about the--------

PatriceONeal · Answer

He's too good for you. You should date within your range. If he wasn't too good for you. You wouldn't ask this question.

bi-standard · Answer

if you dont do it then you will be like me in the future asking yourself what if.. so do it

Icemanoj · Answer

Don't worry. Go ahead and talk to him. Be friendly. Over time his shyness will vanish.

Curiouslad123 · Answer

Text him I’m a shy guy it’s such a help when the woman makes the first move

zagor · Answer

Sure. You can always fall back on "just wondering what you were up to".

altdbob · Answer

Send him a sexy picture (NOT NUDE) and ask him if he is interested in meeting up for (insert what you want here).

ElvenMr · Answer

Yes, text him, anything! There is a good chance he still likes you, because he liked your post.

fred_durst · Answer

if you are okay with the fact that it is you who will have to make more efforts , sure

TallnBig · Answer

Of course you should Make his day and who knows maybe yours too

noohair · Answer

You will regret the things like this that you do not do, more than the things that you do, do.

Waldoe · Answer

Yes, absolutely... he might be married with 2 kids, and you can be the "aunt" to his kids

Smartman5 · Answer

I don't think he will reject you. If you really like his, you should text his.

NGANTOSLOULEMAKDENI · Answer

Try it, there's not thing rarer than an cute girl texting a guy. If you wait for him to go ahead he may never do it because he's shy

DevinAM · Answer

If you like him & you think he likes you go for it, it's unlikely that he'll make the first move if he's that shy.

Bklynbadboy12 · Answer

Text him as a friend and just see how you vibe with him then go from there

Man-O-Metal · Answer

Go for it! Shoot your shot 👍🏻

Guy__ · Answer

No, dont reject yourself. Text him.

EarthRealm · Answer

Your scared of Rejection because you believed You will be Rejected.  Actually what’s funny about the Bible is That Being Naked wasn’t a sin Until they Realized they were naked.

RavVid · Answer

Do it. A text is much of a commitment

dhadhabhay · Answer

Always text the shy guys. They won't cheat on you

DJB72 · Answer

Why not? Nothing ventured, nothing gained

RafaRodri · Answer

Grow up how can you fear rejection

Texaskid1 · Answer

Under no circumstances.

Panzer21 · Answer

Go for it. Im sure he's happy to hear from you.

Luopio27 · Answer

Oh hell yeah you should make the first move.

Juxtapose · Answer

Go for it, you have nothing to lose.

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