Why do people say that sex has gotten eaiser but most men are having less sex than ever before?

[poneglyphs]

Does the problem concide with lack of experience, entertainment, dating apps, and maybe the increase of social anxiety or depression?

Is there anyway to fix this? Is it bad that less people are having sex? What future problems can arise from this?

[shaysh87]

You fail to realize that increasing number of people are choosing to stay single and never marry nowadays. Marriage is on its decline. There are more single 35 yr old men walking around than ever before in history of mankind. When you're not married, its hard to get sex.

Increasing number of people are single because people are no longer as social as they used to be. People rather stay home, watch netflix, surf the net, play video games than to interact with their neighbors / community. This is why so many people are single.

Secondly, our standards for marriage has gone up.
50 years ago, marriage was not about romance. It was about stability and having a family and being there for each other and growing old together. Nowadays, marriage is only about feelings, passion, emotions, or the "soulmate" which may be very fickle and hard to find. We also do not need marriage as much as 50 years ago. Women have the ability to work and have no incentive to stay with a man who no longer makes her happy.

[MikeInHawaii]

From what my married friends tell me, it’s often more difficult to get sex after marriage.

[shaysh87]

@MikeInHawaii

not really. married people have more sex than single people. but you also need to understand that as people get older, they tend to have lower sex drives. it could be what is happening. Men at 50 tend to have higher sex drives than 50 yr old women.

[Jamie05rhs]

"Increasing number of people are single because people are no longer as social as they used to be. People rather stay home, watch netflix, surf the net, play video games than to interact with their neighbors / community. This is why so many people are single."

@shaysh87 Egg and chicken. These people could be social but they still wouldn't know how to attract the opposite sex. That's just the harsh reality.

[Jamie05rhs]

Also,
"Secondly, our standards for marriage has gone up."
THIS part is true.

But THIS...
"50 years ago, marriage was not about romance. It was about stability and having a family and being there for each other and growing old together. Nowadays, marriage is only about feelings, passion, emotions, or the "soulmate" which may be very fickle and hard to find."
... is completely opposite of the case.

[Jamie05rhs]

There is MUCH more emphasis on practical matters now than there is on romance.
(Whether that is good or bad.)

[LazerBean]

Because marriage rates have dramatically fallen, while divorce and separation rates have increased. Married people tend to get consistent sex, while most of the the unmarried go through spurts of sexually active phases. Also the age at which people marry is become higher and higher, which adds to the number.

[MikeInHawaii]

One pundit said we are raising a generation of socially inept masturbators. Compared to previous generations, young people today drink less, use illicit drugs less, watch less television and are less sexually active. The teen pregnancy rate is at historic lows. But, they spend more time than ever playing video games.

If morals were improving, that would be a good thing, if people are just too socially inept to interact with each other, that would be good things happening for the wrong reasons.

Another stated that most college age adults today have had sex with more people than they have gone out on dates with. They didn’t call it “the hook-up culture” forty years ago, but the same was probably true when I was in college.

[poneglyphs]

Hmm cool. Well for me I just went to college and didn't really experience any of that culture. Just being with great friends but no relationships 😕

[Effably]

This is such a difficult question to answer concise. Dating apps don't really help as they make it easier primarily for the groups already doing well, the general mental and fiscal health issues are an issue.

While social events are more frequent they are less imposed and so isolation is more present than ever.

But also? Increased honesty and belief in anonymous reporting. It being more okay to not have experience.

Sex has gotten easier. If you were already doing well.

[poneglyphs]

Yeah, I tried dating apps for years and haven't really gotten any results just one date. Most of the time I just get ghosted or I plan dates and it nevers go through. But "Sex has gotten easier. If you were already doing well." You're totally correct on that statement

[Effably]

Some flavour, personality and an early attempt at humour easily gets you ahead online though. The bar for interesting is quite low.

[poneglyphs]

Really well that has never worked for me

[Effably]

It has never not worked for me! Including when I was a shy boy with no pictures!

I am a little bit curious to try borrowing someone's profile now and seeing how much was dumb luck.

