My girlfriend (18 ) just told me (18 ) she wants to be friends after a year of a very chaotic relationship. What should I do?

[rehanQ]

We both had a very inconsistent and chaotic relationship in which I displayed a lot of insecurity and initiated many fights with her. She was also responsible for some fights. I want her back and I want to work on things but she isn't willing. How can I work on my insecurities and also what should I be doing in relation to my girlfriend?

[GurlMaster40]

I would if I were you I would work on just being a good friend for right now. Even if you want her back she might not want you back and you have to learn to respect that. A lot of things in this world require a lot of patience and when it comes to liking someone patience is key. If you guys get into disagreements as friends then try to see her side of it first. Even if you disagree with her, her seeing that you care about her point of view will definitely help strengthen your trust in each other. With the initiating fights, I would say me knowing guys it probably was about jealousy and please do correct me if I am wrong but, 🙂 maybe if you guys do get back together, trust her. Also it sounds like it wasn’t that healthy of a relationship. I would say that maybe get together with some good friends or people from the place you feel the most safe and happy in and hang out with them a few times a week. Try that for a few weeks. If when you are with them you don’t think for one second about her ( unless you think about how ur not thinking about her that kinda defeats the purpose) lol, then maybe that is a good sign to move along with some friends that you know will support you and will help you. If you can’t stop thinking about her, and I’m not just saying remembering the bad, I’m saying if you are remembering those happy moments with her then maybe it’s a sign you might be able to fix things with her. If you feel like 100% it’s the right thing to do to fix things with her then try to fix things with her as friends then after a little bit maybe try to make it a bit more obvious that you want her back. Also after you decide tell her that you want what she wants if you chose to be friends that is. It will tell her that you care about what she wants. I hope this helps! Also tell me the outcome whenever you decide! I would love to know!

[jahaims]

If someone doesn't want you let them go.