Should I text a shy guy who liked me at uni?

[Anonymous]

It was really apparent that he liked me back then lol. But he liked something I posted recently and I’m wondering if I should just text him in a friendly way and ask how he’s doing/how his career is going etc?

I am interested but I also never make the first move! From what I remember, he was painfully shy at university.

Should I just do it and text him? I’m scared of rejection also.

[bubblegunnn]

Its up to u but same like i also never make a first move..
U can try this trick to see he's into u or na..
U tried to talk w him at uni like maybe accidentally meet then u said oh hi whatsup.. then u guys chit chat abit and then at the end when u guys arw about to separate, u said text me okay.. it prolly works

[Asker]

I graduated a few years ago lol.

[bubblegunnn]

Lol sorry then i didn't know this case

[Asker]

It’s okay lol

[TheSpaceGnome]

If you like him, yes, you should.

You said he's shy, so if you don't do it, he's not gonna either.

Being scared of rejection is silly. Men don't act like victims of harrassment when they aren't interested in a person who is harmlessly flirting with them, they just say not interested, and thats that. So all you have to worry about is actual rejection, not legal consequences from slander, and regular old rejection just isn't scary at all.

He has a valid reason to fear rejection, but you don't, not in today's society anyway.

[ZackBan]

It's important to know that people grow and change after uni.
I know I did, my work forced me out of my shell and while I was once shy I can now very naturally express myself to anyone and everyone.

You lose nothing texting, it's not like you're sending nudes, just say hey how are you it's been a while.
Guys don't get that kind of text out of the blue and chances are if he's single he'll be intersted in seeing where it can go.

Either way you lose absolutely nothing

[Asker]

Definitely. I’ve also changed a lot since uni. If I was half as brave as I am now my experience would’ve been so much better.

[ZackBan]

I know the feeling trust me.

[Graci_e]

Sure!

The way I see it, you have nothing to lose. You text him and he’s interested? Great. But if you text him if he’s not? That’s okay too, it doesn’t change how anything was before.

So you can either text him and find out, or keep wondering ‘what if’.

Go ahead and do it.

[Pinay_ako]

Go ahead and text him! Make the first move! You never know till you try

[jonathan1182]

I used to be shy in my university days, I was in love with someone. Was very shy of approaching her. Unfortunately couldn't get any chance as she was already engaged. Unlike some people's dumb opinions, shy guys are very loyal (most of them as anyone can cheat). Talk to him, if he is quick to respond to your messages then he is still definitely interested into you. If you make him feel comfortable, his shyness will go away as well. Don't lose this guy if you think he is also nice and decent. Hope it works out for you 🙂

[slatyb]

Rejection? So what? You aren't dating him now. If he declines, you'll be in the exact same position, except you will at least know. You said "he was painfully shy". He may believe that you are out of his league. I felt that way at about his age. Text him and invite him to coffee or lunch or dinner. If you have spoken before, then dinner would be appropriate.

[ohshee]

Yes you should text him anytime you like the guy you should text him otherwise nobody will ever know it rejection is all right don't worry about that we have all been rejected we all feel embarrassed about it but it humbles you and makes you think a little bit different and it's okay don't be embarrassed about it it's part of life and it will make you rub leave me I don't think he's going to reject you I think he's truly going to fall in love with you

[Avcfhcic]

Well look at it this way, you're single right now and by the sounds that isn't gonna change by him asking you, so what is the downside?
You're currently single, you ask him with a 50:50 chance and you could either not change at all or find yourself going on a date. Only you will know if he rejects you and it happens.
Based off of your profile photo, you're a good looking girl with a great body, I'm sure his attraction is still there.
I still am attracted to a girl 12 years later

[Turtlewax1994]

If you say he’s painfully shy you unfortunately have to mark the first move. Do it, I’m sure you won’t regret it :)

Mine please?
Doesn’t seem to be as interested as I thought? ↗

[TheMajesticKing777]

Through text I'd say would be the easiest way and I think you should give it a shot, getting rejected by a shy dude must be better than getting rejected by some double

[TheMajesticKing777]

Douche*

[Asker]

Yeah lol

[Aakash_Hangargi]

Text him chat with him exchange numbers meet gradually ask him for a date.

It's ok to get rejected men have been getting that since dawn of the time lol make your move there is a begining for everything you know.

If he still doesn't understand tell him to dumbasss would you like to date or shall I take my buisness somewhere else 😆

[kinggeorge007]

Text him and see where it goes. Life is short and chances won't stay forever. Shy guys end up with a successful life and high standards in terms of dating later in their lives as they get rejected and have more life experiences. After that, you won't even be able to think of reaching them.

[MLBHct1P]

What’s the downside? He rejects you in dms, nothing changes, and you continue your lives like nothing happened if you’re interested in him give it a shot, it’s better to know it wouldn’t work out then to regret not finding out

[TheBootyChest]

Yes you should. Especially if he is really shy. He is probably so nervous about asking you out. Thinking that you will reject him and that he ruined everything cause you won't want to speak to him again.

[more_than_a_guy]

Now you know how guys feel when they need to approach a girl😉
Jokes aside, you should text him casually a comment or ask for opinion on something or a small compliment like: "I liked the speech you gave".
When you like someone, initiate! I regret so many opportunities I didn't take.

[Lionman95]

Yes you could give it a try, getting contact with him doesn´t need to be you making the first move. It could also mean that you show that the interest is mutual. That could help him to open up.

[SassyAussieAddy]

Someone has to make the move obviously. Nothing wrong with texting casually to see if he wants to talk. Don't have to leap into dating territory immediately.

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

Text him, life’s too short to skip doing something you really want to do!

At least, you’ll be satisfied you did what you wanted to do and you’ll have no regrets. 😇

[becee23love]

Go for it girl you never know. I think thats a good start off text also lol don't hesitate make your shot😊

[Jamie05rhs]

I agree. Make your shot. If he seems dense and doesn't know what you're talking about, spell it out for him plainly that you're interested in him.

[LilyoftheLake]

I'm sure he's more scared of you than you are of him. Message him! I've never met a man who was unappreciative, even when they turned me down.

[20yearsolder]

Yes you should, obviously you're interested in him as well. You already know he's shy so he may not take the initiative at all because of his shyness

[Chr1st0ph3rG901]

Hell yes.
Being a shy guy myself, there's a million times I wish a girl that I liked would've messaged or called me first.
I missed a lot of opportunities and I regret it.

[ImJustSomeGuyLol]

Just text him, the worst he'll say is he's taken. If he's not, I'm sure he'd go on a date with you, unless he fumbles it.
Truth is, women have a much higher success rate when shooting their shot 😂