[poneglyphs]

Oh, I still feel like I'm still that shy boy in highschool 😳. It's hard for me to get any dates let alone a girlfriend 😔

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

Maybe because more men are expecting sex without committing to a relationship.
And while there's some women okay with hook ups/casual sex, there's probably more that aren't

[RealMarek]

The abandonment of monogamy is a huge factor, because if a large number of people do not expect monogamy a lot of women will effectively share a relatively small number of attractive men. Increased gender confusion among young women is also a factor. No doubt record low testosterone levels, rampant porn addiction, and generally unhealthy behavior of young men is a factor. Finally, deteriorating levels of social trust, scarcity of jobs that can support a family, and the demand that people be mobile contribute to the problem. All of this is driven by the ideology and greed of our elites. Clear them out!

[RealMarek]

I forgot to speculate about why people say it is easier to get sex than ever. I think it comes down to the power of the internet in the form of hookup sites. For highly attractive men and a larger number of women, this technology makes it easier than ever to have casual sex. In reality though, it is getting more difficult for most people.

[ArtemisSilver]

It's because women have accepted to an extremely broad sexual marketplace where they like to chase the top 20% of men as determined by looks. Additionally the advancement of third wave feminism has devalued men to the point where many are paid no attention at all by women.

Men are also taught not to approach women now. It's kind of bizarre.

[poneglyphs]

You do have some points to that

[ArtemisSilver]

Have access to*

[GnarCute]

save up money, buy a very high end sex doll and you literally have a girl you can fuck any time you want that won't nag you, hurt your feelings or require constant money.
its expensive at first but its a 1 time payment (unless you use a payment plan to get one)

they require no food, they can't cheat, they can't steal from you, they don't have to pay taxes, they don't increase the taxes of your life, they also only need to be in 1 room so you get a lot more freedom.

[Jamie05rhs]

Sex dolls don't provide intimacy.
They're useless, in my opinion.

[Lionman95]

Because women have become pickier hence they have more options than before. Another reason is the difference between theory and practice, in theory the options to have sex have increased but the amount of guys having sex doesn't.
I don't see a bad thing in that because I think everything sexual is overrated online.

[WindAtMyBack]

Maybe they are sitting in front of their computers, phones and consoles instead of getting out in the real world.

[poneglyphs]

True I do that a lot when I go hime or if not just sleep

[WindAtMyBack]

I do it too. But I'm retired and have lots of time on my hands.

When my parents died I bought the house where I grew up. When I was a kid we were all over the place. There are still a lot of kids on the street but it's VERY different than when I grew up. I know there are kids but I very rarely see them. Like where the heck are they? They sure aren't outside like we always were.

When they get older into their teens and early adulthood, it's not much different. They are cooped up inside instead of being out doing things. It's the same neighborhood where I grew up. The difference is like night and day.

[poneglyphs]

Well, my parents always wanted me to be inside than outside and I played games or watched movies. So, I don't know how to be outside at all 😐😐😐

[WindAtMyBack]

That's pretty sad that you had abusive parents. Were they convicted of child abuse and thrown in prison?

(I'm only being partly sarcastic.)

[Avicenna]

It’s easier to get a hookup than ever, but much harder to find a genuine relationship.

[poneglyphs]

Really in my personal experience it's harder fornme to find a date or a hookup? Most people just ghost me in my life 🥺

[Avicenna]

There could be lots of explanations for that. If it’s just sex you Want, I’m sure there’s plenty of women in their 50s or 50s who’d love to oblige.

[poneglyphs]

Hmm true, I just want a connection with someone 😕

[Sonorous]

Yup. That tends to happen when women's standards go up. And the internet has exponentially aided in increasing them. So now, many don't settle like they did before the internet. Due to the internet increasing their value.

[KlinkyCoder]

Yeah, but to be fair I think us men will no longer settle either if given the opportunity.

[Sonorous]

True. Many nowadays don't as much as they would have without the internet. It's partly why you see even a rise in people that claim to be "incel." But men settle when it comes to sex way more than women. A man would easily sleep with a woman he wouldn't date. But with women, that's less common.

And the fact that men's horniness allows women to be the "gatekeepers of sex" (and often dating) means that the population will be at the mercy of women's preferences. I say this because women's sexual value is only high because of how men treat them. The simpage is just immeasurable.

[KlinkyCoder]

How could you even stop men from "simping"? Isn't liking the opposite sex a natural behavior?

[Sonorous]

Yeah, I agree. Liking the opposite sex is natural. But there's a way to do that without simping. And the definition of simping that I'm going based on is the one that goes like:

"A man who gives a girl attention & resources despite the fact that she doesn't want to be in a relationship with him."

Which isn't bad in & of itself. Like there are legit reasons why people simp & why women's value is higher because of it. I only believe its negative effects are being felt. And it's causing an imbalance that wasn't previously there.

[Jamie05rhs]

Bro, I think one of the main reasons you're not having sex is because you're too desperate. But that's just my opinion.

[Jamie05rhs]

I'm sorry; that probably wasn't helpful. I apologize, man.

[poneglyphs]

A co worker of mine told me I wasn't desperate enough 😅😅😅

[Jamie05rhs]

@poneglyphs LOL! I guess you just can't win!! 😂😂

[Anonymous]

Casual sex is more accepted in society than previous generations but its only a minority of men who gets most of the sex while women reject most of the male population to open their legs for the minority. That's why there's so many male virgins, they all get rejected.

[WhiteBoyChill]

Truer words have never been spoken. The elite hierarchy of men is hard to overcome

[RobEurope]

I dont see why i should be having sex? Its not like i have to breathe or sleep. Why is this even a goal?

[poneglyphs]

Because we as guys we are more horny

[RobEurope]

Horniness is a feminine trait.

[poneglyphs]

So, am I a women?

[RobEurope]

Yeah.

[FilmGuy93]

I think people say that because of how they hear others talk about sex.

[exitseven]

I don;t think kids are really all that interested anymore. They are not getting their drivers licenses the day after they turn 16 anymore, who knows what else they are not interested in anymore.

[PolarDip]

They forgot to specify that sex has gotten easier FOR HOT PEOPLE

[WhiteBoyChill]

Its only gotten easier for women cuz they’re judged less than they were in the past

[MikeInHawaii]

I think they use attractive young women for these studies, but research has shown when women walk up to a man, don’t even introduce themselves or make small talk, and just ask for sex, 70-75% say “yes.” How much easier could it get for them?

[WhiteBoyChill]

@MikeInHawaii They definitely have it pretty easy. That’s for sure

[bamesjond0069]

Im having way more sex easier than ever. Some guys are doing great fyi

[poneglyphs]

Oh, really. How are you mostly getting laid or do you have a girlfriend?

[bamesjond0069]

I have a girlfriend and a friends with benefits. I also do pretty well on apps for hookups. I had sex with 3 girls last week and went on 2 dates that didn't turn to sex but plan to see both again.

[poneglyphs]

Oh, wow that's cool. I been on 5 first dates and they don't go to a second 😣 I have no hookups or fwbs

[bamesjond0069]

Sounds like you're good at the initial attractions and asking girls out. Just not good at actually being on the date.

[Anonymous]

Women put out a lot easier than older times, but only put out to the top 1% of men.

[Jamie05rhs]

Mostly true. Except that half of those guys are not top quality. They're just enticing. (For example, gang members and drug dealers.)

[Opinion Owner]

@Jamie05rhs Yeah, Females don’t care if a guy is a thug trash drug dealer or gang member. They chase assholes and “badboys” until they hit the wall at 30.

When I say top 1%, I mean in physical appearance only.

[Jamie05rhs]

True! Agreed.

[Anonymous]

It's maybe people looking things through beer-glasses

[Fuentes]

I have no issue in this dept

[poneglyphs]

Damn lucky

[Anonymous]

The stats are bs

[poneglyphs]

Oh really why do you think it's bs?

[Opinion Owner]

Because samples can be biased. Say, you wanna do research on college people with age group 19-22 — you can only collect samples from those students that are interested in becoming a part of your studies. How's that accurate?

[MikeInHawaii]

Some stats are definitely BS. Not only do people choose not to participate, but those who do, lie. It is illegal to lie on US Census questions. One year, one question was “How many bathrooms does your house have?” When checking building permits, it was discovered that a significant number of people lied on that fairly innocuous question.

When asking about sensitive topics like drinking, drug use and sexuality, people lie their asses off. Based on the amount of drinking people claim to do, alcohol sales should be one third what they actually are. Men claim to have three times as much sex as women. (Think about that.)

Pregnancy rates, abortions, rates of STDs, DUI accidents and overdoses can be objectively measured, though.